Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

flash my clinic gives you progrsterone as a matter of course - after IUI you take Crinone gel twice a day up the fanjo - absolutely glorious stuff - makes your boobs ache, gives you cramping, can clump - a real delight. Then, as I discovered, on Monday, if you get a BFP with the IUI then they test for progesterone levels.
With the 2 IVFs I did they take bloods on the day of embryo transfer - and both times I had to take extra progesterone as my levels were low. Cyclogest - 3 times a day - supposedly up the jacksie but I just cannot handle what that does to me that I did up the fanjo (btw it leaks everywhere, all my knickers are ruined - even after using panty liners) and also Prontogest which you have to inject yourself into bum...
Not sure why I just shared all that - cos if you need it you should take it! Having said that I have read up on Dr Google that there is little evidence to support its use.

music slight snag with master plan: 75% of my job entails travel.... so I wonder what shitty jobs I am going to be given

sk1pper I am not sure.... I saw my dentist for a filling right after my MC and she said I would not have been able to have it done if I had still been preggers. Best to check with dentist.

Only if it's a white one Sk1pper I think. Although most will give you a temporary until after the birth. Of course I've only read this because I have utterly shit teeth. 😕

Sk1pper -pulling your ovaries did make me laugh.

My gym classes were all jumbled as its first week after christmas so yoga was a bit later than normal, i therefore accidently did a core strength class. Now i feel like ive been savagely attacked in everything from my back to pelvis, abs and the whole womble set up. I thougjt i was going for a gentle down facing dog.

Big news girls. Got a nearly positive opk. Egg must have heard us talking about it. I guess ovulation is delayed a while by the shock & stress at the start of the cycle.

Anyone know if it's safe to have a filling at the dentists in the first trimester of pregnancy? Assuming of course that they have to numb your gums.

Hi to all the newbies!

Thanks for all your lovely words ladies. I am certainly more relaxed for now but my DH is convinced that I'll find something else to worry about in a few days! Trying to prove him wrong.

kwik note from doctor is a great idea - glad they obliged. Even if your manager isn't the most understanding there's nothing they can say to it now! Look after number one ☝🏻

jam I used to come up with reasons for each cycle about why a BFP wouldn't be ideal that month and it did help me rationalise. My ones for August baby were - statistically August babies do worse in the education system, sweaty end of pregnancy, I am bridesmaid for two weddings in July.

pyjamams fuck it days sound truly amazing!

FXskip yes, got a few photos of the little blob! You can't really distinguish anything yet although she pointed out the head and bottom and showed me my ovaries and told me that I had ovulated from my left side. You could see the hole left when it had come from. It was really interesting in a nerdy way. We were able to hear the heartbeat too! I won't try and tell you not to worry as I tried myself and was completely unsuccessful but try and keep in mind that the significant majority of pregnancies result in a healthy baby 9 months later (as I think others have been saying on this thread). Also try not to benchmark your symptoms with other people's as it will drive you mad. I have no sore boobs and no sickness or nausea. My main symptoms are being very gassy and getting awful acne. (Delightful!!)

alexia I'm so sorry to hear about your fight with your mum. It sounds as though she really isn't able to put herself in your shoes and understand how you're feeling. I think giving the relationship some space could be a good idea although I also know that I can't walk away from a falling out without attempting to reconcile so it depends how you feel about it. Have you spoken to her since? Sorry, I realise this is a very out of date response and I may have missed another update along the way...
Also, your chart is looking good. Like the second temp spike! But also, to reassure you, my chart on my BFP cycle was very unremarkable looking.

I have done terribly at getting myself up to date on the thread, sorry - it takes ages to scroll back on my phone and I don't use the laptop I share with DH in case he snoops on my MN world somehow!

Oh kwick this gp is particularly crap. He has twice forgotten to book scans for me and DH, once for me with the whole disastrous post-pregnancy periods, and more importantly when DH had a particularly worrying lump. And you know how hard it is to get men to go to the dr anyway! Trying to get them to chase for an appointment they don't really want is nearly impossible.

