Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

Thanks for your replies. I had a negative pregnancy test a week ago so hcg must be out of my system. Today i have really dull cramps in the middle so maybe its a sign of af. If the pain gets worse ill go to the ER to get checked. Just cant wait for everything to be back to normal so we can try again for our rainbow 👶🏻

owl it is definitely hard when people are pregnant around you. There's a lot of staff pregnant at my work which 3 were werks within my due date. It's going to be hard going back and seeing them blossom. Although I'm really happy for all of them i wish it was me too. We will get there all of us. We are strong and we have to. Well that's what i keep saying about myself i just doubt myself alot

Dj have you had a negative pregnancy test since your MC? After my first MC it was 6 weeks before AF arrived. Then after the second and more like 8 after this most recent one because I had some retained products. So I don't think 6 weeks is anything unusual, but obviously it is very stressful waiting for it and wondering when things are going to get back to normal.

Fluffin my MC was confirmed 3 weeks ago, had an ERPC just over two weeks ago. Still very recent but so far have handled it well, yesterday being a big exception! Doesn't help that lots of close friends have either recently given birth or are announcing pregnancies, one of whom is due right around the time I have been

It varies hugely depending on lots of things but between 4 and 8 weeks seems average, definitely not before 4 if it's a real period.

My experience with my last two mc was ovulating 2 weeks after and period coming around 2 weeks after that.

You'll find plenty of info about what to expect on lots of different websites. But 6 weeks isn't late or unusual.

Can i ask again as not had any replies... How long did you all wait for your 1st period after miscarriage? Im 6 weeks yesterday and still waiting... we are all going through a nightmare but could do with some help (i asked in last thread and had no replies and again in this thread) also today a friend miscarried so brought all the emotions back :(

owl sounds like your having a hard time too today hope tomorrow is a bit better for you. I spent 2 hours in the bath yesterday ended up very cold. just needed to be with my own thoughts. I have felt very lost through this whole thing. It's a strange feeling. how long ago was your mc owl?

Thank you Anne. It's so hard not to google symptoms but stay strong and I hope you get your answers soon

Fluffin sorry to hear of your loss also, it's a tough place to be and lonely when people don't talk about it even though it would help I suppose. Look after yourself

I chose the erpc as i don't think I'd of dealt well if I'd let nature take its course. I'm quite an emotional person. Fingers crossed for you Anne.

I'm so sorry for everyones losses. It is weird that you just know. I didn’t get any symptoms either apart from tiredness. But instinct told me it was going to happen. I was the same with my dd. I knew i wouldn't go full term i knew I'd end up c sec and I knew she'd end up on nicu and me being unable to just go to her when i wanted. I don't know why i thought it but i just knew and it happened exactly how I thought. That's what made me go for a private scan this time because i was right with her. Everyone told me i was paranoid but unfortunately I was right. It's one time i would of loved to be proven wrong. It's nice hearing your stories too. (well not nice) makes me feel like I'm not alone. Sil came round earlier and didn't even say a word about it like i was never pregnant in the first place. Even though i know its a hard subject It hurts that people feel they can't even say sorry or a hug or even acknowledge it.

Thanks miami. How are you doing?

Sorry you're having such a rough day owl I tried medical management twice and ended up having an MVA (ERPC under a local).

I'm trying to stop googling miracle outcomes of small drops in HCG. Totally daft. Given how all the stats have screwed us for the last year we're never going to get a miracle. But it's a distraction.

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Glad i found this thread

Had a horribly emotional day today, spent all morning sitting on the bedroom floor crying and sat on the sofa under a blanket all afternoon (DH has kept himself occupied and been out all weekend which hasn't helped). Not sure what has triggered feeling so crap today, it's such an isolating feeling when nobody knows what you're going through.

Strangely enough I also knew that something wasn't right, I had minor cramps and a tiny bit of spotting but nothing major, took myself to the doctors who referred me to the EPU which was when we found out. I didn't feel right from the start and hardly had any pregnancy symptoms. I tried medical management first but it didn't work so had to have an ERPC. The nurse did say that my hormone levels were quite high though, not sure what it meant 

How long did you all wait for your period after miscarriage? Im 6 weeks yesterday and still waiting...

Thanks Miami. I was just wondering if we had maxed out the other one.