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Egg Donor.... should I or not? what if? grrr

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boysandtoria · 08/03/2007 10:44

Hi

Just wanted to get the view from people, I have after reading several news pleas in our local paper for egg donors, I called and a lovely lady asked me a few questions. I have now had a letter with all sorts of info in it which when my ds go to bed i will read. I know that if I pass all the tests i should go through with it, my fear is that in 18 years will a young adult approach me and tell me I didnt want them.... now I didnt even think this way till a close friend put the thought into my head.... grrr anyhoo your feelings please. Will let you know when i have read the info.

toria x

OP posts:
boysandtoria · 08/03/2007 11:02

Thanks for your honest view, just wanted to know others views, before i make my own choice.

Thanks again

toria x

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expatinscotland · 08/03/2007 10:57

Sorry, but I couldn't do this personally.

The procedure to mature the eggs and harvest them is quite invasive, and the long-term health effects of injecting oneself with all these drugs is unknown.

Not to mention the fact that your biological child will be out there, somewhere, being brought up and you will have no control over how.

I'd keep thinking, 'What if they abused my child? Hurt her? Make her feel bad? Get a divorce and put her through hell? etc.' What if she came out disabled and they felt it was all my fault and treated her accordingly?

I know people will say it's not likely, but it can happen.

And yes, it is not anonymous. And I wouldn't want to hurt someone who tried to find me, who may already have feelings of abandonment, or how would my other children feel, knowing they had a sister or brother out there that I deliberately produced and didn't let them know?

It could rip my family apart. I couldn't do that to them. I have to think about their possible feelings, too.

Nope. Couldn't do this.

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