Yeah, my DH has asked what he can do to help with everything but I don't think he really understands what it's like to know that if their sperm is good and gets where it's supposed to it is literally all on you to do the rest!

All the exercising sounds good ladies. Well done! I got super fit after I had surgery but have relaxed a bit on the exercise, so need to get back a bit, especially after Christmas. Think I might take up yoga or Pilates, my acupuncturist said moderate regular exercise, not too much, not too intense, was good.

Also, how did anyone go about getting a day 21 progesterone test/how did you start to think you might have low progesterone? I'm obsessing over it but only because it might be something I could fix, if it was the reason I had the ectopic and then I'd feel like I had it under control. I know, I know! I'm a crazy person.

hep I'm going to have to restart after only w1r1 as did the first last Wednesday and haven't managed it again yet! ! Christmas and new year got in the way plus i live in the country and our roads didnt get gritted and it was lethal. Then Dh was ill and now I'm ill!
But really looking forward to completing it. I consider myself active but not cardio fit by any means.

Lots of good exercise going on here! I did c25k years ago - completed it and felt great afterwards! Hate running though so it all went out the window pretty soon ha ha. I have personal training sessions once a week and go to the gym two other times which I think is enough. I wish I was one of those people who loves yoga, but I just find it terminally dull and can't wait for it to be over! I sign up to regular nutrition programmes with a nutritionist I know - they're fabulous. Meal plans every week with recipes and shopping lists and this time she's including short but effective fitness videos as part of the four week package. It's the only thing that's ever worked for me long term!

It's so helpful when DH/DPs are supportive - mine doesn't say a lot as he's not very expressive, but he listens and and is there for me when I need him.

orange if you PM me your email address I can send you what FC nutritionalist gave me (after I paid £150)!! Offer applies to any of you lovely ladies - cannot think why I did not offer before!!!

ej could be an anvolutary (or something like that) my FC told me that it is quite normal for these to happen from time to time?

Tell me if you need me to stay off the thread - I do not feel ready to go to any grad threads until at least 8 weeks

LSFX!!!!!!!

Sorry missy

flash I hear you - but whilst I defo advocate sensible behaviour the miracle of conception and pregnancy has so many variables that are way beyond our control that we cannot be held responsible!!!!

peaches GPs can suck!!!

miranda I did not take bromelain - instead first 5 days after ovulation I ate a fifth of a fresh 🍍 including the core as this has bromelain, said to help with implantation.

Really am a supporter of relaxed attitude - just wish I could practice what I preach!!!!
BTW No way I can relax and wait for it to happen... unless I am waiting for immaculate conception!!!

I actually rang my GP yesterday and got a same day appointment- unheard of. Tried to tell boss about fit note today but she got called away... have an hour with her on friday and will start with that...

Great mindset wing

hippy what will your OH say if you get BFP before May?

GPs suck sometimes flash!!!

LOL pulled your ovaries sk1pper made me laugh but I flipping hope not!!!

I'm so lazy... I walk quickly but that's about it, I started to do some yoga but not really sure I'm doing it right haha
I did improve my diet a lot though but if you guys have any advice on fertility diet, I'd be happy to take it as I'm not sure what to eat/not eat ?
My OH is doing fitness again and has improved his diet and cut back on alcohol which is nice.

He was a bit sad when I had to explain to him that it might take a while for me to actually get pregnant and I couldn't really comfort him as I'm so worried about it too. I'm trying to stay positive as 1st month TTC but the fact that I might need a laparoscopy before I can actually get pregnant really scares me.

wing I just restarted c25k today! As of last hour !

I got up to w4 in October ( during my post MC recovery), but stopped due to work travels, illness and then the new kitchen. Not sure it was sensible, but I restarted at w1r1. Hard work, but so happy I hadn't lost all my fitness. I think it's really good.

Binky that's odd you had such strong cramps before, I hope that's a good sign!

