Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

I think a lot of us are the wrong side of 30 Pyjamas and all the evidence I've read suggests that everyone makes this big deal about 35 being the cut off when it's really not true; the decline in fertility is relatively small until you get to your mid/late 40s. We'll get there in the end!

kav, lovely to hear from you and glad is all going well so far. FX for your scan on Saturday!

Flash, could the spotting to be do to where your cervix is during the relative phases of your cycle?

macsworth, so sorry to hear about your brother. I hope he's on the mend

Tonks excellent PMA. I am going to follow your 'no googling' rule. I've spent far too much time searching mumsnet and other forums for stories and it's just a waste of time. What happens to anyone else has absolutely no bearing what happens to us!

Welcome peachy!

Apologies to anyone I've missed too...

I have done a lot of adulting today (including my tax return and hopefully putting our flat on the market) but, most importantly, I've got a docs appointment from Friday to discuss why we're not having any luck TTC and to get the ball rolling with tests.

You have nothing to worry about Pyjamas - I'm 38 in a couple of weeks and am currently 9+3 with a grape that's apparently moving from embryo to foetus in the next week. :) I did find my BFP came when I'd stopped literally breathing TTC as I did in the first 9 few months. I think I always fretted a little but after DH got his job (long period out of work was stressing me out) and after I forgot to worry about caffeine or whatever else it happened for me. First scan on Saturday so hoping against hope it sticks!

These mid/late 30s ttc stories are really comforting - I've been having a minor meltdown over last couple of days about turning 36 soon!

10dpo here and nothing - really don't think this is our month.

Sorry to hear about AFs and skipper that cyst sounds dreadful!

DH and I have booked train tickets for our fuck it day hike and pub visit next weekend - if I get a bfp, it'll be a gentle walk and sparkling water instead!

kwick how are you doing? Do you think you will/want to keep your allotment going?

How are you jam? Hope you're feeling a little better.

Late congrats to pug and alexia.

That is reassuring Peaches. In my heart of hearts I know if it's going to happen it'll happen. I just wish I knew why I had gone from having totally normal periods to having this weird spotting. And it gets worse after sex. But sex doesn't cause it. For the first two weeks after AF I never have any bleeding, no matter how much sex (oo er!) I have. But once the spotting starts, if I have sex I also get like a rush of red blood (sorry TMI).

Maybe I should go and see the GP. I just think they think I'm worrying unnecessarily.

💐 tonk I had the same no googling rule this cycle. So far so good but only just hitting tww to fairly sure I'll fall dramatically off that wagon

jam I'm so sorry about your OH. As others have said I think constantly binge drinking is worse than a one off. I know it doesn't make it any better though! My DH is fine when I get him to do or take something. He's embraced yoga and I've got him taking vitamins and royal jelly. But the minute I ask him to not do something he gets funny, we have a bit argument a couple of months ago about him spending 2 hours in a hot tub with his friends when we were on a weekend a way, he just didn't get it.

skipper the cyst sounds really painful. I hope the gynae can give you some advice.

Had a horrifically stressful weekend, my brothers in hospital at the mo so was there all day yesterday with my family. I think the stress of it all has delayed my ovulation. Carrying on DTD as it's proving a good distraction.

peaches to add to kwick that i had a bfp at the age of 37 last year, so you are not alone !

flash i was chatting to one of the gp's at my surgery last year when I was pregnant and gave her the list of things I've cut out. Her opinion, I'm living like a monk and it's not necessary . She is very much a big believer in happy mind happy body. I'm having a cuppa with a sweetener. It's either that or its a blinding headache and pain killers so tea wins. I have literally done everything by the book and no bfp since May so if you are up for it and the spotting isn't heavy or uncomfortable then go for it!

I had myself pegged for ovulating either today or tomorrow. Done an Opk yesterday had faint second line so should be right on course. Dtd this morning will go tomorrow as well and do more Opks so I can make sure it goes positive.

kwick thank you. My BFF has told me to pull myself together his neighbour has just had her first at 43. aAything is possible is you want it badly enough.

To been informed OH has broken the cat litter tray, emergency dash for me for new tray.

Loads to catch up on!
Tonks sorry AF arrived, great PMA to have I started the new year like this and long may it continue. Google is BAD do not look at it, it can tell you all sorts that can make you more stressed out than you need to be!

Sorry skip your pain sounds awful hope it gets better soon. Are you going to docs?

Welcome peachy. If you are concerned about PCOS I’d go speak to doc now and explain you are TTC and want to get it sorted…if anything it will get the ball rolling if it needs to be, it might not and you might get lucky this month with a BFP!!!

jam sorry to hear you had to put up with your DH and his binge especially when you are going through a loss. It does sound like he needed to get it out of his system and as long as it is not like every day/ week then I would just let this one go – he has prob learnt his lesson from your texts messages and chat and hopefully he will be more considerate of your feelings in the future.

pug love the line news!!!

alexia I was hoping to see your update yesterday kept looking but then went on a mammoth walk and for a meal and fell asleep as soon as I got home so missed it! PMA on the temp still high and I think that’s a good attitude to have re not testing until 14/15 it’ll drive you bonkers otherwise! Also looking good on the longer LP this month as well.

harriet let me know how you get on with your OPKs I did the same and went out and got some Clear Blue ones but now heard mixed reviews – I guess everyone is different so it sounds like it works for some and not for others, fx they work for me!

kath flash flowers and lots of PMA to you

Sorry if I've missed anything or anyone !!!

