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Test results show Chlamydia

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 09:21

Good morning,

We have been ttc for almost two years and have started all the tests etc to try and find out more about why we haven't had a baby. My first dc was conceived without even trying three years ago and so we were a bit disappointed as to why we are struggling.

My gp has just called me to say one of my blood results has shown evidence of a previous chlamydia infection and I'm booked in for swabs next week. I'm absolutely devastated and don't know how I'm going to tell my DH! I've never had any symptoms of an sti so must have had it for years and years. It's been five years since I slept with anyone except my husband and it must have caused some massive damage 😢 he's going to hate me and think I'm disgusting. The gp said not all chlamydia is sexually transmitted but looking online it says it is. I don't know what I'm going to say or do 😬

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RebelRogue · 05/04/2017 17:13

Once again I believe your relationship has bigger issues than chlamydia whenever you contracted it or how.

PinkDaffodil2 · 05/04/2017 17:00

HPV is also sexually transmitted and is only present in people who have caught it by having sex. Chlamidia presents earlier with symptoms sooner, and is slightly less prevalent but both are STIs.

Zoe1983 · 05/04/2017 16:59

Don't want to say too much that will identify me, but I am a health professional in this area and like user... feel the need to comment and calm everyone down who seems intent on jumping the gun and concluding that OP must have caught chlamydia from husband in between last pregnancy.

You are not routinely tested for chlamydia in pregnancy. Only under 25s are offered screening.

The blood test indicates previous infection with an infection that most likely is chlamydia. This test looks for markers in your blood's serum - the markers are the same for pneumonia chlamydia. However only the swab will confirm if it is a) genital chlamydia and b) active.

It is possible you had either pneumococcal chlamydia or genital chlamydia many years ago, that has now cleared up.

It is possible you have genital chlamydia that is still there.

Generally, if genital chlamydia is confirmed then depending on the levels of antibodies in your blood test (over 1 in 64 is considered high) you may be offered a laparoscopy (keyhole camera) to see if your tubes have been affected.

Please bear in mind that for a generation chlamydia was incredibly common - hence the free tests, results by text etc. I have looked after literally thousands of women and anecdotally out of those born after about 1985, a good 1 in 4 have had it ... and they're the ones who were diagnosed. It also is not confined to the promiscuous, feckless, particular socio-economic groups etc. I have seen doctors with it.

Please do not worry at this stage. Deal with one thing at a time. Get the swab and results. Then discuss next steps with your partner.

Good luck xxx

PinkDaffodil2 · 05/04/2017 16:58

If it's just showing in the blood test you could well have had it years and years ago - well before you were with your DH, then cleared it naturally / as a result of other antibiotics. Unless you have reason to believe he's cheated - that's by far the most likely scenario.
STIs happen to people who have unprotected sex, you don't have to have a lot of sex or with a lot of people.
Also if the infection was asymptomatic and you've had a baby since the chance of significant tubal damage is pretty low.

Boooooom · 05/04/2017 16:56

I don't think it is correct information - that every pregnant woman gets screened for STi's...I'm pregnant with DC2 and never been screened because of pregnancy.

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 16:55

Yes but hpv is present in everyone and chlamydia isn't. I've had abnormal smear tests since I was 16 and didn't lose my virginity till 24.

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RebelRogue · 05/04/2017 16:53

Well i had abnormal smear tests linked to HPV, after previously being all clear. Quite commonly, HPV is also considered an STD. My OH's reaction was worry about my health,complete support,take days off work to accompany me to tests and procedures etc. At no point was afraid of his reaction or think he'll hate me forever or kill me or doubt me.

Frogqueen13 · 05/04/2017 16:51

You can get home chlamydia tests. I'm. It sure how long they take

It might help you both get quicker results

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 16:48

@rebelrogue I was pretty traumatised too but I had a baby to distract me whilst he had nightmares! It was the first time he'd seen down there and wasn't pretty!

I also don't think anyone takes the "I have an sti" conversation well and he'll jump to the conclusions I have. I actually associate sti's with people who sleep around and I've never been that sort of person so it's come as a shock.

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RebelRogue · 05/04/2017 16:42

He was traumatised by your birth? He still needs to get over it?
He'll kill you?
He'll hate you forever?
Standing by you and supporting you after a sexual assault is what any decent partner should do,not a badge of honour.
You feel you are dirty? He'll think you are dirty?

Can't you see how none of this is normal or healthy?

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 16:40

@terrylene he's already told me the thought of another traumatic birth scares him to death and he can't go through it again. I've convinced him no two are the same and that I am sure I want to do it again. Pah what's 42 stitches and a torn pelvic nerve when you have a beautiful baby!

