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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Destination conception ... route PMA.

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Hippychic79 · 22/01/2017 14:32

Ok so I am bravely attempting to set up a new thread for anyone tTC.
Plug in your stats ...
Share the highs of your journey
Limit the lows - yes it's a challenging time but being negative gets you down.
I'm thinking positivity breeds positivity and positive thinking gets positive results -
It may take some of us a little longer than others ... but does that matter? I think not.

New rules - instead of saying af due ... we say bfp due ...

So here goes ... my stats
Age 38
Cycle 3
Bfp due 14/02

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Roseandbee · 07/02/2017 17:41

Oh also if your periods aren't regular I'd maybe track for a second surge as sometimes your periods are late because you ovulated late, which might've been because the first surge didn't work (just a thought)

Roseandbee · 07/02/2017 17:38

Hi all just to clarify on what I learnt from my research about the double surge, sometimes our body gears up to ovulate but for some reason doesn't realease the egg. It will then do another LH surge and try again. If your just starting ttc I wouldnt worry about this, I was tracking because I've been a long time off bc without a bfp and I was getting my bloods done that month to see if I ovulate so wanted all the info I could get incase I got a low result on my progesterone level which would indicate I didn't ovulate (results came out ok thankfully)
The most common reason you don't ovulate is illness or stress, so if you think that might be an issues it's maybe worth doing a few more opks that month, or just keep bding till u feel better lol

Sarah I'm giving you a pea addict high five! I tried to grow them last year too but only got a few pods, I think a pea straight out of the pod is one of the best things in the world.

Lol Hippy at your pea vape idea, they should just do those for pea addicts for when peas aren't in season. My husbands stopped vaping now but did it a lot last year.

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 12:36

Archie's- good news about your test results too xxx

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 11:53

Archie's - you see you're probably only on cycle 4 ... it just seems longer cuz you made the decision tTC 10months ago .... and I for one totally get that. I stupidly thought I could choose which month my child is born in and ideally I wanted an August baby as my birthday is in January and it's a rubbish month in my opinion to have a birthday... I didn't really want a December or January baby ... but if I don't see my bfp soon then that's what I'll get ... law of the sod sometimes :))) oh well ... I made my decision tTC back in September and right now I couldn't care which I give birth in I just want a baby :))) lol

Hiya Phase - I'm not sure what a double surge is, I just read it a few pages back on this thread ... it's probably rare ... I was just using it as another example of how easy it is to rack the cycle months of tTC up.

Fx my will power holds out ref - not poas :)) I'll keep you posted ladies
And sorry to hear you have thrush Phase - sorry I don't have any advice on that one
... hope it clears up in time for fw
Xxx

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ArchiesMamaBird · 07/02/2017 10:51

Itsjustaphase I had thrush last week too. I used the pessary from the chemist for it. I've heard that that's the safest treatment if there's a chance that you could be pregnant. (Although I used the fluconazole tablet when I was pregnant with DS, it was really early on and I had no clue I had conceived, but it didn't do him any harm Smile)

Itsjustaphase84 · 07/02/2017 10:40

Hey all. I'm 5dpo, cd22. Due18/02. I think i have thrush!!! Noooo, my partner thinks he has it too. Any idea what's effective if Im TTC? Hopefully it clears by next Fw.

Also what's a double surge in opks? Not heard of this before. Anyone any ideas. Ooooh fingers crossed for you Hippy and you're doing so well avoiding poas.keep hanging on there x

ArchiesMamaBird · 07/02/2017 10:36

Hippychic You're so right, for those first few months that we were ttc I wasn't even working out when my fw was. We were in the middle of renovating a house and DH was coming home late at night and exhausted, so we probably weren't even DTD that much, let alone around the fw. And we were really lucky with DS, he was a happy accident, so I didn't have any of this ttc malarkey to deal with. I honestly thought that we'd conceive the first month we tried again Grin

I went to the doctors last month (told a little white lie that we'd been trying for 12 months when really it was 9) and she didn't seem worried at all. She sent me for bloods to test my hormone levels (apparently it's quite common for your hormones to never go back to normal after having a baby), and I got the results yesterday which came back as normal. She also said that the fertility specialist won't see me until May, which will be a year since my periods became regular again after coming off the pill last Feb.

