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Thread 25. TTC #1 - February Fertility Fighters on the FRONTLINE

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AlexiaB · 31/01/2017 17:40

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We've ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar, and we don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

We have a new Grad's Thread. We recently lost a whole load of ttc veterans to the good side and we're absolutely desperate to join in the fun! May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Thread 25. TTC #1 - February Fertility Fighters on the FRONTLINE
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Pugmummy87 · 03/02/2017 20:21

Oh jam I'm so so sorry. Cry if you need too, it's not weak at all.

Alexia I'm sorry about your bfn. I can understand the feeling of doing everything perfectly and still not getting the result you want. I usually say that women's instincts are usually right and we know when something hadn't worked, but I really do hope that they are wrong on this occasion and AF stays away.

Ladies, this process is so damn hard and tests us to our absolute limits, but I'm certain that one day we will get our babies, whatever route we have to take. So much love to you both. Flowers❤❤

harriet your symptoms sound promising!

Out of the blue I have developed a chesty cough. And now I'm wondering if that is affecting my temps as again it dipped this morning. Or egg is just not a good one this month.

Kathrino · 03/02/2017 19:34

My heart goes out to you both Alexia and Jam. Nobody would deny for a second how hard this whole process is and how much it destroys your belief in yourself and makes you question everything in your life. I doubt there's anything I can say that will make either of you feel any better but I hope, if nothing else, that this has shown you how immensely strong you both are and how you can face one of the worst things in the world and still come out fighting. That's something to be incredibly proud of Flowers

harrietm87 · 03/02/2017 19:29

alexia you're not definitely out though are you? Really sorry that you're feeling so down and don't mean to get your hopes up, but isn't there still a chance as AF hasn't arrived?

I'm trying to talk myself out of testing tomorrow at 9dpo even though the clearblue test says it could work...(with 65% accuracy). Tell me to back away!

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AlexiaB · 03/02/2017 18:49

Thank you Jam, you're such a sweetheart. It is the hardest thing I've ever done and it eats away at me every day. I feel like a failure. I broke down last month with the CP but managed to pick myself back up by focusing on this cycle being successful. Being pregnant for my birthday and having an October anniversary due date. It's was bound to come crashing down.

I feel like that too. I'm giving myself until June (because I can't miss these crucial good schooling months) and then I'm 100% taking a break. Loads of love to you. Hope your DH treats you this weekend to help put a smile back on your face ❤️😙💜

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Londonjam · 03/02/2017 18:38

Alexia it's not dramatic at all, this is how it is and it's the hardest thing. It's tested me more than anything and at times I question if I can keep doing it. I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad please take care of yourself and know we are here for you 💙🌷🌹🌸🌺💐🌼

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AlexiaB · 03/02/2017 18:36

Just wanted to say thank you all for your kind messages. The support you show me means so much Flowers I know I'm prematurely breaking down but I feel out already. It's my birthday next week too and that's affecting me thinking straight. Last year I got AF at 10am on my birthday and nothing has changed since. There's nothing to celebrate once again.

I've been talking/crying my eyes out on the phone to my mum for most of the afternoon. She now truly understands how upset I am about this and how much this has beaten me down for the last 2 years. She wants me to see the Dr and get antidepressants on Monday.

Music yes my luteal phase has extended as I'm 11dpo today but I feel out already so it doesn't help much. We did everything perfectly this cycle. Loads of sex, softcups, Femara. I have a triphasic chart so I know my progesterone/egg was good. I'm just totally fed up.

Thinking of you Jam - this is so shit Flowers

Love to everyone else Flowers Sorry for being so dramatic. I might step back for a bit until I'm feeling better xxx

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Londonjam · 03/02/2017 18:25

Thanks so much for your support girls it really means an awful lot. I come on here and see these messages and I feel this huge amount of warmth from all of you caring people and I don't feel so alone in this.

Wishing all of you onto BFP s

Musicgrrl · 03/02/2017 17:07

jam crying doesn't mean you're not strong. You are strong. Let yourself cry if you need it, there's no weakness in that.

So sorry for your BFN this morning alexia. Is this longer than your usual LP now? That's a positive to focus on if so (I know it might not feel like it right now.)

FX for all upcoming testers and LSFX for those in FW!

sk1pper · 03/02/2017 16:49

Winging - oh there is absolutely no question that we will have our BFPS by Christmas.

WingingIt83 · 03/02/2017 14:44

So sorry jam , know exactly how you feel, hang in there xx

What's really helped me is putting a longer term goal on it. ... ie aiming for bfp before Christmas as opposed to next month.

kwick · 03/02/2017 13:12

jam I really do not know why it has to be this hard Flowers every step of this journey feels so precarious and so damn hard! (((Mahoosive hug)))

Ranting is good macs... better out than in!!!

miranda actually have been quite effective this morning and got some lingering jobs done - must be that Friday feeling!! Although now I feel like going home early and having a schnooze... 😴 but shall persevere... at least have nice dinner to look forward to with cuz.
Also am going to see Rent tomorrow in Eastbourne!!! My social life is either famine or feast!

alexia I must have missed your BFN - still LSFX for you!!!

