TTC - First Time! (2)

Update: AF is indeed now here! So my last cycle was 29 days, April was 24, March was 30 and Feb 25 days (wasn't tracking prior to that). I don't think they have been irregular before (not that they are all that irregular now tbh), unless they were pre-Pill and I just didn't notice as wasn't paying attention. They seem to alternate between slightly shorter and slightly longer. Does any of this mean anything ie do I need to care about this? Tbh am already using up way too much brain energy stressing about all things TTC, feel like I can't be arsed adding another thing to worry about!

Awww @ttc you dont definitely know it'll be a BFN!

I am on CD30 today too and think AF will be properly here today. Onwards and upwards!

Wow Misty that photo is stunning! Your dress was beautiful ❤️. I've put loads of weight on since our wedding in September too, so we're all in the same boat . Definitely going to concentrate hard on losing it again over the next few months!

I'm on CD30 today and still no sign of AF . It was due on Saturday/Sunday so about two days late now. Didn't have the chance to test this morning as I was in a rush but I will definitely do it tomorrow if AF still stays away. I'm going to apologise in advance to Misty for saying this () but I just know it will be BFN so I haven't been eager to re-test!

@Misty mine just goes on and on about how boooorrriing it is, dances about in front of the telly too I usually only watch it while he is out tbh!

Yes Harry is a nob but i would totally have fancied him if I were a youngster. Used to love that whole arrogant bad boy thing....Eventually saw sense though! I have tonight's episode to watch (was catching up this eve on previous one) and as DP is out tomorrow eve I am already looking forward to it (sad or wot ). I like Olivia and can't stand that Mimi chick.

Feeling pretty crampy now so reckon AF will be here properly tomorrow. Is it wrong that I am already not looking forward to FW? I just get so stressed out by it....

Hubs plays on his phone the whole time it's on and insists on showing me stupid snap chat filters right when there's an argument or something (ps how much of a knob is harry barren!!!😡😡 Ella is absolutely stupid though) but he craves attention too coz he just walked past me with his jeans round his butt 😂😂🤣

Snap @Misty I am watching MIC too! DP hates it and is trying to get my attention.....and failing

It was very flattering... hid a multitude of sins and was pulled so tight I could barely breathe. Plus I was so stressed I lived on coffee and fags practically alone for the last fortnight before... needless to say I do NOT look like this any more!!
I'm sat here watching made in Chelsea looking down at a pouch that could easy be a 20 week bump but is in fact full of Burger King.
Need to get back to the gym and start really being careful about what I'm putting in my mouth, I'm not exaggerating, I have put on so much weight and more than looks, it's so unhealthy for ttc 😭xx

Wow @Misty that pic is amazing! You look great!

Aw Misty! 😍😍
I'm only 4ft 11 so don't think I'll suit that sort of dress, and I'll work damn hard to get into one so I want a "figure hugging" (basically I've worked my arse off for the curves so I'm bloody well showing them off dress!)
Hahahaha @pibbee waffling/waddling they both work!!
I worked in a 4* hotel as a wedding planner so I can't wait to be the bride on the other side of it 😬😬
Some days being a grown up is so hard but other days it's so fun!! Lol xx

@emma I cracked up at "waffling down the aisle"! Comedy images of a giant potato waffle in a wedding dress.....

@MistyBxx I never thought I'd be someone who revelled in her wedding day, but OMG it was magical! Ours wasn't a plush do. It was in a quirky, 3 star hotel where all the furniture is from India. I absolutely loved everything, and my dress was 50s vintage style. It honestly is the best day ever!

As for TTC, my period dried up, but today I've had some heavy-ish brown spotting. Lovely! DTD will have to wait, as I'm really not keen on DTD when there is blood (or anything resembling it!) down there. Lol!

**waddling down the aisle! I hate autocorrect 😤😠

I will most definitely be sticking around here, everyone is so great!
And I'll certainly keep you all updated for when he does pop that all important question!! 😬
@pibbee that's one of the reasons we're holding off as I don't want to book a wedding the find out I'll be 9m PG, waffling down the aisle ready to pop 🙈😂 as @misty said I want to celebrate properly (and selfishly!)
Plus we want to have a stack of savings behind us so that I can take as much time off as possible 😊
@ttc yes luteal phases can vary so don't worry!

Hey girlies, I'm gonna try and reply but we are all such chatterboxes this thread flies 😂

pibbee and emma I am wedding obsessed lol 😂 please keep us posted on your wedding planning! I'm a wedding blogger too, so if you have any questions about that, I'm here! I got married September last year and it was the best day of my life! I still look at pics and videos and cry 😭
I absolutely did NOT want to be pg before my wedding 😂 mostly coz I wanted to party with plenty of champers lol but also coz I wanted to enjoy the day and not be worrying about a baby running around or crying! Maybe selfish, but hey, it's your wedding, let it allllll be about you! Plus believe me, as it gets closer, emotions will definitely get the better of you! Pregnancy on top of that... I dread to think. Mind you, I was a bridezilla with only perfection on my mind, poor hubby still says our wedding was more about the wedding than our marriage. And he's not wrong 🙈 I wanted the whole shebang, limos, sparkle, a massive dress... it was like a fairytale! I'm publishing a new wedding blog soon (I said this months ago but it's nearly done!) so I will send you the link on here to check it out. Although my anonymity will be gone so I'm a bit scared haha you girls know more about my vaginal action than most people lol.

