Thread 26. TTC #1 - Calm as a hysterical cucumber

What kwick said - there is a line, you are pregnant. I'm sure it must be so nerve wracking but the odds are in your favour tonks

Sure Carley I've added you on

Why the hell am I watching The Replacement... 🙄 it's annoying me already

tonks I've had two early miscarriages now - first one had zero symptoms of any kind, second one (recent) I had the lot from 7dpo - sore boobs, implantation bleeding and cramps, nausea, nosebleeds. So from my limited experience symptoms this early doesn't mean anything one way or the other! Just relax and enjoy it

tonks the important thing is that you have a line; probs a bit early for any symptoms.

Thanks Kwick. I hope you're doing as well as is possible.

I had a bit of a panic this morning. I took another FRER and the line looks exactly the same as it did on Sunday morning. I was hoping it would have gotten a bit darker. That along with not really having any symptoms has gotten me worried. I do keep telling myself it's early days - AF was only due today.

Fx to any upcoming testers - who have we got coming up?

There seems to be a lot of it going about just now Alexia! Not quite managed to get rid of my cold yet but definitely getting there thankfully!

Sorry AF got you quiet & Gaelach

Jam could you pop me down for the 13th please :) this is turning into a long cycle! So exciting about your new home, bet you can't wait to get things finalised and get in there! Wishing you the best of luck for Thursday too.

Ooh hope your spotting is a good sign kaydee!

Hellllloooooo kwick! 👋 We miss you, hope you're doing as well as can be expected x

Massive hugs kwick!

Congratulations tonks!!!

🤞🏼 for everyone on TWW or in DTD mode

Adding to the pile of hugs kwick, we're here if you need us. Thinking of you lots

Huge hug from me too kwick ❤️🌸🌺

Tonks got her BFP which is fab but we are due a whole crop more. I have high hopes for March.

Kwwwwwick - if I was there I'd give you a mahoosive hug. And don't apologise, take all the time you need. We'll always be here for you when you're ready to come back. Xx

Sorry ladies not up to my usual posting standards. I am finding it all a bit overwhelming. Back to work tomorrow too.
Did I miss loads of BFPs?

Thanks skipper I'm really looking forward to the making it ours bit. We just need to exchange contracts this week then we can actually start realistically planning that bit. DH and I have promised ourselves a glass of champagne in our first evening in our first home we own - before anything gets moved in. So glad that you are feeling calmer and happier in yourself. I really hope it's not much longer at all for you. With any luck we will love be jointing the grads thread together soon!

Thanks kath I hope they offer us it, I don't relish the thought but just want to feel that we are doing something. This week is dragging...

10 DPO today and thought about testing but couldn't be bothered and knew BFN would just put me in a mard to start the day. No one needs that!

Hi secarter - welcome!

Going against the crowd here but I like ovia - it can export all your data to a spreadsheet if you've been tracking for a while and want to get super geeky with it. Maybe clue can do that too though?

I've just had my third day of flashing smiley on clearblue - last cycle only had 2 days then peak. Though haven't had EWCM yet so it makes sense. Glad I didn't force DH to HS last night cos neither of us were really up for it and had HS fri, sat and sun just for fun so were knackered!

Thank you, that's really helpful. I'd downloaded ue so just going to stick with that for the moment.

I actually really like Clue. I like that you can pick a stat and see where it has occurred on previous cycles really really easily. For temping I'd go FF too. Also another Ovia hater.

Secarter, I like Clue but that's because I don't really track anything other than AF and the very occasional OPK. I used it for years before we started TTC so I would remember when AF was due. I did try Ovia for a while but didn't like it and found it encouraged the crazies by over analysing everything. If you're going to temp etc then I think Fertility Friend (is that the name?) is used quite a lot but I'm too lazy to do anything like that!

Thanks Kathrino. Think I'm starting my withdrawal bleed so at least things are getting moving.

Anyone got any tips for apps to start tracking my cycle when it happens? Heard Ovio is good and my friend swears by Clue but am a little bit lost.

