Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

i've read that somewhere but then i think surely with having symptoms for so long i'd have a positive by now? I just feel deflated and like if af is coming can it just come already so i can stop obsessing! ive not drank at all since the mmc or had caffiene which i know is over the top but i'm taking no chances! I hope you are right though and if i just try forget for a while and take another test is a few days i might have all my prayers answered! easier said than done though x

Sully with my dd i didn't get + until a week after af was due. Try again in couple of days. Apparently can take up to 4 days to complete implantation? Never knew this. Then apparently takes 2 days after for hcg to rise. I've read this somewhere.

Hi ladies
Well it's been a month since i started my mmc , my HCG was back to near enough 0 shortly after and i did a HPT and a OPK to check all was negative and they were. A week and a half later i started checking with OPK and got high fertility for 4 days and then i felt a sharp burn in my ovary one night so took another and immediately got a peak fertility! Two days later it was back to normal so i assume that is a reliable test to say i did ovulate. We dtd every other day and on the day after i tested and got peak my cm was like egg white and lots of it so again seems to me a sure sign of ovulating! So now it's been two weeks and all the apps say i should have had af by today and i haven't! I've had nausea for about a week off and on, cramping and 4 days ago a pinching sensation in my uterus! My back and cramps are like they were when i was PG (although given i mmc it's not a sign i don't think)! My boobs have the odd burning sensation and are big but fine really! I was super bloated but that's gone now. I've done HPT every day for about a week and always BFN! I guess i'm 14dpo now and still getting BFN so do you ladies think i'm just having a late af because of my mmc! I was convinced we had got pg again! But i would have had a BFN by now!!! I just want af to come so i know everything is working!!!! Anyone got any advice? I'm literally obsessing about it all! x

putputput, at some point in the TTC journey I realized I was making myself insane through early testing so now I stay well away. In fact, the first and only time I ever got a BFP I was already one week late!

swim, I bled for two weeks. It stopped when I was just about to go back to the EPU.

Me, I'm out this cycle. Had been spotting for a few days and was hoping for implantation bleeding but it has just turned into a period on CD23

I'm so over all this shit.

Noroom i would ask for a picture anyway its your info and you are allowed to access ot at any time. Regarding ov for me i seem to be a week behind i had surgery but i don't check when ov on a calendar just go with my body symptoms. Hope all goes ok tomorrow swimchick and they answer the phone for you.

Turquoise it know exactly what you mean I can deal with very pregnant women and even those with newborns but those as pregnant as I would have been are so hard to be around.
Would have been going for my 20 week scan soon.
I knew as soon as the sonographer asked me if they could swap to an internal scan it was all over.I also had to ask them to turn the screen so I could see the image.
I think she thought she was being kind but s/he was still my baby.
My one regret was not asking for a picture but was so shell shocked at the time,I forgot.
Thought I might be able to get one when one when I went for my MVA but miscarried naturally before.
Swim your post has reassured me that I'm not cracking up.I have been having the whole butterfly thing too at exactly the time I felt movements with my other babies.
Miscarriage is so cruel.
Hope everything is ok with you and the epu both pick up and are able to offer either help or reassurance.
Does anyone know if you calculate OV from procedure date or first negative test date?
Ovia is saying FW but am sure it's wrong or this cycle is going to be a write off because I don't have any of the normal symptoms that I normally get and no EWCM yet.

Hope you're all well today. I'm having a major wobble today. Think all you lovely ladies are right and MC is still happening as now been bleeding for 9 days. EPU closed at the weekend. Having butterflies which feel exactly the same as the first flutters with DC1 and I know this time my body is lying to me. Am absolutely shattered too. Going to try and call EPU tomorrow and really hope they pick up this time! Sorry for the moan

Totally get the hurt caused by seeing other people's happy announcements. One of the woman I manage at work is 10weeks pregnant, I'm the only one she's confided in and now she shares every detail. Her symptoms are so similar to mine and it's taking a lot for me to just nod and smile.
Feeling down today, I'm due AF in 4 days time so could test but I am symptomless and I don't want to see a negative. Do you all wait to see if AF makes an appearance?

