TTC - First Time! (2)

Thanks pibbee xx been out with the family today for Mother's Day and had a lil chat with my sis (who's had 3 mc, one with no bleeding/cramping, empty sac) and I'm going to see her again in the week for a proper chat coz everyone was around us today. She will be such an amazing support for me and we're very close. I am lucky to have a close and incredibly loving family and they will hold me up when I want to collapse 🌺 thanks for your kind wishes. I need to put the mob down, stop calling on doctor Google and crying myself to sleep over what I'm searching and finding 🙈 and just accept whatever life throws at me. I'm a woman, I'm built for this shizzle. Hope you've all had a nice weekend and fingers crossed some bfps start popping up soon!! Who's next to test??xx

Awwww Misty i can only imagine the amount of stress you must be going through! I really really hope you have just got the dates wrong. The wait till the next scan must be horrible. Am thinking of you. Try to think positive, but even if the worst happens, you definitely have the right attitude - you know you can do it and you will again if it comes to it

IN a couple of weeks not FOR a couple of weeks lol x

Thank you passmethewine I know exactly what you mean, the wait is awful! I'm sitting here drinking my decaf thinking what the hell is going on. What a bloody rough ride. It's so ironic because I never win anything lol I'm always "average" I mean like if there's a small percentage or small chance of anything (raffles, scratchcards, you know, anything where the majority don't win but some do...) I'm never in the small percentage 😳 I know the chance of mc is high for the first 12 weeks but not exceptionally high, only 20% which leaves a massive 80% which I could be in... so why oh why when I'm in the minority does it have to be this?? Im not saying I definitely have, or am having one, but it's not looking good and you're right, there literally is nothing I can do. I'm off work now on the sick til after the next scan, I can't bear going back to work feeling like this, I won't get anything done and my job is quite emotionally draining anyway and I don't feel I can mentally deal with it right now. Luckily their sickness policy with female/maternity/antenatal things is really good and very sensitive so I'll be ok in that respect. And hard as it is to say, if the worst comes to the worst, I will be ok whatever the outcome. I will have to be ok, for my husband as well as myself. And we CAN try again, and I CAN get pregnant 🌺 so just a little heads up, I may be back on this board properly for a couple of weeks. I won't give up. Thanks for your support xx

Omg Misty! You poor love with that GP appointment! I'm a teacher, and I'm of the firm belief that if you're in a job which involves working with people, being nice and understanding is really important! Grr. I'm lucky my GP is so lovely.
As passmethewine says, it's just a horrible waiting game. I really hope you have a positive outcome, and you know we are always here to support you!
Thank you so much for the period information! I'm going on a residential school trip with 60 nine and ten year olds next Monday. Sod's law mine will arrive then! Lol.

Hi Misty I really feel for you. My sister has very sadly just gone through a miscarriage and the two weeks of waiting between the first scan where things weren't quite right and the follow up scan were just agony for her. There is really nothing anybody can say that is going to help you, and there is nothing you can do now which is going to change the outcome either way so unfortunately it's just a horrible waiting game. At this stage I would say just try and remain relaxed and positive, there are so many unknowns at this early point that it's entirely possible the dates are just slightly out and when you go for the next scan things will be clearer. I really have my fingers crossed for you hun xx

Bless you flatwhite 💕 I've already been to docs who were really dismissive and quite rude tbh, she was like "if you're not bleeding there's unlikely to be anything wrong" and I was politely (trying) to explain my concerns and she was like "what's the point in finding out now anyway? There's absolutely nothing you can do about it so you may as well forget it and wait for your 12 week scan" HA cheers like!🙌🏼 insensitive cow lol. I can't decide whether I should actually just put the phone down and bite the bullet for the next 8 days or try to convince myself one way or the other! Jeeeez!! Hope you're ok chick, I'm always checking in to see how you lovelies are doing! Lots of newbies and hopefully lots of bfps coming up!
When I came off the pill, I had a normal bleed two days after I took my last pill like I did every month in the gap, then I had another what I thought normal period 31 days later and I was like oh that's quite a nice length cycle if this keeps up... then the next one was 39 days! Threw me right off! It can be hard settling down a bit but you will defo get there :) xx

