Thread 25. TTC #1 - February Fertility Fighters on the FRONTLINE

Oh EJ that's shit. We all know exactly how you're feeling - moan away here!

Everyone's talk of alcohol free beer has prompted me to be good and buy some of the 0% Bavaria stuff this evening, along with decaff tea and coffee. I don't really think it makes any difference at all (not the amount of caffeine I drink, anyway) but I do occasionally get hit with the guilts.

The tea tasted fine so I won't find it hard to stick to that; although will keep to the proper stuff for my cuppa first thing in the morning.

Glad you and your DH have had a good make-up session Jam. Sounds like you are able to communicate really well despite your blow-ups and that is a huuuge plus point for your relationship - and great sign for keeping on track with FW. I hope he starts pulling his weight with the house stuff soon, though.

Welcome Glitter!

Sk1pper, you poor thing, your AF sounds awful. I'm assuming you've tried all the hard hitting drugs you can?

Macs I'm similar to you. Not been monitoring this cycle but think I'm towards the start of the TWW if this cycle is going to be 30-33 days again. No symptom spotting going on here though - none to spot sadly.

Alexia hope you're doing okay if you're reading.

Kwick still thinking of you

Oh EJ, it never gets any easier does it?

Welcome glittery, sending you lots of good thoughts for the TWW.

Good luck to you too macs, totally admire your zen this month.

Ugh sk1pper, glad you're feeling a bit better now but not a moment too soon.

I've found a 90s playlist on Spotify and have been singing along all evening. DH is really 'enjoying' it...

Macs sounds like a few of us have been taking the chilled approach, well done sticking with it!

Skipper sorry it's ruined your weekend, that sucks ☹️ hope you're through the worst of it now

Welcome glittery 😊

EJ that's tough to see 😕 hope you're not waiting much longer

Anyone watching Mrs Doubtfire? I still can't believe Robin Williams is really gone 😔

EJ

EJ, I know they say you never know the journey others have been on but doesn't stop you being pissed off does it?

Here is something to piss the crap out of all of us. We have just been baby bombed with a scan picture from our friends that got married in effing october. I literally cried (not at them, i had the grace to wait a bit).

Sorry about AF gee, wishing you the best of luck with IVF. It sounds complicated but no doubt worth it

Sucks having your weekend spoilt by AF sk1pper, glad you are starting to feel better.

Hi glitter, FX for you, hope the TWW doesn't drive you too crazy!

Hi, can I hop on?
Age:27
Ttc #1
Cycle 2
Cd 17, 26 day cycles so due 22nd

Sitting in the 2 week window, had very positive opk Tuesday evening and Wednesday morning so think I ovulated late Wednesday/or Thursday so 3 or 4 dpo.

Sorry to all those who have recently had bad news or af has arrived, congrats to those with bfps and fx to everyone for this cycle being the one!

It's quite a process gee. What's downregging and stims?

Pyjamas - thanks, I've just ordered some of that beer for my food delivery tomorrow. I really, really wanted a drink this weekend but I resisted - it will be nice to have a drink next Friday and not feel guilty. Can't help you with your DH though, he's obviously going through some issues right now. Maybe the stress of TTC is just taking its toll on him but he really shouldn't be taking it out on you.

Geeup - I was really, really hoping that you'd get a surprise BFP and wouldn't need to start the IVF. I'm really sorry its come to this but please stick around to let us know how you get on. Do you know if you can request the IVF to start after a certain date? Or is it just as and when the NHS states?

My whole weekend has been ruined by AF, nothing seems to help with this pain. I've been in and out of hot baths, in and out of bed (often wet from the bath), have a red mark on my belly from my hot water bottle, have taken over the recommended daily painkiller amount and only just starting to feel better now.

Congratulations Poppet you're the same as me, no symptoms and other months I've convinced myself of every symptom going and they were all BFNs!

And thank you to everyone for your lovely messages. I am following your journeys and can't wait to see you all get your BFPs!

And fx AF stays away for you macs!!

Sorry gee hope your IVF journey is as smooth as it can be

Wow, a couple of days off and there's so much to catch up on! You ladies are so chatty, it's great!

gee sorry about AF but good luck with the next step. The IVF process sounds complicated! Where are you on that? The AF starting bit?

pyjamas so sorry your DH is acting like a bit of a dick. As others have said, if he's getting upset about Nanny State there must be something else going on! Inspector, I loved the research weapon you've produced to win the argument.

kath I know how you feel, I find it a bit of a struggle getting back into the DTD but doesn't take long to get into the swing!

I second binky, thanks for the yoga with Adrienne recommendation. I've been really enjoying it, as has DH! Although has anyone noticed that she seems to look different in every video?!