Anne sorry I read your post and didn't have time to respond the other day. My experience was very similar to yours. She asked me to go to the toilet to empty my bladder twice during the scan and i never thought anything was wrong. Dh even joked about it being triplets! As soon as she said no heart beat it was all a blur. I was very matter of fact then it hit me like a tonne of bricks on the way home.

Im going to hold off testing until Wednesday..if I can! Had some weird spotting/cramping yesterday and a tiny bit this morning so not sure if it's the start of AF or what's going on!!

Let's hope we have some good news this week from everyone testing..

Yes Miami
It's so hard seeing other babies- my baby would have been around 2.5 months by now.

When I see little babies just a few months old, I tend to look and mother and I think- we were pregnant at the same time, why did it all go wrong for me??!

Also, feeling quite down about everything as I've realised that next month will be one whole bloody year since I had my last BFP

Arrrgh the Facebook new baby posts have started!

I have a few friends due in Feb/March and the arrivals have now started...I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it really does.

Can't help comparing how pregnant I would have been when they found out they were expecting etc

I've never had this experience before and don't quite know how to process it- apart from just offering my congratulations.

Luckily they are not friends we will see in real life any time soon.

Think I'm on cycle 7 (or 8- lost count!) since MMC last summer. Haven't really had the need to do a preg test since starting- my period has always showed up!

On CD21 and trying to forget all about it.

Enjoying a bit too much wine over the last few weeks as there have been a number of birthdays.

Now coming round to the belief that baby number 2 will never happen, so am just enjoying the booze, tea & coffee and eating exactly what I like!
That is what I was doing prior to my 2 previous, unexpected BFPs.

Period is due is another week or so, kind of annoying as we are going on holiday and would prefer not to have my period while on the beach- was even thinking of starting up with the pill again to try and avoid it!

Sorry, I am feeling sorry for myself today, hope everyone is doing ok!

Miami at husk of a man. He's a lucky one your DH. Enjoy!

Fx fluff, it only takes one so I really REALLY hope you get a miracle.

Water af always sucks a little bit but as Miami says, now you can plan for your next fertile week. Hope af isn't too rough and you're feeling okay about things. No one would blame you for POAS, we've all been there!

Enjoy the wedding keepon, defo have some fizz for toasts! God I love a wedding

Lentil, if you've had a convincing af since you should be okay for retained products but I don't know that much about it so keep an eye on how heavy it is and how long it lasts.

I'm out of tests, more coming in the post today. Going to wait till Monday to poas again. Still feeling semi optimistically symptomy but really trying not to get my hopes up. Af due Tuesdayish but for some reason Ovia is giving me a slightly longer cycle than usual.

Distracted today by keeping the DSC for the whole weekend as their Mum is in hospital, had to cancel plans for tonight which is a shame but nice to have more time with them.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is weak willed Miami!

A pregnant friend has instagrammed about something called Seedlip. It is a non-alcoholic gin. Think I'll have to get myself a bottle and give it a go.

I'm trying to keep my MN addiction under control so just popping in briefly to check in with everyone's news.

AF for me today, 32 days after ERPC. I knew it was coming bc of cramps and "woe is me" feelings but I must admit I still POAS earlier in the week!

Good luck to anyone testing soon and everyone else!

Miami, I'm CD23 today.

Morning ladies.

I wanted to say thanks to those who were so honest and open last night. That is totally what this group is for. All my miscarriages have been early and I cannot imagine what it is like to get that news at your 12 week scan. to all.

I am finger crossing for everyone who is testing next week. Here's hoping for some BFPs and sticky ones at that!

I have managed 6 days off my new minimal alcohol lifestyle and am already like pass me the wine! Off to a wedding today but I'm driving to help myself exercise self control. Think I'll allow myself a glass of fizz for the toasts.

Looks AF is finishing off so will be getting back to DTD tomorrow. Unfortunately I'm away at a course when I'm likely to ovulate so will have to get lots of swimmers up there waiting!

I've been spotting for three days now and feel quite distended. Now worrying I have retained products even though I already had one period since MC