I'm on cd3 and period is easing off. As the first post mc af I thought it would be worse but it's not. I just hope my cycle settles properly as I was so regular before. But tbh I want to be pg before next af so I'd be happy not to have another one! But we shall see!

Hope you're all feeling better and a little more positive. Those who are chilling out on the whole ttc obsession... I get it! I was totally gonna go for the no opk for me this month approach! BUT I just want to try them for this month coz I want to see if I'm defo ovulating again after what's happened. Thats my excuse haha I just love peeing on sticks lol. Gonna start from cd10 and see how it goes 😳

Feeling hopeful for us all xx

Also - might be just me but does anyone else get cycle days mixed up with days of the month!? For example, I usually ovulate around cd15 and I was just pondering my June dates (as think am out for May due to being away) and was thinking I would ovulate around June 15th which is totally wrong! Ha

@charl no this is pretty normal for me. If not I'd be getting excited about it but yeah I tend to have random spotting a few days before AF. In fact, recently I have had a couple of cycles with no spotting, which is unusual for me! They have been the random 25/26 day cycles whereas I always used to be bang on 28 days...

Aw thanks guys- defo will be sticking around!!! Love this thread is so friendly.. been awol for ages but still reading!!

Ooo fingers crossed emma! You'll have to let us know, that sounds exciting for you!!

Pibbee could that be a pg sign the spotting or is that just a common thing for you? Fx otherwise!!

Thanks ttc and twisted xxx

Where is everyone else at in their cycles? So hard to keep up! Xx

Hello all!

@ttcnovice apparently LP can vary. Mine does - seems to be between 10 and 14 days. When was/is AF due?

@emma and @charl yes please do stick around! Me and DP have done very little (i.e. zero) wedding planning so far. We only want a small one too. If he could get married next weekend he would, which is very sweet but I do want some sort of celebration with family and friends - and that takes organising! Also, if I were to end up pg then that would impact things too, so we are kind of in limbo to a certain extent, held back by a currently non-existent baby! Ha!

@Twisted I want to start going to gym classes too. I used to all the time at my old gym but joined a new one end of last year and have The Fear of going to classes there for NO apparent reason...I go and just do my own thing but really need to go to some classes too, to mix it up a bit....

As for me, my AF has disappeared - I tend to have random spotting a few days before it rocks up, and that's what's happening this time. So I don't think my new cycle has started yet, as CD1 is the first day of proper AF apparently. So I am currently on CD28.

Morning everyone

My AF still isn't here, so unless my luteal phase has lengthened by two days (which according to Google this isn't possible?) then I didn't ovulate when I thought. Not getting my hopes up again as I was so down on Saturday after getting a BFN, but if AF doesn't show up by tomorrow I'll test again. If I did ovulate later than I thought then it may have been too early for anything to show up on Saturday - fx but I'm being relaxed about it mixed in with a little bit of Misty's law of attraction positivity . Will keep you all updated .

charl sorry AF got you it sounds like you're making the right decision for yourselves, but I bet it was such a hard one to make! August/September will be here before you know it though! Please do stick around anyway, we can count down the months until you're trying again x

emma that's exciting about your engagement/wedding plans! Keep us updated when your DP does pop the question! Like for charl I'm sure these next few months will fly by and then you'll be back to trying!

Twisted I'm going to take a similar approach to you next cycle, focus on being healthier and shifting some pounds, plus I'm stepping away from the OPKs! I'm hoping that will lessen the stress and keep me positive! Here's hoping

Sorry to all who were caught by AF, she's such a b*tch at times! 😤😠

So much to consider, it can all be so daunting!!
Although the prognosis from the doctor wasn't great and we thought we would want to try straight away we've decided to wait until end of this / early next year once we're close to a wedding or already married (although I'm still waiting for the question to be asked but he went shopping whilst I was at work yesterday and is being really sheepish about it so I think he may have bought the ring!! 😬) and we've also decided on a small intimate ceremony and just a big informal CHEAP (that's the main thing!) party somewhere to celebrate with extended family and friends 😊
So in the mean time I'm going to throw myself into work and overtime to earn some extra money for everything (why does everything have to cost so much?!)
I would like to stay on this thread though as you're all a lovely bunch of ladies! Will pop in and out when I can xxx

Charl it sounds like a good idea but I can understand why you feel gutted! DH and I have agreed to cut back the pressure a little. I'm focusing on getting in the gym and doing 2 classes a week. Hoping it will stop me obsessing over ttc & help the process along!!

Nope I got af today too😒 sorry have been awol for a while!!

Me and DH have been a bit up and down with whether we should wait a bit longer to try.. I got a permanent job in April where I was already, but this contract says that I have to be there a year to get any sort of maternity pay other than SMP. We've decided to hold off until august/September which isn't really too far away but am quite gutted as we are so keen for a family!! Keep going really up and down! We only decided last week so we had been dtd (not very much this time) so bit gutted yesterday had bfn and af showed up today😕 in the pub having a pint now!! Haha!!

Hope everyone else ok?

Hope you don't mind if I still stick around xx

Sorry to everyone who got AF!! Anyone still waiting?!

Hi Pibbee

Thank you for replying, my cycles use to be "normal" it's only been the last few months they seem to have changed and got longer for some reason, I'm still doing the opk have had my 5th day of flashing smileys I'm ready to throw it out the window now lol.
Sorry to hear your af arrived