Hi Misty, unfortunately I have zero experience with knowing when I'm ovulating etc as I still haven't had my first proper period since stopping the pill (stopped just over 3 weeks ago). However, I didn't want to read and run. I'm not at all surprised you're feeling anxious. Is there any chance of you being able to book a GP appointment to talk things through?

Hi girlies, I need some advice. Cut a long story short but I had a private scan Friday and it wasn't great. They saw a sac but no foetus or heartbeat. I was 7 weeks on the dot so it's not looking good. I don't want to mention what could be happening but I'm sure you all know. The only chance I've got is if I miscalculated my dates or somehow ovulated later than I thought and caught on the sex we had in the week after when my fw was supposed to be, which is unlikely coz obviously as we all know, we watch our dates like clockwork. I've been tearing my hair out and going through all the emotions and I'm driving myself mad so I've come back to the drawing board... I'm sorry to be annoying, I know you guys are ttc so prob think why am I posting here but I have to look back to where it all began 😳
So I've read through all my old posts and found these... I've mentioned that I was shocked that it was coming up as 2-3 weeks as I didn't think I was that far ahead when I tested at just 2 days late. I've also said in a couple of posts that I didn't have a positive opk on the day I thought I ovulated (or anywhere in the month at all) just squinters so I'm desperately thinking/hoping in some crazy clutching at straws way that I may have ovulated later than I thought...? Meaning that I may not be as many weeks as I thought... meaning there's a chance my little seed was just too small to be seen and will show up in my next scan (in 8 long days time)
I'm so sorry to go on, any advice would be hugely appreciated, anyone who has ovulated later than they thought...? Or had any weirdly long cycles after being so like clockwork? Or even caught (previously) later than they thought they ovulated? I know I'm probably totally clutching at straws but as you can see by the time of night I'm posting this, it's all I can think about and I'm losing my mind xx

Best of luck mamaready! Ttcnovice, oh no! Hormones?! I was a grade A b**ch a couple of weeks ago! I was just SO moody. I haven't had a mood swing like that since before I went on the pill age 19. I think it was just crazy coming off the pill hormones. How are things with your hubby now?
I'm getting better in the UTI department (thank god, weeing was agony!), but can now feel a sore throat coming on. Great!

So we have tried all week, which is days 13-17...

I have used clear blue digital ovulation sticks (purple) - and only had flashing high fertility happy faces from day 14-17 but no peak fertility face... is this a worry?

Hi Forevertimes welcome

I'm feeling a bit guilty tonight! DH came home with a bunch of flowers for me and unfortunately hadn't noticed they were a Mother's Day bunch with "Happy Mother's Day" on the wrapping. I burst into tears when I saw it and had quite a big rant at him for being so insensitive. He then felt terrible and couldn't apologise enough, but it was a case of the damage was done! Anyway now I've calmed down I feel awful, especially since he got me them to cheer me up about the spotting/no "peak" on the OPKs . I don't think he'll be in a rush to buy me flowers again for a while!

Thanks Jellybean that's a great help!!!

Is everyone using ovulation sticks to find out the best time ?

Yeah TTCNovice I can see myself getting all kinds of wound up with these damn sticks! I think it might be sensible to try to avoid if it's doing your head in. I am going to be using them this cycle though, mostly cos I haven't really used them before so might as well give it a go, but also (and this is a bit annoying) me and DP are so busy with work at the moment that it's exhausting even trying to fit DTD in! So if I can get an idea if when are the crucial days so to speak, then can focus on at least DOING IT then. Theoretically, I wanna be doing the 'every 2 or 3 days' thing, but that's just not working out due to lack of time/being tired! Pfffffffff

Jelly your symptoms sound so positive! Really holding out hope for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼. I had to laugh at you being so upset at the McDonald's, I would be exactly the same it's my biggest vice . I think you could be right and it might possibly be the stress of TTC, it's been getting to me more and more the last few weeks. Think I might take a step back from OPKs next cycle and see how I get on.

