Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

FX Crazy!

User I waited 3 weeks post ERPC before I tested as instructed by the doctor, I did bleed for about 5 days afterwards as well so maybe leave it a little while and test again in a week? I'm sure you're body is just adjusting itself and it'll all be ok soon.

Hope everyone is having a good week though this thread is so lovely and supportive x

Oh Crazy I hope it is a positive. Fingers crossed for you

I need to vent ladies. I had a ERPC last Monday and I have tested and it still says positive. Hit me like a tonne of bricks. I had just assumed it would be negative :( every day I feel like I'm on the verge of an emotional breakdown but trying to hold it together. Doesn't help my bf is desperately trying to get pregnant and sends me her ovulation tests everyday. I'm trying to be happy for her but I find it so hard. I was 12 weeks when I found out about my MMC and I think about it all the time. I'm so keen to fall pregnant again but it took 3 years to get this positive and now I'm dreading the trying/disappointment again. Sorry for the negative rant I just feel like I can't talk to anyone in rl at the moment. OH is supportive but again every time I try and talk about how I feel I burst into tears and no longer want to talk about it all. Ahhh life is rubbish sometimes!

We're here whatever happens crazy

Thanks ladies, decided to hold out til tomorrow morning, so hoping I can give u all some really good news!!!

I'm so sorry about your MCs girls. I know how it feels. I know how painful it is. I still remember how I felt after mine and that was horrible. My dh and I have gone through a lot during past 8 years. I had 3 MCs and I should say they broke me, my mental and physical health. Each loss was unbearable. I was stressed and depressed all the time. Sometimes I can't believe I survived after going through all that shit. Though our tries to ttc didn't give results, we moved on and we are waiting for our baby to be born via surrogacy. I want to say that there are still options available. So don't give up! Don't let stress to control you and your mind.

Definitely fx crazy!!

Dontbuy, my 1st mc was "natural" and I passed some huge clots (mc was 9 weeks, baby was 6 weeks). I could literally feel them needing to come out. Horrible. I assume it was placenta/lining. I didn't see any trace of a baby -- I gave up looking after a while. Much sympathy

I really hope it is something new Crazy.

I hate to put a dampener on things, but I had a negative after my last MC and then a positive which turned out to be retained products. The consultant did say sometimes the HCG level can drop and then rebound back up but I don't think it is very common. AND I started bleeding the day after the BFP.

So yes, massive finger crossing all round!

Thanks all for info - it's the not knowing that I'm finding hardest atm.

Fx crazy!

Fingers crossed for you Crazy!

Cashmere, I miscarried at 7 weeks and the biggest clot I passed was only about 1cm, which was consistent with the measured size.

Oh! Well you never know God I hope you are, we need some good news round these parts. Have you got more tests at home? FMU tomorrow? I got pregnant without af after second mc. I ovulated 4 days after I stopped bleeding and got knocked up. It was awesome. Bit weird putting day of your LMP as the day you miscarried but they've seen it all before. Fingers and toes crossed for you x

Will do another test this evening and tomorrow and keep u all updated!!!

No I mean I have hot/cold sweats as the test was positive! Eeeeek!!!! I can't poas just yet as I've been at work (bar job) and have drank my body weight in soda water so don't think a positive would show up again... I DTD almost every day since my bleeding from MC stopped so pregnancy is definitely an option... just so nervous to find out if I am.

DontBuy, really hope they give you the all clear tomorrow. It varies hugely how big what comes out is. A clementine sounds massive for a 5 week fetus.

Did the pain get much better once the big bit passed? That's sometimes a sign.

Thanks for the good wishes x

It's a shit feeling iecgi but it does mean you can move on to the next step and ttc again when you're ready.

Um, Crazy, do you think you might be pregnant? 8DPO isn't unheard of and sweats were a sure sign for me.... Unless you got a false negative with the previous one. You need to poas again! Do it, do it, do it!

