Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

Crazy I didn't realise your AF wasn't due until 25th - so the timing points towards implantation too if you O'd on Day 10-11! FvvvvX!

Sock, it's a horrible feeling when your AF arrives but try to remember that it means you get to try again really soon. It might not help you but I thought of it as the signifier of a fresh start and that made it much easier.

I used my OPK tests from the day I stopped bleeding for the first two months and then once I'd established I O late (Day 19) I started testing from around day 12. We try to DTD at least every second day from when I stop bleeding (just in case I O early unexpectedly!) and then once I get the positive LPK, every day for 4 days.

Omg omg omg 😁😁😁 posted on another group and they said the same! EEEEKKKK! Gonna now test obsessively between now and 25th (AF due) just because I have lots of cheap Internet tests

crazy, it does to me because of the brown colour and the CM consistency. I really hope so - FX for you. x

sock I tend to use mine 2 days after I start bleeding as I'm an early ovulater... usually CD 10-11

Okay, does this look like implantation? CD18

After my pretend AF last week I now have full on AF, my first after MMC. I just want to hide in the toilets at work and cry.

Hopefully my opks tests arrive soon. Do I use them every day or just around the time I think I'm ovulating?

Glad stuff looks normal Waterfeature. Where are you at in your cycle?

I well know the panic about cracking on but I had an infection after my MVA and thrush, so we had to wait a bit. My only symptoms of the infection were crippling pain, but high up and on my side, where there isn't anything. Everything internally looked fine and no discharge, but it was better within a couple of days of the ABs so they were right in what it was - though not very specific! Look after your health.

Is everyone using OPKs? I always get mild cramps, bloating and ewcm so make sure we dtd every day around it. Are OPKs for if you're not sure when it happens? I know people swear by them.

Def post whatever is helpful for you crazy. I think we're unshockable here.

I had my followup appointment today. They said everything looked normal. Offered me antibiotics in case my previously pongy discharge (sorry, yuk) was caused by infection. They said they could do a swab and see so I agreed to that. But meanwhile said I shouldn't TTC... I'm a bit unsure of what to do because I've got no other symptoms and I'm desperate to get on with it!

Post away crazy especially if it will help you.

lightgeeen - I haven't started using them again yet as still pretty soon after MC and couldn't face it. I never had so many days of flashing - generally 1 or maximum two flashing and then the still one. I know for some they got a few more days, although 6 does seem a lot......

I had bleeding both times but was when my AF was due - was light (in both volume and colour!) and didn't come to anything. FX crazy

Post away crazy. I had a tiny one for the first time ever with this last pregnancy. It was more like pale pink CM, not proper blood.

What's nice about this corner of MN is there's no thing as TMI.

Hope everyone's okay today.

No I'm using Internet cheapies... had what I think may have been implantation bleed this morning though :/ would anyone be adverse to me posting a TMI picture so I can get your advice?? If not just say so please

I had a flashing smiley with an OPK this morning -- 2 weeks after ERPC. Reading the small print, though, it says not to use the kit for 2 months after previous pregnancy... so who knows.

I'm still bleeding anyway so it's a bit academic.

Still crossing fingers for you crazy!

swimchick1980 Waves, it was me who asked about the clear blue OPKs, are you using them now? I'm on day 6 of flashing smiley. Trying to be relaxed about it. In some ways it's helpful as means I know I haven't ovulated and dtd every 2 days to cover all bases but then what if I never ovulate. Gah.

Fingers crossed crazy how many dpo are you? Maybe hold your wee and no drinks for 4-5 hours and test again? Are you testing on FRER?

Got everything crossed for you crazy

But now I think I see a line again... :/ I can't get a picture without it looking negative though

Hi ladies... unfortunately my BFP seems to have done a big fat runner... however, I have heartburn, nausea, andddd (TMI sorry) I have had very weird CM this morning, so not out of the running this month yet

Hope everyone has a good day...

Thanks all, you're all a lovely lot! She does know about my MC and was in tears when I told her and was so supportive. I know she's just excited for her own journey which I understand but I feel like she is turning it into a competition.
I didn't know I had to wait 3 weeks to test, perhaps I shouldn't be so eager and as you say let my body do its thing and recover. The hospital didn't actually tell me anything after I have gathered my info off here x

Re-read my email again guys morning and realised if sounded a bit heartless. I know those who have had more than one MC have had a lot more bad luck. What I meant was that when I feel down, I'm trying to be positive and tell myself that I've had my bad luck, statistically anyway. I may never get a BFP and if I do, I may well MC again, but I am trying to be retain hope.

FX crazy! We need some good news!

I passed some big clots (MC at 8/9 weeks) but none were as big as a clementine on their own - they were more broken up. I basically spent a couple of days on the loo at the worst of it so didn't see the size properly on a pad or anything.

user, that's so tough with your bf. I agree if you haven't anyway, it's maybe worth just saying it's a bit much just now.

I can't remember who asked about the Clearblue dual hormone indictor, I used three and found them helpful, although with both BFPs I had (4 years ago and now), they were both months where we DTD the least amount and also are getting the smiley face.....

Anne , in terms of having a DC anyway, I think it probably has helped me a bit. I do feel that it I do manage to get a BFP again (which has proved tricky for me!), I've had my bad luck and hope it will be ok best time. My pregnancy this time felt very different from before - it felt like it wasn't going to work out from day one, which I didn't feel last time. I was anxious about getting positive scan results last time but this time i just knew something was going to go wrong. I'm not sure if it's just that I'm older and so more worried but I hope I don't feel that way again. I just so how that your next one is a sticky one, you really deserve it.

I did find the not getting a BFP this time around for so long my harder this time. I guess I have more "mummy friends" now and seeing all my DC's friends becoming big brothers and sisters (some two times over) has been tough.

FX for all of us

Cashmere it does sound like you passed your baby. X

I had a mmc at almost 10 weeks and the sack I passed which contained my baby was around the size of a large cotton ball that was tear shaped. I passed at A&E and so they confirmed it was baby. You can usually see a lighter grey/white within the sack which is obviously the baby and actual sack. I think my bleeding slowed right down upto a few hours before I passed the sack. It was completely unexpected but as soon as it happened, I knew. I just knew.

Sorry for everyone having shit right now. User sorry about your friend, I've had a similar experience but my friend has ignored me and had a go at DH for telling them what we were going through. They had a very early miscarriage around a month ago and despite us having pregnancy problems and serious worries we were there for them throughout. I was dreading telling them our good news. Never thought they would be so mean when telling them our sad news instead. Everyone takes the news differently. X

Oh user that sounds really tough with your bf. Does she know about your MC? Could you politely let her know that this is all a bit too much for you right now?