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 10:22

*read not rad - sorry x

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 10:20

FlowersWineCake Archie's - I echo what AJE says ... be kind to yourself, allow yourself to cry for a bit and get all the anger and sadness out ... we all do it, well I certainly do anyway - back in december i was convinced I was upduffed and when I poas and got a bfn i was an emotional wreck for 24 hours - oh was shell shocked and didn't know what to do bless him (I couldn't even tell him why as he doesn't know how hard I'm tTC) so had to blame it on hormones and the winter!
I've read it can take up to 12 months too on average - and I think from personal experience that you can't count every cycle since you consciously started tTC... the first few months I was completely naive to it all I'd been brainwashed to believe that if you have sex in fw you get pregnant ... what a fool I was ... I didn't even know how to use opks properly until cycle 4... and like one lady said on here (i think it was rose but I can't remember sorry) sometimes the opk says we are about to ovulate and it's a false surge and then we actually do ovualate... and we don't always continue to use opks once we've got that positive so how would we know if this happened to us? I also think (possibly controversially here) that dtd too much in fw and not enough the rest of the month can be problematic - I've rad that some men's sperm needs longer to regenerate than others so the quality over quantity principle could be at work... sorry I'm probably just waffling shit ...

Thank you Moo - but I have you ladies to thank for keeping me positive and for keeping my mind off poas

Xxx

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ArchiesMamaBird · 07/02/2017 10:13

Moo Thank you Smile Yes I also heard that it takes up to 12 months, and that even with perfectly timed DTD we all only have a 20% chance each month of conceiving (I didn't want to post this statistic because I feel it goes against the PMA of this thread Hmm) but it makes me feel a bit better knowing that it's completely normal to still be trying after 9 months.

Moo31 · 07/02/2017 09:52

Hippy - admire your willpower re not poas especially with that little devil on your shoulder telling you to do it!

MamaBird - that sounds lovely for tonight :) be kind to yourself. Also I always feel better after an early cycle cry - just let it all out! I read somewhere that the average is 12 months so don't be hard on yourself. Stay positive :)

ArchiesMamaBird · 07/02/2017 09:32

AJE Thank you so much. DS is staying at my DM's tonight, so me and DH are having a mini date night and I think I'll end it with a relaxing bath and wine to cheer me up a bit (smile) xx

AJE84 · 07/02/2017 09:18

Sending love MammaBird - what can you do to pamper yourself & show yourself some love today? Warm bubble bath with a glass of wine? I love to give myself a mini facial or get my nails done - even just getting my eyebrows threaded can be a mood booster.

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ArchiesMamaBird · 07/02/2017 09:02

Morning ladies! AF due today, I've been charting BBT this month and its dropped slightly the last few days so I'm 99% sure that AF will be here any minute. I'm feeling a bit down and emotional like I always do on CD1, but I'm nowhere near as bad as I usually am, and I think I have this thread and all your positive vibes to thank for that Smile

This will be cycle 10 for us. We're taking prenatal vits, eating well, and staying active. We're using OPK's I'm charting BBT and CM and we've used conceive plus this month too. So I honestly don't know why it's taking so long Sad But I'm going to try and be as positive as I can this month ant try not to symptom check in the 2ww (yeah right Grin)

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 08:58

You're welcome Moo :)

Rose - I can see your logic in testing early - slowly getting used to the fact that the witch may turn up is a positive in a negative situation, although you do end up googling stats on early false negatives :)) Is you DH still vaping? I think i will continue to vape until i get my BFP.

