TTC - First Time! (2)

I meant a tiny spot of blood, not a ring

@MistyBxx I'm so sorry babe! I really admire your strength and one day you will be a mum and you will be a wonderful mum. Feel free to come on here whenever you want to vent, we are all here for you.

My symptoms are all the same but I had a ring spot of blood when I wiped today and I'm starting to get AF like cramps, so I expect her to show up soon. I do feel sad but I have faith that it will happen one day. When the time is right.

I keep thinking about when I was in school and it was drilled into me that if you had unprotected sex even once you would end up pregnant and now I am at it like a rabbit during my FW and nothing LMAO

Oh no @misty I'm so sorry to hear that you poor thing. Take care of yourself and come back when you are ready xxxx

Misty I'm so, so sorry . I can't even imagine what you must be going through. You sound like such a strong person though, so I'm sure this will only make you even stronger! Please do keep in touch with us all, we'll all be here whenever you need. Take care of yourself xxx

@MistyBxx oh I'm so sorry my lovely. You will be a mummy one day, and an amazing one at that! We are all here for you. I'm going nowhere until I see that BFP one day, whenever that may be. Look after yourself. Xx

Hey girlies, hope you're all doing ok. Some amazing symptoms on here! Looking forward to a few bfps coming up 🌸

Just wanted to let you know that I will be back on this thread sooner than I thought. Unfortunately I'm going through the worst heavy bleeding and cramping I've ever felt. It's pretty horrendous and no amount of wishing or hoping or looking on the bright side can change the fact that it's pretty clear what's happening. I'm absolutely devastated. So i just wanted to pop on here to thank you for your lovely caring words and support and to wish you all the best of luck ttc. It WILL happen girlies, just like I know it WILL happen for me again, when the time is right. I'm going to have to ride this out for now but once it's over I will definitely be back. I'm ready to be a mum and I know you all are too. If you fill this thread up, please make a new one and post the link coz you're all so lovely, I really don't want to lose touch 🌺 speak soon xxx

This is my first cycle trying if that's what you mean?

I've been off both control for some time and just tracking my ovulation by opk sticks but I'm quite irregular. cycle varies month to month between 29-40 days. I have gone for 3 months without a period (had scans and bloods which didn't show anything) so I know what you mean flatwhite31 about worrying about AF coming and then also worrying it won't come and not be pregnant! Because my periods are irregular and I've had heavy periods and I'm in my early 30s I just feel like it's going to take forever so I'm really anxious about it all so it's sorta taking the fun out of it for me.

Apologies for all the typos in the above post! Typing these messages on my phone!

Hi ladies!
@mrsjkerry I hope you have a nice, chilled out two weeks. We finish next Fri, the I'm off on honeymoon with DH on the Sunday! Can't wait!

@jellybean Your symptoms sound very promising! I had nausea on Thursday while driving to work and nearly had to pull over, it it has completely gone now! Fingers crossed for you!

@mamaready Hope the next week doesn't drag for you! Symptom spotting is definitely a 'thing'! I thought I might be pg the other day, as I do have tender boobs now (didn't before) and I had one spell of nausea on that same day, but the nausea has now completely gone! I only stopped the pill 4 weeks ago though, so tender boobs are more likely a sign of my first proper AF. Part of me is worried about AF not arriving, therefore showing I'm not ovulating! Crazy how paranoid I'm becoming! Which cycle are you on @mamaready?

Just read up about the symptom spotting... I'm glad this is a thing! I'm desperately to get painful boobs and nausea! My AF isn't due until next Saturday and this is my first 2WW & it's so difficult waiting! I just want to know!

How soon before AF do symptoms even appear?

Oh and I have the same shooting pain in my breast

@mrsjkerry so sorry to hear you neen in hospital love, hopefully it passes soon. Make sure you take it easy xx

@Coastalchick good luck!!

@Pibbee I think it's a possibility, maybe you ovulated late?

@Flatwhite31 glad you're feeling better, your temperature sounds uncomfortably high, have you tried taking some aspirin? I find sometimes it works better for me.

I still have pretty much the same symptoms, no throwing up luckily but dizzy spells and nausea. Slept on my belly and woke up in horrible pain. My whole abdomen was hurting and my back felt like it got kicked in, went away after about an hour though so that's ok. Today I also got something new: a shooting pain in my belly, starts from my side and ends just above my belly button (about 5 inches in total). It comes and goes but it's like tiny electric shocks, I'll get one every few seconds for a few minutes and then it stops. It's actually quite painful and weird DH came home with pregnancy tests today, but I am trying to hold off until next week.

Hi ladies!

Misty, so sorry you have to do more waiting. I find waiting worse than actually knowing what's going on. I guess it's fear of the unknown. Hope you're holding up ok.

Nice to see you mrsjkerry! Sorry to hear you have had a hospital admission for HG. Are you on Easter break now? We have one week left. Going on a residential trip on Mon! Hoping AF holds off until we're back mid week, as I can't bear the thought of a horrible AF when away with 61 kids!

Hi coastalchick! Good luck getting started. I'm in a very stressful job, but have very supportive colleagues thankfully. Glad you health is better than it was.

Jellybean - hope you're ok. Still getting symptoms?

I'm better from the UTI, but can't get my body temp below 37.5, even with paracetamol. Strange! I don't feel too horrendous though.