Pibbee I don't think so unfortunately . I've been doing OPKs since CD8 so I would have had to have ovulated super early for it to be implantation. Just looks like yet another confusing thing to add to the TTC strange-ness list!

@flatwhite glad the doc could identify the issue and that it's being fixed! How are you feeling now?

@ttcnovice 11 days early does seem pretty early. Any chance it could be implantation bleeding?

i have nothing exciting to update on. Peed on a stick this morning and got the circle (i.e. no smily at all) which I was fully expecting at this stage.

Welcome Forevertimes!!!
I know what you mean the acronyms are so confusing, I still don't get confused sometimes but there are the ones I know (or think I do lol):
DTD: doing the deed or doing the dirty
BD: baby dance (sex)
BFP: big fat positive
BFN: big fat negative
AF: Aunt Flo, period
CD: cycle day
DPO: days Post ovulation

Anyone else have any more? Or want to correct me?

Hello Forevertimes! Welcome!

Hi all 😃

I would like to join please. I'm new to mumsnet ( trying to get my head around all the acronyms) and ttc for the first time.

I'm 27 and Currently living in the Middle East (3 hours ahead of you) but originally from the UK.

Me and hubby got married in January and decided to start trying straight away. He is 5 years older and has a beautiful daughter from a previous relationship.

I was on cerazette for 6 years and have heard some horror stories but so far everything seems to have got back to normal ( stopped taking the pill 1 year ago).

I'm on day 9 of my cycle and tried last night... Not sure how likely success is as seen as I have no idea about ovulation days.

Anyway, sorry for the babbling. Hello!

FlatWhite that's so annoying!! UTIs are actually horrid especially when they spread. Get well soon x

Mesjkerry and twistedsister7 everyone keeps telling me to test, family members actually told me I look drained and am I sure I'm not pregnant? Yesterday I threw up at work as someone was having McDonald's in the office, it made me sad because I LOVE McDonald's I'm on CD21 now, going to way until CD28. I still don't have AF cramps or the usual backache. I had a backache last night and today but it's different, it's more like lower back on the sides and feels like pressure. I just don't want to get my hopes up tbh.

Ttcnovice thats so irritating. Do you think maybe stress over TTC might be changing your cycle?? X

Glad you found out the problem flat get better soon!

So I think I might be out 11 days early . Had spotting since Tuesday and then late last night and today it's gotten heavier (I'd say it's the flow of a "light" AF) - could AF be here 11 days early?! I don't think I've even ovulated, I've had 8 days of "high" on OPKs now with no signs of a "peak" (again ). It's so confusing - I've had years and years of textbook regular 28 day cycles, with nothing unusual at all, then we TTC and - bang! Everything goes haywire! Very strange .

Awww flatwhite fingers crossed for a speedy recovery for you.

Jellybean those could be symptoms so fx for you too.

I still have no OPKs & according to Ovia my fw is done but I still have ewcm!! I seem to get more each cycle which I hope is good.

If no BFP this time (which I doubt due to minimal dtd time) then I am on OPKs next months until I see lines in my sleep!!

Based on Ovia now in tww but I think I may be due to ovulate today/tomorrow due to ewcm & pain in my side.

Hi everyone, got an emergency docs appt and it's a UTI! Got antibiotics. Got a temp too, which indicates that it may have started to spread. No wonder I feel awful! Hopefully I'll be right as rain in a few days. Thanks for all your support ladies. You're such a lovely bunch! Let's hope TTC cycle 2, when it arrives, is a healthier one for me!