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Please knock some sense into me - Ds 3 months old... time for a third?

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Kif · 24/02/2007 15:31

Anyone got small gaps between kids?
What's it like? Do you recomend it?

I'm breastfeeding - so should be ok - but can't help but notice how me and dh have a conspiracy of being careless with contraception at the moment... chats about 'I wonder what a third would be like'... all the danger signs.

It's a bad idea - right?

On the pro:
*my current babies are luverly - what in the world is better than kids;
*I don't have to decide about working or not - briefly return then another lot of mat leave;
*Edwardian sized families are so cool;
*each baby gets easier, right?

But then again:
*I was really looking forward to letting rip to my vices (laaarge cool Chardonnay for me please - make it a bottle);
*what if something goes wrong? Should we tempt fate?
*Aren't you meant to space pregnancies for health reasons
*will I ever sleep again? Will the fug of exhaustion ever lift?
*will my middle born develop violent tendencies seeking attention
*We'd have to move house, change car

  • I'm still fat! And I'll get FATTER! *was it only three months ago that we swore never again?
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LadyTophamHatt · 24/02/2007 15:55

Oh and BTW, so far going from 3-4 has been the easiest increase in the family....

I'll look forward to the PG annoucmenet from you Kif

LadyTophamHatt · 24/02/2007 15:53

"*was it only three months ago that we swore never again? "

Ha! I can beat that, it's not even 6 weeks since I had my 4th and he's such a gorgeous bundle of baggy skin and pudginess that I'd do it all again in a heartbeat....and I had a bloody awful PG and birth so to hear myself say that is shocking.

Go for it, wouldn't it be awful if in 3, 4, 5, however many yrs time you regret not having a 3rd and then it's too late to try....

BuffysMum · 24/02/2007 15:51

If I had time on my side and not got divorced after the first I'd have done the 2+2 scenario other wise you may end up with 3 big gap +1 and I think 2+2 is probably nicer for them - you don't have to leave a decade between though!

Original poster
Kif · 24/02/2007 15:49

I'm 26 - at this rate my family really will be edwardian....

post natal irrational broodiness?

the deal was always 2+2 . These lo, then a decade off, then same again.

I'm just really enjoying motherhood this time round - more fun with 2 - almost want to play my advantage... Master Kif's unprecedented sweet nature may be lulling me into a false sense of security.

NAB - why 3 harder than 2?

Medically, is there a 'minimum safe gap'? Remember hearing something about uterus needing rest, or something...

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NAB3 · 24/02/2007 15:46

3 is a lot harder than two but I guess that depends on the age gap for you......

BuffysMum · 24/02/2007 15:46

my third baby was horrendous ended up with a 4th partly to erase the awfulness of the first 6 months with the 3rd! Only you can decide what you really want to do but a bigger gap would give your body more time to recover a smaller gap is lovely as they grow up.

foxtrot · 24/02/2007 15:39

Been there done that, got the muffin top and the eyebags to match. Go for it, it's mad but fun

FrannyandZooey · 24/02/2007 15:39

Having 3 children under 5 is one of the indicators for being prone to a mental illness

which gives you some idea how stressful it can be

nature does seem to want us to spread our pregnancies out a bit more - in cultures where they breastfeed on cue and for longer periods than we normally do in the West, the gap between children is on average 3 and three quarter years.

Are you old? Is there a good reason not to wait? Have you forgotten this feeling from the last time? (even I had bonkers 3 month post natal broodiness and I am Mrs Child Spacing)

3sEnough · 24/02/2007 15:36

The third is hard work...the first year is hideous! After the first year though it's the best thing ever but why don't you wait another couple of months and then decide - as you say bf should help in any case.

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