My AF has finished so can start having lots of fun this month

Morning all

Glad all is still going well pug, alexia, mouse & kwik

Mouse I am hoping to follow your lead - I am CD29 first cycle off the pill with no sign of anything, at all! Although quite happy to have a shockingly long first cycle if it means a BFP on cycle 3, that's how it works right?

Lots of PMA for a Monday morning

jam feeling calmer thanks. Still can't help feeling that the weird cycles are a bad sign but also trying to remind myself that things can change after a big bodily upheaval even if I was only pregnant for about 5 mins!

Peaches you're right, it will happen for all of us. And I know what you mean. I've been basically caffeine free since may last year. And alcohol free since new year. Sometimes it's tough not to just dive into a vat of caffeinated tea or a bottle of wine!

Is it irresponsible to be trying when I'm still having spotting? Or should I just go for it and hope?

mouse I will come over but need to get through early scans first ok? 🤞🏼

Spent nearly 2 hours trying to get on a bus this morning... gave up and am taking a day's vacation - although there are a couple of things I need to do. If I had had presence of mind I would not have left laptop at work on Friday!

sk1pper you are going to Drs today right? You should mention bleeding also.

Welcome peachy!!!
I would recommend getting a PCOS diagnosis asap. Google "Inofolic".

Sorry about af tonks

peaches YOU ARE NOT TOO LATE!!! If I am not at 42, how can you be?!

tonk
loving your pma though.

jam hoping it was a one off blow out, that maybe he's taking things a little harder than he likes to let on. It's very much a male way of dealing with things. A one off won't really impact too much. As others have said I would imagine that constantly drinking would be far more detrimental to sperm quality. Hope things are OK otherwise, it's a hard time for you just now sending you hugs

sk1p hope you are feeling better this morning. I agree very strange that's 2 incidents of pain/cysts in a year when it's not been an issue before. Do you think that your health kick, suppliment taking is maybe just clearing up what was there already? They say sometimes things get worse before they get better? But yes I would definitely be bringing this up with the gynecologist. Maybe there's something they can do to help sort this out and help get your bfp quicker

kwick your dinner sounds lovely. Now I'm in the mood for Mac and cheese

Hopefully everyone's Mondays are quick and painless. Although watching Meryl Streep's speech this morning fair cheered me up, good first her taking a stand!

Morning ladies

It's days like this I miss being able to indulge in caffeine tired girl.

Anyway.....flash kath harriet tonk hoping our time comes soon and af takes the hint and stays firmly away! harriet hope you get a good handle on your cycle 45 quid is a lot of money not to!

pug yeh for darker lines. Relax and think positive alexia have you POAS again? Remember that line means you are pregnant. And you have found out very early so don't stress out over line codours etc...But yes hang around here as long as you like, you too mouse & kwick. Hopefully won't be long before more of us are joining you though.

hippy yes to PMA I made the mistake of reading too much about conception at my age (37) and have now got it in my head I've left things too late

Welcome peachy

So AF arrived and I've spent the whole weekend feeling sorry for myself.

But today's a new day and a new cycle. Time to get over it and bounce back.

Plans for this cycle:

• eat breakfast every day
• do yoga twice a week
• stay positive
• no googling, no matter what random TTC thought pops into my mind or how desperate I get

I WILL GET PREGNANT THIS CYCLE

Jam - I don't know any more, lol. Still hurting this morning, now to sit at work for 8 hours feeling like crap.

Colour - yours sounds much more promising! Fx

Peachy - welcome, which symptoms do you have of PCOS? If you know you're not ovulating then I'd save your money on additional opks and head to the GPS.

Welcome peachy :))
They say you should give it 6 months of trying but I booked a gp appointment straight away to ask if I needed any checks. Your shout I guess. Don't stress mate - I'm 38 in 9 days and tTC #1... PMA is crucial :))
Yes grads - stay and bring us luck :))
Sk1pper xxxx

Welcome peachy !

Hope you're feeling a bit better flash 💐

Skipper could it have been a painful ovulation / big egg? That could cause some spotting

That sounds promising colour, the chaps just don't get it

Welcome peachy!

No need for grads to leave just bring us some of your luck please 😬

Hi can I join?
Peachyteach
36
TTC#1
Cycle 1
CD12
Never had a scare or hint of a BFP.
Partner had twins from a previous which were an 'accident'.
PCOS symptoms...how soon shall I chat to my GP if nothing happens.
Temping and OPK-ing and using Ovia.
Don't want yo become obsessive but can see it kicking in already!

Sending you all good luck vibes this cycle

I've just had pink blood when I wiped too. Think I'm 8DPO. It's so hard not to get your hopes up. I don't usually spot between periods so I told DP excitedly and he just looked at me like

Hi skipper yes too early for ib. Sorry.