@coastalchick wow it sounds like you have been through a lot! In my experience it's definitely a good idea to try and keep most of the project/crazy side of TTC away from DP. Mine seems to love talking about it but then when it comes to getting down to it, if he knows it's a baby making day he kind of ends up under pressure and it doesn't work out! So I'm not telling him anything from now on. Tbh the stupid opk sticks make me go crazy anyway, and sooooo stressed out. None of which is ideal circumstances! So I might from now on just keep a vague idea of when's the best days and just see what we can do.

Me and DP actually DID manage to DTD this morning, totally out of the fertile window (I think....I had the solid smiley on Tues morning so would have ovulated by Thursday max I think. So actually I guess there is a really small chance the egg could still have been alive this morning!? What do you think??) But sod it as had written this cycle off anyway. Onto cycle 4!

Misty I'm sorry you're still having to wait for answers . Can you do something nice over the weekend to distract yourself a bit? Keeping everything crossed for you that the little bit of hope turns into great news xxx

Misty - so sorry to hear of your plight. I have everything crossed for you.x

Have ordered the clearblue dual thingy which has kindly been suggested to me by people here. Plus pre-seed. Though we might not be able to get cracking yet as our house may be falling through - we will know more today. DP doesn't want to start trying until we know we are sorted with house because I don't cope well with stress after being in a very stressful job (hair loss, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, IBS, acid reflux, serious depression) for years (which I quit at start of Jan 2016). I understand where he's coming from but we haven't the luxury of time as I turn 39 in September and though my health is better than it was, am not in best of health.

Excited to start trying but also don't want to treat it too much like a project as think DP will get annoyed, so I guess I'll quietly keep the project part to myself and just let him think he's irresistible!!!!

We've agreed if we can't have kids we will get dogs. Though I know DP definitely wants them (as do I) and will be a great dad, given his nature generally and the way he is with his niece and nephew (who we are looking after tomorrow morning for practice!!). Scared if we can't have them he might leave. He says he won't but it's always at the back of my mind. He's 5 years younger than me and his mum is constantly on at us to have kids.

@mrsjkerry how are you doing?

@Pibbee I don't know how long my cycle is right now. Used to be 28days before BC, then while on BC it was 17-20 days. No idea when I'm due.
@MistyBxx I can definitely feel it more when I'm laying down and in the evenings after work, but I do sit at a desk from 9-6 so maybe that's why I only notice it in the evening. I agree with both you and @mrsjkerry, I don't want to test yet.

GP said to test 4 weeks from my iud removal date (today is 4weeks) but that's because I'm supposed to go back in and get blood tests done if I don't feel better and not pregnant, I don't think I will go back yet as I stopped throwing up and to me that's an improvement. I know DH wants me to test because he gets worried, I have endometriosis and chronic pelvic pain + had 2 ruptured cysts in the last year, so he wants to make sure that regardless of the test result if there is something wrong I don't leave it too late. I have no idea when AF is due either so I can't even tell if she's late or on time lol. I think I will just wait and see if she turns up next week.

Thank you girlies... I really do appreciate it. I'm trying so hard not to Google and search for answers when the only answers are gonna be in Tuesdays scan.
On a different note jellybean I can't help but say your symptoms are sounding positive. One of my main symptoms was the feeling of af but I couldn't describe it as cramps as such but as a tiny muscular feeling in my very low pelvis... it's hard to describe, like I'd notice it when lying on my tummy in bed reading and then turning over to go to sleep I'd be like ooooh I can feel it. Same as when I'd be sat at my desk, then stand up, I'd notice it. I would definitely say hold off on testing though chick, I can't stress that enough 🙈 but I know how hard that is xx

What cycle are you on Jelly? I haven't done any tests yet as I'd rather just wait and see if AF happens! I find that easier than I think I would a BFN. Actually I tell a lie I just remembered I did one NYE, not sure why as we weren't even TTC then, I just wanted to make extra sure as I had drinking plans NYE!

@Misty I'm so sorry you're still in limbo. I agree with the pibbee, stay away from Dr Google he will only confuse you. Please don't loose all hope, still be realistic but remember miracles do happen. And don't worry about venting, we are all here for you so vent all you need xxx

@Pibbee I get what you mean about missing the 2ww, what will you do when you can't symptom spot?! it's good you guys are going away, that always helps with getting in the mood.

As for me, last night I started getting cramps like AF but still nothing. Had a heart to heart with DH as he wants me to test tomorrow (CD28) but I don't know if I have the courage to do it. Those bfns truly break my heart, even though I know it's the way it's meant to be and I accept it, it still hurts. Past 2 days I have been having strange pains in my pelvic area and it feels tender, reminds me of what it feels like after surgery or after I had ruptured cysts. Not painful exactly, just really tender on the inside. I tried to push it to see if it hurts and it doesn't really. The surface hurts if that makes sense. Like the muscular (more like fat) tissue hurts. Appetite has gone through the roof but that always happens when AF comes so I can't really say it's a symptom.

In other news, me and DP have dtd a grand total of ZERO times this fw. Sod it i can't even be arsed getting wound up about that! Am almost slightly gonna miss the 2ww even though it sends me crazy.....Does that sound weird!? So yeah just gonna get cracking next time. We are gonna be away for what I think will be some of fw so that should assist in that regard!

How's everyone else doing ? Anyone testing soon ?