Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

crazy don't clear blue digitals need higher levels of pregnancy hormone to show positive than FRERs? I think it has to be 25 whereas a FRER will be positive at 10.

Oh, crazy i would just wait a few days as you've definitely had a positive see what happens with af. Fx still.

Mulder that sounds pretty heavy. I'd be tempted to give the epu a call if you have one near buy.

I'm on day 5 of bleeding. Managed one pad so far today so hopefully heading to the end.

Fuck my life.

Can do empathise miami. Stay cations sound like a good idea, it's so true you just feel in stasis so much

. I'm planning to go to NYC in a few months - am just hoping for the best.

Can you book stuff just a couple of months in advance maybe? Or just go somewhere close like France?

I know what you mean about paranoia, I've been worrying about stillbirth of my next one today for absolutely no reason. Need to get out of this thinking.

On a different note - first period after miscarriage, I've been doing 1 pad every 1.5-2 hrs for 2 days- is this OK??

My first pregnancy i didn't even think twice about going abroad but i made sure i knew where the docs were and hospital just to be safe and I took my notes with me. Mc never crossed my mind i was more concerned about the work i do causing harm. But now i think i may be like you miami very on edge but life will be very different when you get your sticky baby so try and just enjoy it all. And as Emily said just try somewhere not too far for a couple of days. But if your really not up for it don't push yourself just explain again to dh. I'd love a break away in some sunshine right now it makes the world seem a different place.

And yes. I 100% feel like my life is on pause and I'm stuck on this merry-go-round of trying, TWW, disappointment, repeat whilst everyone around me moves forward.

It is so tricky Miami. DH and I have adopted the attitude that as this one (massive) area of our life is not going to plan and hugely emotional and stressful then we should make the rest of our life as great as we can. We have still gone away on holiday and I'm really glad we have. TTC has come into it, for example, we wouldn't go anywhere with Zika or that requires anti-malarials. Last October we went to California. Neither of us were particularly excited about it but we had a brilliant holiday. I got a BFP halfway through, which did mean I was a little anxious for the second week but still really enjoyed it. We tend to book holidays just a couple of months in advance which I think helps with deciding where to go.

TTC and miscarriages has been a part of our life for over 2 years now and I don't want it to stop me from living my life. Yes, life is not how I imagined it being at this point, but this is the only one I'm going to get.

I think if the thought of a holiday abroad would be so anxiety provoking you wouldn't be able to enjoy it at all that is a different matter. And I hope your DH would be understanding of that. How about trying a long-weekend city break with a short flight and seeing how that goes? We had a lovely weekend in Copenhagen last year. And worst comes to the worse, you can always get an earlier flight home.

So that's my waffly answer! Don't know if it is any help?!

Miami Thank you so much. Support is very much needed at the moment!

Emily Sending positive thoughts your way and try and relax the best you can!

I know you're right but some times the TWW literally seems to go on for all of eternity! As lovely as holidays are, I struggle with my mind not being occupied so hopefully once I'm back at work next week time will go a bit quicker.

Thanks for the positivity Anne. I'm desperately hoping it could be implantation bleeding but it is looking more and more like the spotting I always get for a few days before AF. I think I may have ovulated around CD11 this month which would make AF due around Tuesday. Anyway, you're not out until you're out as they say.

I do like a nice holiday run, what can I say! DH however hated every minute. And at least I don't have to feel so guilty about just having fish and chips for lunch!

Have a wonderful weekend Miami, let you hair down! Relaxing is as good for you and your eggs as clean living (probably) so enjoy yourself

I don't want to be unhelpful emily but at this point in your cycle it sounds much more like implantation than af. I was reading about cycles the other day and it was saying that the time between ov and af is standard, so when your cycle is longer or shorter it's to do with you ov date changing.

All sorts seems to change post mc but if I were you I wouldn't give up hope yet. I'm very impressed with your running. Aren't you meant to be on holiday relaxing?

Hmmmmm. Went for a run this morning which seems to have brought on some reddy/brown spotting. DH's pessimistic pep-talk seems to have done the trick and I think the witch might just be coming early for me this month .

Thank you Emily.

Got another blood test on Wednesday so might wait till then. But definitely lost all my pregnancy symptoms.

I'm not sure how many DPO I am Anne. I'm guessing around 8?

Step away from the IC crazy! As Anne says they all pick up different levels of hormone and AF isn't due until tomorrow so all is not lost.

Welcome claire. So sorry for your loss. Generally the wait for a period advice is for dating and so you definitely know it is a new pregnancy but I think go with whatever feels comfortable for your.

Miami I hope you enjoy your girly London weekend and let your hair down a little.

When will you get your results from the swab Mulder?

Sending hugs clare
I waited for my period but I had an ERPC - probs wouldn't have bothered if I didn't. X