#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

Good afternoon ladies,

Over past few weeks I read through all previous threads and got to know your journey and little big victories. I'm have to say that I'm very glad I found you, especially Shoes, since she did it the Denmark way.

Shortly about me:
30 (turning 31 in 2017), single
In touch with a clinic in Denmark
First IUI attempt to be done in May 2017
Living in Belgium

I have been considering donor IUI as an option for me for several years already, but got serious about the plan in summer 2016. I have decided to have my first try only in May 2017, as I have a big trip to Oz planned in March, so I gave myself some time to firstly get checked and then to recover.
So, while waiting for May to happen, I went to see my GYN here in BE to check if everything works ok. My blood tests results showed a mild hypothyroidism, so the doctor prescribed me 25g of thyroxine daily.
I hope that the medication will work well and that all levels will be within limits in May.

Now I have a more serious task to do - to choose a donor. We'll see how that goes.

Shoes, do you have any special advice for those choosing the Denmark way? So far, I'm decided to wait for 1DC in May and then book flights & hotel for days that would cover the LH surge period.

To close my opening post I'd like to say - thanks ladies, you are all a great source of inspiration to me!

So sorry to read about your loss Ever

Just checking in briefly. No new news. It's my 40th birthday. Today. Have been interviewing all morning and am currently drinking free coffee and cake with a birthday voucher. Back off to work again afterwards.

Have a call booked in from the clinic tomorrow as the open day was full but I might need to be at a work thing so might have to re-arrange.

Will update again when have something to report.

I'm on 11dpiui and tested on FMU so I still have some hope

Sorry to have raised your expectations, but the big red brand isn't as exciting as you think! It's one on then main retail banks and starts with an S . Head office used to be in Milton Keynes and half of the town's people work here or have at least one relative who does!

Hi,

Quick recommendation - if you are thinking about or are successful via donor conception, I can recommend the DC Network. We started going to their conferences when I was pregnant (donor IUI) and have been going most years. They have different topics each year and also discussion groups. Our son has been to the youth group where the talk about their backgrounds.
They are also helpful if you have questions or want to know more about it.

All the best to you,

Belle

Pez - I think you're only 11dpiui today? Even using an FRER that is very early. The very earliest I've ever had a positive line is on the evening of 12dpiui and it has been very faint.

Good plan to hold on until Thursday to test again.

I too am wondering what the big red brand is. My only guess is the one that begins with V?

Kwick - I consider your apathy re work and your need to nap to be a very good sign The apathy hasn't worn off here...

Ah, I love MK. and the big red brand!

Big. Not bid!

Stork I travel to mk once or twice every week as this is where my team is based (I work for the bid red brand )

Ah Pez thats where I live!! Sorry about the BFN, but lets hope it changes to a BFP!!

I got the worst AF of my life while still taking the pessaries (GROSS!) before I was supposed to test. It was the worst. shudder.

Ever so I live in Milton Keynes, which is only 25mins away from the Care Northampton clinic. And they won't use Cryos due to zika, and the fact that apparently they are a little fast a loose with the family numbers. Care as a clinic are a little prim and proper (though lovely) so if they aren't happy with one small aspect of something they will ban it!
If you want to meet up we can - I split my time between cambridge and MK, but just let me know.

Hi everyone else!

Oh and pickle, forgot to say but I too dream that one day we can all meet up with our little ones

I thought FRER could pick it up a few days earlier. But good to know I tested early. What day did you get your faint line?

Is your scan today kwick?

To answer your question on panty liners, I must have some sort of intolerance to the material and never wear them (apart from a few these days but I'd rather ruin my knickers than end with thrush - tmi I know!)

So I cracked this morning and took a FRER which was a BFN. I'll take another one on Thursday when I'm on 13dpiui. I can tell that if AF is coming it's doing to be the worst (I always get light ones) but at least it will be over the weekend.

On my way to Milton Keynes and the trains into central London that aren't cancelled are absolutely packed. Finally got a seat after having my boobies squashed between people's bags for 20min - good thing they're not tender!

Awe kwick that's horrible you poor thing!!! Dreams can feel so real :( It's not suprising with your scan coming up

My consultant said about no longer using cryos-mostly about not screening for zika so they won't risk using them so only use brighton and European sperm bank.
I suspect most clinics will be the same, might be worth working backwards ever and seeing if cryos still have that donor and whether they know which clinics in uk still allow to use them? Or try looking on the website of ur chosen clinic, I'm sure CARE mention about not using cryos
Must be so hard to deal with the loss of little Mabel, so pleased you are offered help via the hospice. Sending lots of love.
Yeh I often think it would be lovely to meet up with someone of you local ladies and then I think arghhh what if in real life we don't get along or we lose that we can tell each other anything and go way into TMI (too much info) because we don't know each Other..... don't want to ruin the amazing network we have-saying that if someone suggested meeting up would be so up for it. Would be lovely when we all have our mini me's to have a little group meet up :) x

ever lovely to have you back on this thread and so sorry for your loss. Xxx

Ever so sorry for you loss. Mabel came across as a real character in just the tiny bit you wrote about her on the last thread. It's still early days for such a devastating loss. I hope the opportunity to talk about her and your plans in your bereavement psychotherapy next week is helpful, if possibly also difficult and painful.

Also, ever, I'm currently losing weight so I can have the laparoscopy surgery into endo, because my gynaecologist thinks that's what I have. What kind of symptoms did/do you get, if you don't mind me asking? You don't have to answer though lovely if you don't want too.

Ever - I'm so sorry you've not been feeling great, but that's so understandable. Like shoes said, allow yourself time to grieve. You're such a strong lady.
I live in Northampton too - how strange?!

Nothing to add to this conversation because I have not yet experienced the greatness that is pessaries... Hopefully I will one day though!

Thanks Shoes - still cant work how to highlight names!!
I am starting bereavement psychotherapy next week, because my daughter died in a hospice and am fortunate that there is good aftercare. Peers who have met online whos baby have had similar diagnoses or still births have not been so lucky with that, so am fortunate there.
Going to give it a go, think the main thing in healing will be another baby, so I just hope I can get there again. Thanks so much
I hated those progesterone pessaries last time, made such a mess ahh

Kwick is quite right that I haven't used any progesterone so for once I have nothing to say on the subject

Ever You're bound to have down phases and you need to allow yourself to feel grief and give yourself the space to let it be what it is. Have you received any counselling?

Pickle I had surgery on a wrist and you're right, it's nowhere near as bad as that in physical terms.