Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

swim yes very hard especially when I have tests in the house :/

He has a balanced translocation but we don't have any medical records of this (diagnosis too old) and they don't seem to have heard of it when I ask for tests now.

bertie that is annoying - what do you think the cause is (if you don't mind saying)? There is no history of fertility problems in my side of the family but MIL had a few before DH (and then had 2 more kids with no issues).

Welcome Orange, sorry you've found yourself on this page. Hope you're doing ok.

Bertie, that is really annoying. Hope the next one sticks and that you don't end up needing the referral.

Miami, good you got your referral and also hope you have some good news soon. Hope your gin night was fun

Crazy, waiting is sensible advice but so hard to follow isn't it!!

We won't get referred until 3 even though DH has family history because they don't count family history of the Dad Even though WE KNOW what's likely to be causing it and this is a COMMON cause of miscarriage and can be passed down through either parent! Aaargh!! But breathe. It's obviously just meant that we wait a bit longer.

emily think that's what I'm going to do, just gonna try my best to leave it til AF is due at least (although that's easier said than done)

I definitely felt like that after my second, Harriet. Unfortunately it seems to be taking longer and longer :( It only took one cycle the first time, three the second time (not counting cycle following m/c) but now we're on the fourth cycle post mc2, again, not counting the one immediately after.

Actually having worked that out it's only one more so it has given me some hope! This cycle has been really long - I didn't ovulate until CD28 because I was ill - so that's adding to it.

I use a site called Countdowntopregnancy and it does give you a "due date" every month

If I do get pregnant this month - which i doubt as I'm not sure we hit the fertile window at all (if we did, only once) - I'm sure there will be annoying discrepancies over my dates which is going to panic them, so that might be a bit of a pain.

Crazy sorry I can't see it on your pic but I believe you it's there in person! I had one like that with my first m/c. Fingers crossed it gets stronger over the next few days. The very weak ones can take longer to build up but that's not necessarily a bad sign.

Welcome Orange. So sorry to hear of your loss.

Miami I hope you enjoyed your gin. You're right, you will survive a third miscarriage IF it happens, and I definitely hope it won't. For me, I definitely think the second was the hardest emotionally. And yes, that hope still has to exist for you to be able to start trying again.

I too have been reading on the adoption board. I like to think I would be able to adopt but it is a scary prospect and a decision that realistically I don't think you can make until you have totally given up on having your own child.

Crazy I hope you get a nice strong BFP soon too. Just wondering, is it worth stepping away from POAS for a few days and then hopefully you'll have a more definitive result?

May I join? I can't tell you how much lurking on here has helped over the past few weeks while I have been coming to terms with my mc and wanting to try again but not rush things too quickly. You are all so lovely and supportive! It has been so helpful knowing that I am not alone in this, although of course I am sorry any of us has to be here. We are ttc #1, got pg on cycle 3 or 4 (not sure if I count the first one!) and had a mc at 6+4 early Jan. First AF since has now arrived and it was such a relief, hoping my cycles now go back to normal and we can try again properly this month!

Thanks harriet I know a line is a line but I want a proper BFP that I don't feel like I'm imagining :(

Hi miami sorry if I'm wrong/have missed something but have you had 2 miscarriages? I'm in the same boat and one thing that has made me keen to try again straight away is that my GP said they don't refer for more tests unless you've had 3 or more, so I feel like even if I do mc again at least I'll be another step closer to working out why and hopefully solving whatever problem there is. Not sure of your history so maybe not helpful for you but I'm focusing on that.

Good luck crazy.

Not too bad, got heartburn, dizziness and feel so wiped out... can't wait for bedtime

Arghhhh still positive with fmu.Really should have held off testing will give it till next weekend before I test again.
How are you this morning Crazy?

I know I remember when DC1 was born (October), some people said oh it's a shame it wasn't a spring baby, wtf! If they had any idea the pain and stress we went through for DC1 to even arrive, they would have realised the birth date doesn't matter at all. It is only natural to have those thoughts though, so don't beat yourself up .

I'm looking on a mobile with a cracked screen so can barely see anything but keeping everything crossed for you Crazy

Well... I think I may HAVE a BFP... won't show on pictures though :( can anyone see it??

Oh swimchick that must have been hard! I would have been due 17th August and my cousin is due the 18th so that got me down too :( also having some very selfish feelings about when I'd be due if I got my BFP this month, why does it matter when his/her birthday would be?? Need to get a grip of myself

Morning everyone. and welcome to the new joiners, sorry you find yourselves here.

I wrote a post yesterday then my stupid screen froze and I didn't have time to type it again. I got AF 27 days after MC, why is the length of my normal cycle. Didn't test for OV last month as was trying to deal with MC and that felt like too much. I don't get OV symptoms like some of the ladies on here.

Will be trying this month though. I so hope it happens as everyone keeps saying (to make me feel better about MC) that you are at your most fertile in the 6 weeks after an MC. I'll almost feel like i called if it doesn't happen then.... So unlikely though given it took us 3 years both times to get it BFPs. Fingers crossed though.

After moaning about everyone I know being pregnant one of my friends had a MC and I felt awful. I had decided to only be positive and c was feeling really good. Was going ok until I found out another really close friend is pregnant due on the same due date as I would have been and i feel like I'm back to square one again. Oh well, just need to DTD as much as possible this month and hope for the best.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend

Ty noroom you've made me feel a lot better... fingers crossed for tomorrow to be a nicer day! :)

Mine needed telling in words of one syllable exactly what was wrong may have been several four letter words involved to.Also threatened to draw him a diagram.
Sorry my other comment was in regards to your earlier post too.

Crazy you are not stupid in any way, you just want something very much.And it will be a very lucky little bean to be wanted as much as it is.
Also nothing as therapeutic as a good cry or telling your OH exactly what you think of them as I did to mine last night.

Currently downstairs crying my eyes out while he's upstairs in bed texting me asking what's wrong with me because it's making him feel down the way I'm being :( please tell me he's a dick and it's not me?!