Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

Ok the words 'doctor' and 'who' were bright pink in my post a minute ago

Oh anyone know why that bit in my post is pink?
Didn't do it on purpose.

The doctor who consented me couldn't remember when I had to fast from so said 'have breakfast and then only drinks ,I'm sure that'll be ok.'and shrugged.
Lack of info is indeed weird.
As is aftercare.Do what ever you fancy or don't fancy and poas at some point and if it glows get back in touch.

Sorry for your loss harriet.

The lack of info on the op was weird. I was told not to eat or drink after midnight -- which I obediently observed. But apparently I could have still had water until 4 hours before the op. As it was, I went to the loo before I left home, then had a terrible job trying to squeeze out a urine sample so they'd let me have the op. Doh!

WaterI know a whole printed piece of paper.All I got was arrive:....procedure .......scrawled on a post it.Am feeling very left out.
Although the nurses were lovely, I got more info when I bumped my head playing netball that one even had pictures.

Hello everyone and especially mouse. Another sad new joiner here.

I had an early miscarriage (4+5) on Monday. Really gutted as I had such strong symptoms from 7dpo - nausea, nosebleeds, sore boobs, implantation bleeding and cramps...everything! It was cycle 1 after a year break following a chemical pregnancy last Feb- started bleeding 2 days after bfp. I had no symptoms with that one which is why I was so sure this would work out.

So now I've had 2 early losses in the 2 months we've tried. I'm having crazy and pointless thoughts like what if there is something wrong with me, what if i can never have children etc etc. DH has not helped as he's completely blasé - doesn't really feel sad about this loss at all.

I'm trying to focus on the positives - I can at least conceive. I'm glad my MC was sooner rather than later. We're going to start trying again immediately so hope my cycle goes back to normal soon. Bleeding slowed a lot today so think nearly done. So surreal to think that last week I was pregnant. Sorry for such a long post!

Water what a nightmare, you'd think they'd better prepare people especially as it's such an emotional experience to go through. The leaflet was basic at best. I didn't get any advice in advance apart from not to eat anything, thankfully took slippers (my mum reminded me) but didn't even think about a dressing gown and they had to lend me another gown just to preserve my decency!

That being said my experience whilst in hospital was amazing and the EPU have been lovely when I've rung a few times.

I hope AF turns up this weekend so we can get back to TTC soon!

So you got a leaflet, owl, you lucky thing! I got sweet FA either before or after the op. I was v envious of the other ladies who'd brought slippers and dressing gowns.

Mulder I had an ERPC 4 weeks ago tomorrow and still waiting on AF. I don't track ovulation but pretty sure I ovulated about 10 days ago as my cycles are pretty long anyway so this is currently normal for me. Never wanted AF to show up more in my life! Did the hospital say anything about how long it would take? My leaflet said up to 6 weeks.

To add to the OH frustrations my DH is also being a pain this evening!!

I'll tell you in two weeks Mulder! Had ERPC just over 2 weeks ago. Bleeding has only just stopped and I've got loads of EWCM (sorry TMI). DH is away tonight (he only told me yesterday just to fit in with the current theme...) so I can't make hay while the sun shines...

For those of you who had an erpc and didnt have a regular cycle 4 weeks after- did you feel any pains around the time your leriod was due?

Pretty sure I ovulated on day 14, had slight twinges around 28 days, uterus and fallopian (have had slight twinges since thr erpc) but no AF! Have convinced myself I have ashermans but dont want to pay for the 3d scan to check until 9 weeks, currently 5 weeks post erpc and going crazy wishing my period to come!

Noroom the needle sounds like a good plan.

Haha. Yep they're all the same. But a hoover isn't painful enough when they are being ass holes.

fluffy sorry that was a ref to my afternoon.It was either that or the thought of sticking a needle in the end of it.
The last time one of the children ran into him we had 10 mins of laying on the floor and I'll never know what it felt like because 'I am a woman' -and therefore not know how much pain he could be in.

Must be a day for men being idiots. I can think of better things than the hoover though noroom

Sorry yours is being an arse too.Would be saying bring on the baby making but at the moment the only thought that is keeping me going is the thought of sticking a vacum into a certain part of his anatomy
And if he says it's my hormones making me irrational I will hold him to it and not be responsible for my actions

Ohh *noroomonbroom that doesn't sound good about your OH. Mines being an arse tonight too....I was crying over something silly and he said why are you so emotional...like duhhhh Jesus I've had the shittish 2 weeks and you're asking me why I'm emotional! Argh Men! Glad today went as well as it can go.

Can I join in the shit day ness.TMI warning.
MVA went fine.Once I asked the SHO to leave and let the consultant do the procedure after she told me put a gown on so I didn't get my clothes 'soaked in blood'.
Didn't happen.MVA really is a calm and relatively pain free way to go.
But dp is being an epic arse today.Was apparently couldn't remember what time I had to be there despite being told twice.Can he remember what time his football kick off on Sat afternoon.Oh yes he can.
Has now gone for a walk leaving me to cook dinner for dc because I am apparently being a martyr for not explaining by txt 15 mins after I got out of recovery what he had to do them for dinner despite being in Tesco with me when I bought it this morning and him putting it through the till because I had to leg it to the appointment.
Seriously don't know what has got into him.

Thankyou,

Im in Liverpool Miami our clinic here is 1 of the uk's finest don't you know! So fine they have zero compassion at all. When all you want is answers and you're told to wait another 10 weeks, its disgraceful.

Its not the place I chose, I would rather have travelled the 30 mins to the next nearest hospital which has a much better reputation but somewhere in my 1st appt being cancelled and made again they switched hospitals. The person who took my history did say it looked as if it could be a placenta problem as they usually end around 6 weeks just when the placenta kicks in, so hopefully the results will show something that can be cured with a low dose aspirin - which I think ill start taking anyway.

Buddha sounds like you've had a crap day. Sending you hugs I've never been there so wouldn't know what it's like.

User I haven't tested yet. I was going to wait 3 weeks because that's what they told me to do. But I'm going to get a test tomorrow and see what it says. Then if it's not negative I'll wait till Wednesday

Hi all, sorry Im so rubbish at keeping in contact on here, I have been lurking though and hopefully caught up to where everyone is up to (I think).

I had my RMC appt today and to be honest Im gutted. From reading people's experiences on here they all seemed so lovely and I would probably have the results in a couple of weeks.

My appt was the first one of the day at 9am - I arrived to be told they were running 75 mins behind, how is that even possible?

Then I had my family history taken and was given a sheet to take for a follow up appointment, and scooted down a corridor to a receptionist who told me they don't have any availability until the beginning of may, but they'd be in touch with a time and date, This all took place in around 15 mins, 5 of those minutes were spent telling me I was in the uk's leading Miscarriage clinic and through their research programme I could volunteer to take part. I then waited 45 mins for bloods to be taken and then I left.

Once home I recieved a phone call to let me know my next appointment was the 27th April. 10 Whole weeks away. What the fuck was the point in even going. I absolutely hate that hospital, what a fucking Joke. I asked what would happen if I were to get pregnant again sooner, they told me to just carry on as normal, so basically fuck off and if it happens again, then so be it.

I just feel so totally let down by the place, I was expecting a bit of a wait between tests and results, I had been looking forward to today to start the ball rolling, but since I went to the gp last to when I get the results will be 5 months. sorry for moaning and sorry for swearing, just needed a vent.

Now, I acknowledge I work in a hospital but I just walked past 3 pregnant women in the space of 20 seconds! Seriously?!

Thanks fluff can I ask have you had a negative result yet? X