He's not dodgy or untrustworthy he's just very private. I'd only met his parents once before falling pg and he was nervous about their reaction so that explains that. He's grown up in a family that don't really discuss relationships and feelings much and the man of the house is the breadwinner and that's all they need to know.

I think I'm panicking over it all and think he'll do the same. I'll wait till Monday and see if they'll call me as soon as the results come in.

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terrylene · 05/04/2017 16:34

I have a DH who is not into talking much- I think he must believe that telepathy works , but sometimes you can't second guess everything so some words just have to be exchanged. Certainly you need to ask him if he is still upset about the last birth as you are willing to do it again.

I think you are worrying too much about the Chlamydia - from what the sti doctor above said above it is only a possibility and probably not the cause of your current problems.

It is always the same when they are testing to find the cause of something - there are several blind alleys and it can get stressful worrying about all the possibilities until you are sure.

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 16:24

@everythingeverywhere1234 how is it dodgy? Because he's not open? He wouldn't have time to cheat as he's at work or home. The only time he goes out is with his dad on a weekend or his friends (that's only a couple of times a year).

The money he earns and stuff is because he thinks it's unimportant. My dad never tells my mum what he earns and DH only knows mine because it's nationally published. Also his job is boringness said so he doesn't really talk about it.

He's lovely and a brilliant dad. He stood by me without question when my DB said our baby wasn't his (my brother is a dong) and stuck by me when I was on court after my sexual assault.

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 16:18

I'm not naive or stupid. It's just the way he is. His family think it's hilarious how closed he is even with them. He doesn't want to know about my past either so I think he'd rather ignore things like that.

I'm worried about his reaction yes because I think telling anyone you have an sti is pretty scary. He's going to think I've cheated on him and think I'm dirty! I think I'm dirty! The fact I've only just found out about this but have had it for years means I feel bad because I could have given it to my 2yo when pregnant and I'll have certainly given it to DH.

As only having sex ttc I think with a toddler around it's sometimes hard to find the time and energy. He was also traumatised by my last birth so part of him doesn't want to do it again I expect. He's still coming to terms with it and needs a lot of help processing it.

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EverythingEverywhere1234 · 05/04/2017 15:21

Your relationship couldn't sound dodgier if you tried.

terrylene · 05/04/2017 15:05

I don't think anything can be inferred until you have had a swab done and tested. As user said, the antibodies could be from years ago, or an non-sti (I think there is a form of chlamydia skin infection you get from dirty Jacuzzis) and that would be unlikely to be the cause of your current fertility problems if you had no trouble before.

But it would do you both good to talk to each other a bit, so maybe this could be an awkward start ....?

GuinessPunch · 05/04/2017 14:58

He doesn't sound trustworthy. He sounds dodgy as hell and you sound naive.
If you tell him what is the betting he will deny all knowledge and beat you over the head with it.

RebelRogue · 05/04/2017 14:56

Uhm...i would say there are bigger problems in the relationship than your potential chlamydia. The secrecy,lack of sex unless trying for a baby,your absolute fear and worry about his reaction when he finds out etc. STI or not,this does not sound healthy at all.

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 14:54

@patriciathestripper1 I haven't actually taken antibiotics in years so it might have been before him it was treated and gone. I guess the tests on Monday will give us answers.

I still feel disgusted with myself but can't do anything till I know for sure. If it's positive though he'll kill me!

It's not new him being secretive. He doesn't tell anyone anything. I was 26weeks pg before he told his parents about the baby!

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Patriciathestripper1 · 05/04/2017 14:49

Hedding to.

Patriciathestripper1 · 05/04/2017 14:47

So sorry but user has confused me and it's not hard but if you had chlyamidia at some stage (since being with your husband) as an sti, but it cleared with antibiotics you may have taken for something else then surly your husband would still have it and have passed it back to you if he hadn't been treated either?

And sorry op but you sound way too trusting. Who lives with a man they know absolutely nothing about? If you know so little about him and his past he could well have infected you. You are either being nieve or stupid. I'd be hedging yo the sti clinic and getting answers now.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 05/04/2017 13:26

You are very trustworthy of such a closed book op!!

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babymilkmama · 05/04/2017 13:21

He's a really good boy and wouldn't cheat. Plus he comes home straight from work and only ever goes out to play sports or have a drink with his dad! It must have been in me for years.

He's secretive about everything. I don't know what he earns, what relationships he's had, what his job involves. My job is housewife, mother and 9-3 teacher for 38 weeks a year!

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Flowerydems · 05/04/2017 13:09

You do routinely get tested for sti's when you have your first appt with all the bloods etc, but I'd maybe be speaking to your oh.

The fact that he's not interested in sex apart from ttc is alarm bells for me

FritzDonovan · 05/04/2017 13:07

Really hoping it's nothing OP, but am I the only one who finds it odd that DH is 'really secretive about past relationships'?

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