Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

Next door's kids screaming their heads off is not helping either! The joys of living in a terraced house.

Oh dear. I seem to be having a bit of a moment. Feeling very alone right now. I'm really struggling with my best friend being pregnant. She's been an incredible support through my MCs but I'm not sure she can be there for me anymore, if I want her to be, or if it is reasonable of me to expect it from her. I'm not really sure who else to turn to though. And I hate myself for all the negative thoughts I have about her pregnancy.

I'm so grateful for you ladies here. I wish someone could tell all of us when all this shit will end.

Hi all, I haven't noticed the new thread and was wondering why everyone was so quiet... silly me.

AnneLovesGilbert, sorry to hear you're going through this again. Big hugs! Just take care of yourself and rest.

Just wanted to thank everybody for the kind words and support last month, it really helped. It's been 5 weeks since my MC and I've been in limbo... Some days I'm like a robot, just doing things mechanically and trying not to think about the baby we lost.

My AF showed up exactly 4 weeks after my natural MC, which is really weird for me as I've always had irregular cycles. I got my endocrinology appointment confirmed (13 March), so at least it's something to look forward to.

I'm not going to TTC for a while, but I'll hang around and keep fingers crossed for all of you.

Same old love, holing up on the sofa, no news x

Me too dont and water, totally get you. Just makes you feel wtf was it for. I don't have any DC yet either so struggling in my journey to become a mum and have a family

I completely get it dontbuy. I feel the same. Feel like I've been under the weather for weeks, now feeling rubbish bc of the mc; do I really want to dive back in and TTC?

For me, though, my age (nearly 45!) is very much against me so I really need to get used to the idea that it's all over. I do have other dc so I can't really complain.

Also -- am still 5 lb over my usual weight. Feel v annoyed that my teeny 10 week pregnancy could have put that weight on. Still, it's only a week ago so I suppose I should give myself a break.

Hello all
Just confirmed today my LO didn't work out. By dates I am 10+4 but it only measured 4mm so must have gone wrong weeks ago.
Fortunately I am blessed with a little girl who is 2 so I've got something to keep me strong and positive and busy

I have been bleeding since Saturday so I hope this is the beginning of MC, can't bear to have to go back in a week and have to start talking about options.

Is this irrational - that I'm mostly annoyed at feeling pg for 10 fucking weeks with nothing to show for it? Got to go back to square one again, do it all over again whilst worrying this time that it won't work our again.

Hope my body goes back to normal soon and I can feel well enough to try again.

Hope you are all OK too and coping.
Shit, isn't it...

Thank you miami, thanks for being there and sorry you're feeling crap. Migraines are awful. Don't feel bad for missing work, you've been through a lot. Pregnancy illness doesn't count as normal illness anyway.

In terms of when to start ttc again, you can give it a go and your appointment is so soon you won't know whether this is the month for a while anyway. If it feels right and you're physically feeling better later then give it a go I think and tell your doctor when you see them on Friday.

They can still run any tests they need to anyway, you wouldn't be actually pregnant in 2 days and maybe getting back on it takes the pressure off. You can tell yourself it's a practice month and then based on what you're told at the clinic you can go from there.

We waited a cycle partly because of my MMR and partly to see what the clinic said. We didn't want to "waste it" if we were going to find out something we wished we'd known. As it turned out, we were told to go away and crack on as whatever the tests showed, we'd have treatment options available.

But it's entirely up to how you and your husband feel. Be gentle with yourselves x

Hey emily. I've taken the afternoon off as got horrible lower back pain. Really hope it's going to happen soon. Feeling wobbly, weepy and sore.

Had to email the admin lady to tell her, just said I'm pregnant and expecting to miscarry, feeling rough and going home. She looked up and said, weirdly perkily, "oh, well thanks for telling us, I've been wondering what's been going on with you this week! Hope you're feeling better tomorrow". I said hmmm and walked out.

She was quite nice last time when I was off, but clearly now has a right to know everything in my life and to be a bitch when my quota of feeling shit runs out. Nice

How are you doing?

Glad you've found us lentil

88Claire. I'm the same with work because I work with kids and young people that need moving and are unable to move them self and there's somethings i just can't do and won't do.

Glad you found us Lentil.

That sounds tough 88claire. Now things have been going on so long for me a fair few of my colleagues know about my miscarriages. Although I don't often talk to them about it I do find it comforting to know I have their quiet support and it also means I don't have anything to explain if I am having a difficult day.

Anne, how are you doing?

Not much to report here. DH has just gone away for work a few days. I'm hoping AF will be done and dusted by the time he is back so we can get back on the TTC bandwagon. Although not looking forward to re-entering the world of the dreaded TWW. Also, just booked a smear (cancelled my last one because I was pregnant), got off the phone and realised I've booked it for when AF will be due. Now in a quandary about whether to cancel it.

I had lost you all in the thread switch!

Welcome to the new joiners and so sorry for your losses

I'm still spotting and the EPU said I should go get seen, but I have a huge deadline at work on Friday so I will wait until then and see.

Ps someone at work came up to me today and asked how bump was doing after they got back from leave. Had to tell them what happened which was awful and they felt terrible.

Makes me think even in my job with infection risk and manual handling I won't tell anyone until a 12 week scan. So difficult in nursing and especially with children who need lifting and comforting.

Hi ladies,

Just wrote a long post then it wouldn't let me post it on the old thread!

Just checking in. Currently 3 days into my first two week wait that I'm aware of. I pinpointed ovulation this month.

Determined not to test until AF is late but we shall see!

Symptom spotting to the extreme!

Hope everyone is holding up well!!

Owl so sorry. Sucks big time. I have a scan scheduled for the same time as my 12 weeks scan would have been. So instead of announcing a pregnancy I'll be making sure mine is all gone. Life is cruel but we will be stronger because of it. X

DJ that is beautiful. I've been thinking of a way to mark my loss, this is a wonderful idea. So sorry for your loss. X

Ladies, thank you. Your support is wonderful. X

owl thinking of you x

That's beautiful dj

Lovely DJ

dj that is really lovely.

Found a way to keep my Angel with me at all times 👼🏻 Today is also first day of period since d&c and my god its painful. But this arriving in the post today has cheered me up 💐

Would have been my 12 week scan today and instead have to do a test to check that it's negative. Today is one big bucket of suck

Miami it makes total sense what you're saying about the possible reason, and thank you too for talking xxx

It's a difficult one, stories about other people's losses. In a way, I don't want to think about having more and waste more time, getting miserable and exhausted every time, but it's also good to know of happy outcomes too.

Your fitness sounds good! and your husband sounds lovely. Glad you've got good support. I'm exhausted today, tired most of the time actually, but walking lots which is something.

I know you said yours were both around 6 weeks so you think it might be a clotting issue. My MMC was my anomaly as it stopped at 8+5 so something was going right, heart was beating, all looked good, no abnormalities at all. So that's my comfort for now I guess, we got one that far, it must be possible to do it again.

Sorry sock My first af was 4 weeks after MMC but that and the one after weren't like they were before I was pg. I always get sore boobs, bloating, tiredness, and I was going mad thinking af wouldn't show, but it just did, no symptoms that I can remember, just showed up. I didn't have any boob symptoms again till now when I was pg again.

Miami's right, everything's trying to settle itself down again. That doesn't help, I know, but don't beat yourself up x