Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

Hi guys, I've been creeping on the thread and would like to throw in my lot with you folks. I recognise a few very lovely ladies from the antenatal thread we were previously on and it's amazing the support you all offer!

I had a mmc at 10 weeks (growth stopped at 8 weeks), which was diagnosed when I went to A&E last Wednesday and got the scan on Thursday. Then Saturday I woke up with it all happening, which was bloody and painfulif you didn't know you were pregnant and miscarrying you'd have thought you were dyingbut it was at least fast. DH was amazing, sat with me while I was on the floor shaking and writhing and vomiting and cried with me when I was stunned to see it all pass. This awful experience has brought us so close and I realise how much I can rely on him. Sunday morning scan at EPU confirmed that my body has efficiently removed everything and it all looks healthy. The bleeding has pretty much stopped now and I'm so relieved it's over quickly. But I'm still absolutely exhausted and have all sorts of tummy twinges/indigestion/dizziness, so I've called off another few days of work (did a half day yesterday and that was a mistake).

This was my first pregnancy so it's rotten luck, but as the doctor explained each one is separate and there's no reason to think it lowers the chances of my next pregnancy being healthy. That helps, and so do you all! I understand now about wanting to conceive again straight away. The thought of physically DTD right now makes me shudder given my current condition, but I know soon we'll get "back on the horse" as DH so charmingly puts it :D

So anyway, that's me. Stay tuned for my next novel...

Have they told you what to expect? I had one in October so ask away if there's anything you want to know.

I was in and out in half an hour and my DH was with me till they wheeled me into surgery and waiting there in the cubicle when I got back, which was brilliant.

I had a bad case of the shakes from the local anaesthetic which I wasn't warned about. Not sure if it's a common side effect. But I shook for about 2 hours afterwards. Ask if they'll do a scan when it's over so you know it's all clear.

Take warm comfy layers to put on for going home afterwards.

Holding your hand and will be thinking of you lots.

Will have an MVA tomorrow afternoon.
Thankyou Water.Am trying to think that this is a sign it wasn't a problem with me that ended the pregnancy.
It just seems to be never ending.4weeks difference in dates and now 3 weeks on from mc.
Just hoping to be back in the game now.Hopefully will be like Anne and in with a shout for March.Could poss still have a baby this year.

I had exactly the same thoughts noroom. Like Water and owl I completely flunked two attempts at medical management and ended up with an MVA. Berated myself for being crap at pregnancy and equally crap at miscarrying. But Water is right, sometimes your body just isn't ready to let go. Also, sometimes biology is just a bitch. I had an internal scan in theatre at the end of the procedure so I left knowing it was all completely gone, and I'd stopped bleeding the next morning.

What have they suggested?

Oh, poor you noroom. I had that with my first MC. I didn't see it as failing (more) but just that my body didn't want to give it up. I felt a whole lot better, physically, when it was sorted out. (They did it then and there.) Will you need surgery?

Thanks ladies who replied, it's good to know that we can start TTC again after AF arrives, (missed the boat this month).

Congratulations Claire! Fingers crossed everything will go smoothly for you, I'm sure it will!

Noroom hope you're doing ok and rant away! I'm sure it'll all settle down soon and your body will be back to normal. I had to have an ERPC after my body did absolutely nothing trying medical management, not even a twinge!

Well this is the gift that keeps on giving.
Have retained products.
Can't even miscarry properly.
Feel better for having a rant though.

Thanks emsler, the bleeding mostly tailed off Monday so I think it's probably way way too early and maybe things are still settling down in there.

Do ovaries know what's going on in your uterus?

With a previous mc I definitely ovulated 3 days after the bleeding stopped and caught again. But that was an earlier one and I had a bfn before the bleeding stopped.

Oh well, only time will tell! And maybe it's a numbers game. I juts need to keep conceiving till one of the blighters sticks.

Super good luck with the house. Did it have a nice feeling about it? We knew when we walked up the path to view ours. We've gutted it and it now looks completely different, but the feeling is the same. Sometimes you just know.

Thinking of you Cashmere, hope it happens quickly and as painlessly as possible. Take whatever pills you can get your hands on if you need to. I got something epic you put up your bum. High as a kite for about 12 hours when I had bad cramping. Hopefully you won't need anything strong but ask if you do.

Enjoy user!

Thanks! I tested last weekend and it was horrible still seeing the positive. It seems as though it takes longer for the hormones to leave your body if you had medical intervention. I'm desperate to get trying again!

Thanks *User
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I had a natural MC and luckily didn't need any intervention.

Fingers massively crossed for the weekend!

Aww congratulations Claire! Can I ask did you have a natural MC or ERPC?

Congrats on the new house too!

I'm going to see Fifty Shades with the girls tonight and going for a curry! Will be the most action I've had in a while

Going to test again at the weekend, hoping to get a negative...oh the irony!

Hello all
Congratulations Claire that lovely.
I went to EPU this morning, confirmed it's a MC (no, really?!!) and said we'll try conservative management for two weeks. I really hope it comes out in this time.

Fx to everyone going through all this stuff.

Anne Ooh, fingers crossed for a nice LH surge for you later on! And very glad you're making the most of your time with lots of and maybe a wee bit of !

Just waiting to hear back from the estate agent - argh!

That's amazing emsler, congratulations! We bought our first house together last year, it's been wonderful. Hope you get it!

Having said I always know when I'm ovulating hence no OPK, I am 80% sure I'm ovulating now. Haven't poas again so not if it's all gone but will do later. If it wasn't so freakishly early I'd be sure it was all in my head.

Weird.

But had an excellent night and feeling a million times better

Congratulations @88Claire - such exciting news.

How is everyone else feeling today, ladies? DH and I just put an offer in for a house (our first!) so now I'm not sure if my "symptoms" are imaginary, pregnancy, or stress!

Gentle hugs claire! Fingers crossed for you.

Temps have stayed up :) Back in the game.

Good luck at the EPU noroom

Claire That's absolutely wonderful news, congratulations!

Off to the epu to see what's going on.
Line is definitely getting fainter so hoping there is nothing left.
Congratulations to all those with new bfps.
Hoping for the most uneventful times ahead.
Will be waiting to join you as soon as I get the all clear.

Owl

Just so you know I didn't wait and got a positive test a month to the day of my miscarriage. Very bittersweet.

In terms of dating I know when I ovulated which helps.

I am extremely anxious though. But keeping everything crossed this is a sticky one!

claire that's wonderful news! So happy for you. Look after yourself

Congratulations, Claire!

Wow, Claire, congratulations!

Congratulations Claire! Fingers crossed for you.

Owl my understanding is they mainly say that for dating and so you can be certain it is definitely a new pregnancy. Have you had a negative sine your ERPC? I didn't wait for my first AF, after my first 2 MCs. Did after the third because of retained products.