I didn't realise what IC meant either - so thank you ladies :))

Salem - Happy Birthday, can't remember which day you said it was, so sorry if i'm too early or too late with my well wishes :)

This thread is moving fast now, it is hard to keep up especially on your phone!

I wouldn't worry too much about the pea thing either ladies, maybe the pea addicts should cut down a little, although sadly i don't think they do pea patches or pea flavour vape :)) I personally think that we are all doing the very best we can and our BFP's are just round the corner I'm sure.

Sarahb - good to hear your periods are less painful, mine aren't too bad these days either thank god... its bad enough getting them when you want to be pregnant let alone having to feel like shit!

Reference the allergies ladies - I see a naturopath and she's really good at recommending supplements that are helping to correct my allergies. I can't digest dairy either (although i make an exception to Haagen Daaz) so I used goats milk, goats butter and goats cheese - its much easier to digest albeit a little pricey.

CD24 for me today of a 26-29 day cycle... I will not POAS, I will not POAS, I will not POAS.... fx i stay strong on this :) I do have FRER's at home which clearly state you can test 6 days early... tempting.... I also noticed on the instructions within the FRER packet that there's a money off voucher on your next pack... just thought I'd let you all know :)

Have a lovely day ladies
xxxx

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Charley2016 · 07/02/2017 08:53

Yeh not due until Friday. I just saw that a few people last night got their BFPs on the IC and they were only 9-10dpo. Although as you say, not over until Friday. Thanks Smile

Moo31 · 07/02/2017 08:47

Thank you for the inspiration hippy! :)

Moo31 · 07/02/2017 08:46

Morning all! Stay positive Charley - bfp not due until Friday right? Maybe a little early in testing yet. Stay positive!

Charley2016 · 07/02/2017 08:18

Good morning ladies! Another IC - another blank white. Knew o wouldn't be able to hold out haha! Hope you all have a lovely Tuesday Smile

bakingmad83 · 07/02/2017 07:37

Morning!

Yes Sweetcheeks, always pack a standby lunch too! At the mo DS is still young enough to feel ok giving him our own food in a café, but expect when he gets a bit busy may get some comments. I always do try to order something, but if there isn't anything suitable, what can you do! I'm hoping that any subsequent children don't have allergies, but know it's more likely in siblings. Trying to add a bit of dairy and soya back in my diet, as he doesn't seem to react to more processed foods via my milk, and read that if you avoid allergens in pregnancy when you have one with an allergy, subsequent can end up more highly allergic. Don't want that as two allergies and digestive symptoms is bad enough! But compared to serious illnesses allergies are nothing, so grateful that's all that's wrong :)

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Hippychic79 · 07/02/2017 06:40

Happy Tuesday lovelies xxx

Destination conception ... route PMA.
Destination conception ... route PMA.
Destination conception ... route PMA.
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sweetcheeks24 · 06/02/2017 23:08

You've convinced me, Sarah! I need to know 'something is going on down there' too!
Baking-YES! Eating out is an absolute nightmare. Do you find you always need to pack a boatload of snacks and back up food just in case you can't find anywhere to go when you're out and about?? Yep hopefully their allergies will make a sharp exit soon! Smile

sarahboro1 · 06/02/2017 22:55

Thanks sweetcheeks, thankfully I seem to have grown out of it now!! I would recommend opks I think they actually make me calmer knowing something is happening down there and we're giving it our best shot st catching it!!

Moo I haven't looked into anything baby gearish yet other than how to break the news and what theme I'd like for the nursery.....😂 Xx

bakingmad83 · 06/02/2017 22:50

Allergies make things tricky for the food shop and eating out don't they. Hopefully our little ones will grow out of them Sweetcheeks :)

sweetcheeks24 · 06/02/2017 22:34

Baking, BF made me ravenous too! Agree that you really do need an energy burst during these times - it's almost impossible to snack healthily with an infant hanging off your boob! Oh dear - I can sympathise as DS is allergic to dairy, eggs and nuts however he didn't react through my milk, so I didn't have it as bad as you!

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