No I don't think so especially if you know you ovulated as you can't ovulate if your body still thought you where pregnant? FC for you

So I have a strange question... after a negative hpt after miscarriage is there ANY reason it would revert back to positive? Got a very very very very faint positive this morning but am only 8dpo :/ having hot and cold sweats and wondering if I'm imagining the line and of course, in my shock I threw the test away, convincing myself it was nothing... AAAARGHHHHHHH

So I got my post MC bfn today..... Just like that she is gone (I think it was another girl not sure why but was right with my guesses for my other DC so I'll just go with it) not sure how I feel about trying again so scared to miscarry again.

TMI warning. Sorry.

Was walking the dog today after lunch and felt a huge flood, literally thought I'd wet myself at first, and then realised that there would be blood all over the front and back of my jeans. Felt sodden. Have to walk through part of town to get round my loop (was half way at this point) so was almost in tears. Kept bending down to 'tie my shoelace' and couldn't see anything obvious. Got home and had no marks whatsoever but pad v wet and huge clot (?) came out. (Well not huge but largest for me so far.)
Isn't it odd how you convince yourself of things.

I have my check up scan tomorrow, to check that my 5-week-measuring-foetus hasn't accidentally sprung a heartbeat (I would have been 11.5 weeks tomorrow!)

Just want them to tell me I've passed it already, but I don't know what to expect, how long it normally takes to pass, whether I should already know whether it's come out or not: someone on here I think said they passed something the size of a clementine but nothing that big has come out yet.

Sorry for the verbal diarrhoea. I guess everyone comes here and vents.

Anne and everyone else I keep my fingers crossed for everyone else going through this. I have DD to give me comfort and I realise how lucky and fortunate we have been. It does help to have a child already, for me. FX for everyone.

For me the uncertainty has hit me like a ton of bricks. I had all five DC very easily, conceived straight away, straightforward births etc. So to have had waited a while to conceive, and then had two MCs, has been a really big shock. I didn't fully realise before just how lucky I was.

Obviously age is now the big issue for me. I half wish we'd started TTC sooner but we had major health worries with youngest DD.

Question re OPK. I've never really managed to test consistently so I've got nothing to go on. My cheap ones say you should let the urine come to room temp before testing. Really?! Also, I had a light 2nd line today -- does that mean HCG is rising?

I thought I'd stopped bleeding so didn't wear a pad today -- cue massive flood...

Seeing the doc tomorrow so I'll see what they say.

If I have another MC I'll definitely give up and count my blessings.

Sorry for long waffly post.

Thanks anne still feel like I gave her a rubbish start but things could have been worse so i am definitely grateful for her. You'll all have your chance. Fx soon.

fluffiny You made a whole, beautiful, person. Your body did something incredible. I hope it happens for you again soon x

Anne i have a beautiful dd already it doesn't make me feel better just because my body didn't work properly with her either i went into labour at 33 weeks luckily the hospital stopped it which held her off for just over a week they gave me steroids for her lungs when she came just over 5 weeks early by emcs she wasn't breathing once they sorted her out and gave her to me it all went downhill. She was very poorly but she survived and you wouldn't know now anything was wrong. But i still blame my stupid body. So before my mmc i expected something similar into way labour went i knew my body is shit but then at about 8 weeks i just knew the pregnancy wouldn't carry on so i feel even more of a failure. But i am thankful i have her.

Tupperware is the only thing that makes me eat healthily during the working day emily And nail varnish makes me feel human, feminine and sexy, even when my body is letting me down over and over again. But it's good to hear different approaches and I've heard people rave about that book.

The tests from the MMC showed there wasn't anything wrong with her and she made it through to 8+5 so something was going right. It was me that somehow stopped her from growing - either an issue they haven't diagnosed or a tiny glitch that could have been a one off. I cling to knowing there wasn't anything wrong with her but then it makes no sense, so it's not actually helpful at all

We're on 4 now, but the first one's never really counted in my head as it was ages ago, unplanned and with my ExH who was a twat.

One dodgy egg is probably a complete fluke isn't it? Does knowing what happened give you a way forward or anything that can help - either physically (like diet, tupperware avoidance etc) or emotionally (having had a reason and thinking it's unlikely to happen again)? Do they know why a dodgy egg implanted? And just because it wasn't a perfect egg doesn't mean it wasn't your beautiful baby who you loved x

I hope you don't reach that point either, I so hope it happens for you soon.