Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

Hear hear fxskip. Lovely post.

Hi guys, just wanted to add my sympathies to the list for alexia. If you're still reading, we all have so much love and admiration for you - you'll see just how tough you are as you get through this latest blow. And you will get through it, because that's what we do. I hope that the suicidal feelings pass soon, otherwise please seek help - you don't have to feel like this forever.

I've been lurking here, quietly cheering you all on and hoping your AFs don't keep showing. It seems that the thread has taken a sad turn, and I think maybe the Christmas cluster-fuck (that was the Christmas BFP wave combined with festivities/difficult families, followed by a long, gloomy, sober January) has taken its toll. I can easily understand that, I've been there myself for many months. But ladies don't lose hope, you will all get your much-wanted babies one way or another, but there's no reason not to make the most of the wait. I have found so many of you to be great support and am continually blown away by the love and kindness here. I guess all I'm saying is keep on keeping on, you are all strong women and you will be fantastic mums

Xx

Oh no alexia poor you. Thinking of you.

God alexia you poor thing. I'm so sorry you're going through this again.

Alexia I'm so so sorry this is too cruel. Look after yourself, give yourself time to grieve or be angry and let your DH care for you. Take all the time you need away from MN but please remember that we are here if you need us. I am not sure where you are with GP tests but can you would reach out to them now anyway? They need to know both the mental and physical impact this is having on you. Sending you so much love, you're such an amazing lady so don't forget that

Thinking of youAlexia

alexia I am really so sorry to hear this news and how you feel at the moment. Have you tried counselling it sounds like you could do with some support there. Stress is a biggy with conception (or so I read/ hear) but it doesn't help when it is that causing your stress in the first place!!!
Take care x

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Gentle hugs for you Alexia. I'm so sorry you're going through this ... take all the time you need and as others have said, get some RL support too (though we are all here for you as well of course).

Oh Alexia - this so cruel and I am so sorry to hear this. Really hope you have irl support and we're all here when you're ready💐

I'm so so sorry Alexia I can't even imagine how heartbreaking this is for you. Look after yourself and try to stay strong x

Oh Alexia, I'm so sorry. It just seems so cruel. Look after yourself. We'll be here if you need anything at all

Aww jam that's a kick in the teeth. She should have just said I think I'll hang on to this, simple and no digs or assumptions. I don't think anyone who hasn't struggled understands what they are saying or implying at times

You too flash sometimes I wish I was brave enough to just turn around and say do you know that's a really shitty insensitive comment? I would probably make things worse though.

miranda hope you have had good news about your mum's op by now re exercise if you are already doing the exercise then it's OK. They advice nothing heavily built on muscle building (can effect hormones) and nothing too stressful on your body. Regular cardio helps blood flow in the body including to the uterus

Re mc causes. When I had mine I asked one of the nicer midwifes if I could ask her a few questions. She replied of course you can but let me say before you ask you did nothing to cause this. Its sad and upsetting but unfortunately more common than you realise. Please don't blame yourself. And she was right. When I was able to talk about it I was quite amazed at the amount of people who could relate as it happened to them.

kathrino 3 months does not a difficult journey make! It probably took them more time to write that up than it did get pregnant .

Have not been feeling great. Upset tummy and sore head. Really really tired. So much so I completely forgot to do an Opk at all yesterday. Roll on spring, January is such a long cold ugly month.

alexia this is so shit, unfair and heartbreaking!! We are all here for you. When you are strong enough get yourself referred to the recurrent mc team. You need answers why this keeps happening and stop this hurt each time it happens . Do you have anyone you can talk to. I know you are your OH are very supportive of each other. Always here if you want to vent or anything else xxx

Alexia
please get some rl support. I am so sorry to hear this I was so hoping this was your time. Take a break, look after yourself and come back when you are ready.

Alexia I'm so so sorry 😞 You must be hurting so much. Please take care of yourself and make sure you talk to someone IRL. There is support in bags here if you need us 💐💐💐💐💐

Good work Hep!. I'm hoping to start yoga from next week as an add on to running/torturing myself with Jillian Michaels' DVDs.

Fx colour

Also, exercise helps with stress which is the main thing to ry to reduce ..... yeah, cause thats easy !

I am back on course with my c25k, (w4r2 completed for the second time), and I am off to yogalates this afternoon.

miranda hope all goes well for your mums operation my mate had a hip replacement last year and it has changed her life! She can do so much more now. It's natural to be anxious when it's someone you care for but they do these ops all the time so it should all be fine . Also my other friend exercised to some extent all throughout her pregnancy (well until she wasn't too big) and had no problems I think there are limits after first trimester but I am sure excersising is fine early on. As with anything even if you are not preggers or trying you should only do as much as you can handle i.e. not feeling like you are about to collapse!!!

Oo thanks Hep, they are going in my Amazon basket as we speak.

Miranda Harriet I'm with Hep. I have read so many posts of people wondering if something they did or didn't do caused their MC or other complication. I beat my parkrun PB in the 2WW of my ectopic pregnancy while bleeding, although at the time I didn't know I was pregnant. My feeling is that it is natural to try and find a reason, and normal to feel like you are to blame because your body is housing the baby. But that blame is never deserved and there usually is no reason why it happened so you should do what makes you feel happy and healthy.

flash

i use these: www.amazon.co.uk/d/Fertility-Ovulation-Testing/One-Highly-Sensitive-Ovulation-Fertility/B006J6MO12/ref=sr_1_2_s_it?s=drugstore&ie=UTF8&qid=1484134529&sr=1-2&keywords=ovulation+test

Ps speaking of MILs/parental pressure...my MIL has been knitting baby clothes for her future (still non-existent) grandchildren for YEARS. She has boxes full! Thankfully hasn't mentioned it recently.

Miranda The advice is that any exercise you do before getting pregnant, you can continue into your 1st trimester. The exception is things like kick boxing...

in fact exercise is good for pregnant ladies so continue whilst it is comfortable.