Hi vi 👋🏼

Congratulations poppet. We needed a bit of happiness on this thread to help us remember that's it's actually possible!

I'm somewhere in the TWW. Went for the relaxed approach this month and the lack of opks has been really good. It's a bit weird now though because my cycles vary in length but my luteal phase is always the same so not sure when AF is due. There have been a few symptoms spotting moments that I'm trying so hard to ignore!

London (and anyone else wondering about NHS IVF) my experience was:

• Referred by NHS fertility consultant
• Complete paperwork and all necessary tests that need redoing including smear in my case
• Get approval for funding confirmed by CCG
• Get appointments confirmed by your clinic (depending on waiting times)
• Have another ultrasound and sperm test done by clinic
• Have a joint first appointment
• Wait for AF to start
• Have implications appointment together
• Start downregging then stims
• Then egg retrieval
• Then IVF/ICSI
• Embryos in
• TWW
• Test

Sorry AF showed up again. Here's to your next journey and wishing you all the best and sticky beans xxx

Sorry gee but onwards and upwards now to getting closer to being a mum. What are the next steps with starting IVF?

Hello girls just catching up

Congratulations poppet! Wonderful news 🎈

Welcome newbies jump onboard 😊

Sorry about BFN hep but you're not out yet

Oh skipper your bathroom situation sounds SO stressful! How can they just leave things like that to us? The responsibility really needs to be shared when it's such big stressful things. Sorry AF has been rubbish, it's the salt in the wound isn't it 🌷🌼

Pyjamas very glad to hear your DH came around. Espresso martini sounds just the ticket! We did make up yesterday too - we had a big heart to heart and he said he knows it's not normal that he's unable to make decisions and he's so held back by anxiety and fear of the unknown / lack of control. He has promised to get some help with it as he feels it's holding him back in other ways too. Music to my ears. I really don't want him regretting anything he should be living his life to the full and he deserves to be happy.

Oh dear I've just seen your Nanny State update. He was so close! It does sound like he's got a bee in his bonnet, and I agree with kath about the lack of control and the frustration of it all getting to you. They really need to try and bear in mind what we are going through though.

Kath I felt like that at day 5 too, it's so boring finding the energy time after time. I'm day 10 now and happily back on it though if that helps.

Binky EOD is really suiting my DH , I think it's a sound approach. I'm telling the voice in my head saying it's not enough to shut up. After all I've had more cycles than I can count where we've done it every sodding day in fw and it made no difference !

I'm sorry about AF gee. Wishing you lots of luck on the next stage of your journey

Thanks London and inspector for thinking of me. CD1 here exactly as expected with period pain to match so now onwards to my first IVF cycle. New chapter...

Rant away pyjamas. If I was being charitable, I would guess that maybe he's stressed about stuff he can't control so is trying to control what he can. But I'm not really that charitable and certainly wouldn't feel that way if it was my DH. Hope he comes to his senses bloody quickly!

I did a yoga with adriene video yesterday that was a core workout. I only managed half of it but I'm still in so much pain today!

Who knows what's got into him - all I know is that the weekend has been ruined because he's decided to turn into a judgemental twat since Friday. I'm currently holed up in the spare room/woman cave with my laptop and Netflix and he's gone out. If he wants to come and talk to me he can. The most ridiculous thing is that all of this is because he doesn't think what I do helps us ttc. So him being a total moron resulting in dtd being the absolute last thing I want to do is better is it?!

Sorry guys - I know I've been ranty for a while now, I will snap out of it!

Also, going back a while- I've finally tried out yoga with Adrienne and although it's depressed me with how out of shape I am, feel really good for doing it. Thanks for the recommendation whoever it was that suggested it! Excellent option when it's so bloody cold outside!❄️

I second carley- it sounds like your husband has a bee in their bonnet about something pyjamas as can't see why non-alcoholic beer is a problem! What a pain in the arse. Hope he sorts himself out soon and you can have some fun with this headfuck of TTC

We need to get back on the DTD action as haven't since AF hit last week. Not sure I can be bothered! 😬Think we will continue with EOD approach (as keeps DH from getting too freaked out) but might use my OPKs again after a few weird cycles, see where I am with things

FX for you Claire, hope AF stays away for you!

Think I am getting the hang of FF Alexia, although only starting temping tomorrow so I will be calling on your chart expertise soon

Hope you're ok Binky, hopefully a bit of time off has been good for you.

Congratulations Poppet! Lovely news

Wow Vi those are some crazy long cycles! I would be inclined to go to your doctor now rather than waiting 6 months given your cycles.

Sorry about BFN Hep, FX it was just too early.

Goodness Pyjamas how on earth can he have a problem with non-alcoholic beer?! Do you think he could just be having a stress about TTC (or something unrelated?) at the moment and unfairly taking it out on you?