Okay back to the grindstone - still have 18 appraisals to write...

Kaydee2017 · 03/02/2017 13:06

You never know pyjamas, a lot seem to get their BFP when they least expect it / aren't optimistic!!

MissyJones80s · 03/02/2017 12:33

alexia my temp seems to be all over the place I don't know if it's because of this darn cold or what but I'm taking it each day when I wake its gone from 36.10 to 36.93 and now it's 36.64 I'm guessing it's the cold possibly who knows

Mrsbluebell17 · 03/02/2017 12:33

Kathrino is right Jam, I think we were all routing for you. I'm so so sorry! Keep up the pma though, I really admire you for that.

Alexia - you're not out yet, try and keep positive. A few more days could give you that BFP you want.

I woke up this morning feeling queasy and also with a slight feeling like I get before AF in my abdomen. Fingers crossed I'm not in for another short cycle! Let's hope for BFPs all round in the next couple of weeks!

MissyJones80s · 03/02/2017 12:25

sorry about painful AF jam hope it eases up soon, take care.

alexia you might still be in you I never know what with having irregular cycle lengths and so on...fx for you

sk1pper · 03/02/2017 11:48

Jam - don't give up Jam, you will get there eventually I promise you. It's just not the easy journey you would of hoped. It's easy to say, I know I'll be a quivering wreck when AF arrives and I'm not one of those people who gets a BFP from a HSG. But it is what it is. PM me if you want to chat privately about anything, I'll be a sounding board for your anxiety and frustration. Xxx

Pyjamas81 · 03/02/2017 11:43

Very interesting Harriet - I would be suspicious if I had that as well! Don't blame you for testing. I'm waiting until next Saturday so will be 16dpo - am giving AF every chance in the world to show up!

Thanks for the luck kaydee 😊 Don't know why, but I'm just not optimistic this month - I've probably gone into self-preservation mode.

harrietm87 · 03/02/2017 11:36

pyjamas no more spotting. Still some cramps. Main one is constant low level of nausea - feel like I need to be eating all the time. However my boobs are not remotely sore/sensitive/tingly which was the main sign for me last time with my CP. I'm meant to be testing weds at 13 dpo but might try Sunday 10dpo if still feel like this.

Kaydee2017 · 03/02/2017 11:31

Thanks ladies - was particularly tough on DH as they are close, but it does make you appreciate what's important in life!!

Sorry AF got you jam, take time & be kind to yourself Flowers

Have my fx for you alexia!!

And fx for pyjamas & Harriett - half way through the TWW Grin

Definitely Wine all round macs, think we deserve it!

geeup · 03/02/2017 11:24

Yes alexia you're still in till the lady in the red dress shows up!** Got everything crossed.

Pyjamas81 · 03/02/2017 11:07

So sorry jam - you must be hurting. Your time will come and I really hope your appointment gives you some answers.

Sorry about BFN Alexia - it's really a kick in the gut seeing them 🙁 You're still not out yet, and I bet you're stronger than you think you are xx

I feel exactly the same today Harriet - absolutely no symptoms today. Not one. I really don't think this is our month, but we'll see. What are your symptoms? Still spotting? Hang in there!!

harrietm87 · 03/02/2017 10:54

pyjamas how are you feeling today? Any symptoms yet? I've gone a bit mad with symptom spotting so really need to calm down now.

Is anyone testing over the next few days? I tried to find the list but thread has moved so quickly I couldn't find it!

geeup · 03/02/2017 10:52

Oh jam I'm gutted for you. I totally understand your pain. The only
Hope I can offer us you're one cycle closer to being pregnant. It will happen eventually and you're just crossing off the months. Remind me when your appointment is with the fertility clinic?

Kathrino · 03/02/2017 09:57

Oh Jam, I think I can speak for us all when I say that we were really rooting for you this cycle. I'm so sorry. You so deserve that BFP. I hope your appointment in a few weeks can give you something to focus on but I know it doesn't make it any easier. Take care of yourself Flowers

Alexia, the same goes for you too lovely. I'm so sorry for today's BFN Flowers

What a stressful few weeks you've had kaydee, glad it's all sorted now.

Just picked up all my blood test results from the docs. Nothing in them to suggest any problems at all which is both good and bad because I was half hoping they'd reveal something that could be easily fixed. Onwards to the next lot of tests I guess. Gearing myself up for lots of fanjo poking.

Charley2016 · 03/02/2017 09:51

Mouse I'm so sorry! I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Lots of TLC! XFlowers

Jam so sorry about AF. Here's to next month being your month Wine

Alexia you're not out until AF shows. FX for you!

I have nausea, stomach cramps and a headache today! Although that's most likely because of the cocktails yesterday Blush that was my last night out and the spa was lush so now for no drinking, no junk food and lots of clean living!

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