Jam, I'd be surprised if they don't offer you HSG/HyCoSy too. My doc said that if we transferred back to the NHS, they'd want to do that in order to confirm the diagnosis of unexplained infertility. In her view, it was a totally unnecessary procedure for me given my incredibly boring cycles but I don't know how much of her advice was influenced by the fact that she knows the reasons why I don't like invasive medical treatment and therefore was trying to protect me from a traumatic (for me) medical experience which would be unlikely to have any real benefit. Good luck with the house exchange too, how exciting!!

Sk1pper, lovely to hear how chilled out you are. An example to us all! I will be keeping everything crossed that you get that BFP before you get to April too.

Welcome secarter. I hope you don't have to wait too long for your cycles to return to normal!

The gynaecologist will just go over the full report from radiology I believe but they told me there and then that the tubes were clear. So I'm sure it won't be a long chat about the results.

I wouldn't be surprised if they do give you some kind of dye flush then, either the HSG or HyCoSy. Just to boost your chances for a couple of cycles. I've heard that sometimes they like young couples to wait two years before beginning IVF, it's a royal pain in the ass but you're right - we've both accepted the troubles and pain now.

Really, really good luck with your new home. Hope it all exchanges without a hitch, it's a nice distraction - albeit a stressful one. Once your in there you can focus on making it your perfect home and that's the fun part.

Thanks jam and kath

Welcome secarter

Skipper I think we will probably end up with IVF ICSI eventually but I doubt they will refer us straight to it. Our GP said his sperm results were not concerning, and two of my doctor mates fertility colleagues said the same thing. Kath had the same response from the specialist with regards to low morphology. They bung you in the unexplained camp and you have to be trying two years for IVF referral.

When you say full results of HSG what do you mean - could there be more they didn't tell you at the time? End of April is not far at all. Infertility really is a life lesson in patience though isn't it.

I know what you mean about feeling calmer. I'm a couple of cycles behind you but I feel like I've reached a place of acceptance that this isn't happening for us. I've kind of forgotten that I expected it to happen quickly and easily. I have my moments when I'm hormonal where I feel like sobbing on the floor / at my desk / on the bus but on the whole it's kind of just become my life now. Never ending TTC!

I'm loving yoga too and enjoying gogglebox return on telly and The Crown. Also massively distracted by our property purchase - should be exchanging this week eek!

Kaydee - brown blood is old blood so don't be worried about it. I have bled after sex before, only a bit but it's normally red. All women are different though.

Jam - well they will have to address your issue, I would assume your next course of action would be IVF as they'd want to select the best sperm. But they might do a HSG anyway. Seems to be the final test. I've got to wait around till end of April now, I get the full results of the HSG and my IVF referral then. Hoping I get lucky before then.

I am feeling incredibly relaxed right now about TTC, the most I've felt in many months. My life is busy at the moment and in my spare time I'm absorbing myself in my favourite tv and yoga. Tonight I've just been trawling through YouTube watching funny videos, video game streams and convention panels...it's a weird thing to mention I know but normally I'd be googling random symptoms and feeling sorry for myself.

Jam, I'm sure I'll say it again but good luck for Thurs. I hope there are some concrete next steps for you (but most of all I'm hoping that you don't need the appointment at all!). Will be interested to see how the advice you get compares to what the consultant told us as I wonder how much she was trying to upsell us on IVF.

I hope the spotting is a good sign Kaydee!

Hi all,
I've been lurking on this board for the past few days and thought I'd finally post. I'm 27 and stopped taking my pill to TTC on Friday. I know it will take a while for my periods to return to normal so I have no idea if/when I'm ovulating. My DH has been really keen on me stopping drinking but have just been reading up on the effect of alcohol on male swimmers, there goes his drinking plans . Just thought I would introduce myself!

Erm, I didn't have spotting the last 2 cycles, so it's a new one in me! Fairly sure it's the GOSing from Saturday night, will not be doing that again!!

GL at your appointment jam! Hope they're helpful & start things moving for you

Everything crossed for you Tonks!!