Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

User looks like we had the same due date. Maybe our sweet babies are playing together in heaven. how far were you when you mc?

Thanks fluff It's so hard to not get my hopes up!
Like the sound of the charm bracelet. It's hard when you get to the milestone dates. I would have been 16 weeks on Monday and on that day my bf told me she was pregnant so it was really bitter sweet. X

User I've read it can take anywhere from 9 to 19 days from egg release to bfp so if it's implantation bleeding it should take 2 days apparently to get a bfp I've been researching.

anne i haven't really spoke to him since as he went to work last night and not home till tomo. I'm ok today still hate him though. O should of had my 16w check today and heard hb instead I've made a little charm bracelet made me feel better. How are all of you lovely ladies.
harriet he needs a thick ear i think. he's one that likes to sleep. Alot. And he's now decided it will be too hard to have another baby. If he has one hour less than normal he's horrid.

Oh anne not sure about a cherub she's just bit me and laughed.

miami fingers crossed it is early ov.

Can i ask do you ov on last day of ewcm or in the middle of it?

I've had really odd cramping all day. Some brown spotting but nothing else has come from it. Im not actually due on until next Wednesday(ish). I stupidly bought a test earlier and I'm sure if I really really squint I see a second line. I'm only 10 days post ovulation...someone tell me it's all in my head and a positive wouldn't show yet. I keep day dreaming....

Anne I definitely had lots of creamy CM when pregnant - fingers crossed for you!

Miami could you have bruised your cervix somehow? Vigorous BDing maybe?! I had it badly once after removing a tampon too quickly - it seemed to get irritated and cramped on and off for a day or two.

I'm on CD 14 and have just got EWCM. Bit confused as my cycle is 30 days and I usually O on CD19. Very annoyingly I forgot to OPK this afternoon so will try later on but I know it's not the best time. Will DTD anyway to be on the safe side! At least it's a weekend!

Miami, I agree with Anne that it might be worth getting seen. Could be an infection, easy to clear with antibiotics.

fluff so sorry. Do you think he maybe just needs some time?

miami I've been having really weird stabbing pains today and yesterday - I'm hoping it's ovulation pains - if so then it's both ovaries! is that definitely not possible for you?

anne I don't usually have much CM before AF. Have had bit of creamy CM both times I've been pregnant though. Hope it's a good sign for you!

You never know Lentil, people get spotting and cramping which isn't AF. Don't give up till you're sure the witch is here!

Sorry you're in pain and worrying Miami.

Is it a cramping pain tummy or inside cervical soreness? Trying to think what it could be. No temperature or other symptoms? How long's it been going on for?

I agree with fluff it's worth getting checked out. Hopefully nothing but better to be safe. I've found people to be as paranoid as I was with anything post mc.

keepon, good job on keeping sane! You put me to shame, but sometimes it's an awful compulsion! And yes, that's exactly what I experienced last cycle and this one. I couldn't remember last month what different types of CM meant but googled loads and there's a mixed bag on what creamy means! Not complaining about the dtd stuff though

Funny you felt it was different post op fluff. How are you doing today? Are things alright with your DP? Your DD sounds like an absolute cherub, she's a credit to you and I'm so glad you have her.

Would it be worth getting a doc to take a look. I'm sure it's nothing and just your body getting back to normal

Anne i found it was more intense since surgery i obviously wasn't pregnant but wondered if it was to do with the surgery for me. Really strange.

Anne I had more creamy CM when I got my BFP and last time DTD was more intense if that's what you mean?? So maybe....

My normal end of AF spotting has shown back up so have managed to go back to being rational and will not be peeing on any blooming sticks!

Anyone else get loads of creamy CM when either pregnant or due af?

Anne, I had tons of pinkish creamy CM yesterday and the day before, which got my hopes up, but now i just have spotting and cramps so it looks like it will be a really short cycle

zyla it took me nearly 3 weeks to get a negative so hang in there

Think blood AF is coming on. Got some weird light coloured discharge when I wipe but is a little watery. Sorry tmi for a Friday morning! Was hoping I would have caught as we dtd in my fertile window but only MMC 4 weeks ago so probably silly to even get my hopes up. At least we can crack on next month and my body will have time to recover.

Sorry to hear that crazy i'm in the same situation as you. Atleast next month will be a clear month we can try properly.

anne you never know, still could be a chance especially with your symptoms! X

Anyone else get loads of creamy CM when either pregnant or due af?

It was one of the main things that made me realise last month and it's happening again.

So much for keeping sane and not spending every minute of the day symptom spotting! Also, ahem, I've found that dtd takes on a whole other dimension at the moment, which has also happened to me before when pregnant. Is it a thing?

Thanks for the video WLMcI. I need to start getting to bed earlier and waking up in time to do more than brush my teeth and roll out of the house!

I gave in, like a chump, and poas first thing. BFN, of course. But it's slightly staved off the panic I was feeling about the whole thing. AF due Tuesday according to Ovia but it's all just guessing in't it.

Fainter, not faster

Sorry crazy :(

I tested this morning, still a positive. I think I was hoping it'd be negative because I have hardly been bleeding, but it's only been 5 days. It's definitely faster though and I know my hormone levels are dropping because my insulin requirements are dropping too, just to add more fun to the mix it means I'm constantly adjusting at the moment.

Thanks everyone, I've actually made my peace with it, more so than with the miscarriage as if I'd not tested so early, I'd never have known about it... it was obviously never going to be a viable pregnancy IYSWIM so I had my little cry when AF showed up and I'm okay now.
Not temping etc this month, just going to use opks to confirm ovias prediction of my fertile window and then I'm not going to poas until AF is late (if she is late this month).
I cannot deal with disappointment after disappointment and the chances of that are much lower if I stop pissing on every test I can get my hands on days after ovulation

fluff that all sounds very rough. To me it sounds as if your DP might be someone who doesn't process difficult things, just represses them--and uses the defence mechanism of "not getting excited" in the same way. I'm no psychologist, mind! Relate have psychologists, though, and they have been very good to us in the past. I can recommend them for couples counselling, if you both think that would help. Maybe it'll help to sort the issues out separately from ttc and then including ttc, if that makes sense? Sending you hugs xx

On a different note folks, I've been finding yoga first thing in the morning hugely helpful for thinking positive! I've always done it as I have back problems if I don't stretch, but I was getting bored with sun salutations so I've changed to this youtube which also includes a bit of thinking about your intention for the day, how you want to be, etc. I've found it really good.

Sorry fluff and crazy. Got first AF 27/28 date after Mc so thought I was back on track. This is making me doubt it though. I have no idea if my EPU is any good other than the fact that they never answer the phone! I spoke to my GP and he said no need to go if my bleeding stopped naturally, so I didn't. Will try and call again. Hope the bleeding goes away soon!