Hurrah on the appointment peaches your DH sounds so supportive

Agreed it is so different for guys. DH doesn't really ever bring it up. I think and talk about it constantly and he only ever says things like "it'll happen". I got a bit cross with him and said doesn't it get to you too? He said it does he just doesn't show it in the same way. Hmmm. I wonder if the low morphology has something to do with it. Guys are funny about sperm.

Winging glad you are feeling better. There is something to be said for being distracted at work!

Wow you girls are amazing, keep it up! I was doing pelvic Yoga every day but I think I've pulled my ovaries (can you even do that??) so I'm now just committed to every other day.

I tried couch to 5k wing and it was too much for me - I had to go back to Zumba! Good luck with round 2!

Good for you wing. It's freezing up here I'm building up to starting outside exercise next week. xx

Thank you sk1p, I'm much more poised now-it was very unlike me especially as most of the crying occurred before AF even arrived so whilst I'm usually very positive in tww and don't get pmt my hormones were a complete mess!
I think also not being at work contributed as I had no reason to put on a brave face.

Anyway back to new year positivity! I've downloaded couch2 5k and have done one day so far, round 2 tonight if I can keep and impending cold at bay!

gee I'm surrounded by the most fertile people on the planet. I'm the obvious exception. Sometimes it wares thin. Xx

No sk1p your are right. Guys don't really get it. Probably because it's just not something they talk about amongst themselves. I find many women don't get it either to be honest. I literally don't think
I have a friend who hasn't at some point in their lives accidentally fell pregnant, even using contraception! So most people in RL don't get it. Mine anyway. Sharing with you lovely ladies is invaluable xx

God I'm with you on the bitterness today skipper. I've just found out a girl I went to uni with who's been with her boyfriend for about 5 mins is pregnant and they just got engaged on a ski trip. I should be happy for her and think "oh that's good for her" but I just feel glum and cheated and hopeless. for everyone. What a crappy day.

I meant to say hugz for winging - knew you were feeling a bit down but didn't realise you were crying all through last week.

At least your fella seems a bit more supportive than mine. Mine did the SA but Christ did he moan about the inconvenience. Never mind the two blood tests, swab and ultra sound I had to have done. Including a smear somewhere in all that. And now the HSG.

Don't know where all my bitterness has come from today, sorry!!

Well kathrino i did it Monday 16th first appointment so hope he is fresh from his weekend break and ready for my multitude of questions .

And had a little wonder round the shops at lunchtime. Bough myself some nice candles and a healthy salad with plenty of greens.

blink hope you have yourselves a little stow a way in there . Fx and glad you have enjoyed a nice break from ttc.

flash i think that once you see the other side of pregnancy and everything that you go through during a loss it's only natural to be very concerned about it happening again. But your absolutely right if you don't try then you will never be any further forward. As the other ladies have pointed out you are more likely to have a successful pregnancy than not and that's what I would try and focus on (although it will be hard). When you get a bfp again will they be scanning you early? Hopefully they will and this will ease your fears early on.

My OH actually was saying to me the other day I need to let it all out because something is obviously eating away at me, that he can't fix it if he doesnt know what's wrong. So we had a good chat about everything and he admitted that he knew I was feeling very down so he was trying to be extra positive but has been questioning himself lately and reading up on improving his sperm incase the problem lies with him. He is totally on board with having it tested (thankfully) and told me whatever vitamins I want him to take he's on board with that too. He's been eating walnuts every morning in his cereal and has cut back on alcohol and eating healthier already so can't fault his efforts at all.

And yes ladies the whole 'oh you just need to relax it will just happen' brigade are the worst. No, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you need to ask for help, have tests and fix the problems that you have. But that's life. Somethings are straight forward and some things are not. Hopefully January is a positive month for us all xx

Hey binky - was wondering about you actually. Glad you're still about, fx it's just implantation spotting, it is possible to get it late in the cycle and brown blood is old blood anyway.

Sorry have no idea why it has bolded the opposite of what I've asked it to in places!