Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

Congratulations mum ! now off to new thread

I never had one positive OPK, dtd every fertile day sometimes twice and yesterday I got my BFP!!!

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Ahhhh got my first peak on my clear blue this morning!! DH is already at work - so not DTD until tonight!! I'm a little annoyed he's gone into work so early!

Thanks gee 💐💐💐

Thanks everyone for the and kind words especially alexia coming out to say hi - I've been thinking about you. I hope you're coming to terms with things. I'm also trying to see the positive that we now have a plan and something to plan around.
Jam. - I agree with what skipper said. It's really hard when your OH is behaving out of character but try not to let ttc come between you. He's likely to be acting up as he feels vulnerable because of the MFI. When you're arguing, try to imagine what you'd say if you weren't ttc - your relationship is the priority. I know easier said than done though. I hope you're ok. Look after yourself. Hope you have friends in RL you can talk to that know your OH too. X

Orange absolutely fine! To be fair they can't be anything but supportive really

She was really nervous about telling them as the job was temporary and it meant that she wouldn't even get to the end of the contract but they were fine about it and very happy for her. She had been TTC for well over a year and it just showed that changing her job made all the difference.

Hope your interview goes well!

Jam - if it was me, I'd be fucking fuming too! Obviously TTC is taking its toll on him more than you thought but drinking yourself silly is an awful way to cope with it. I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with him Jem - your relationship with him is very important though, don't let TTC drive a wedge between you. It seems like you're going to have to be the strong one right now xx

Thanks for the flowers ladies xxx
Fx winging - sounds like your in with a great chance this cycle xxx

Jam
Sorry to hear your dh has behaved like this ... on the plus side he has never done this before and he did tell the truth albeit a little too late. I know it's hard (my ex husband used to drink) .. but at least this is a one off and I guess the men feel the pressure of tTC just as much as we do... I'm not condoning his behaviour but men do handle things differently than we do and it sounds like he really didn't mean to upset you .. eve n though he has... i would let him make it up to you and try and put it down to a minor blip xxx

Well I'm out. AF arrived 4 days early while I was away celebrating my birthday. I feel utterly utterly stupid! I was convinced we had conceived this month. I spotted pink a week ago which I've never done and had cramps all week. It seemed exactly how everyone describes implantation and I was so convinced I wouldn't use the hot tub or drink a drop while we were away.

Every month I tell myself not to trust any symptoms and to wait until AF is late and then every month something different happens to me that I've never experienced making the disappointment of a BFN worse.

Having irregular cycles makes it worse because you don't even know when you're late. Sorry for the moan just feeling like shit for getting my hopes up.

On to cycle 7. New test date is the 12th Feb.

Thank you Binky I will have a look!

poppet How did the employer take it ? I am worried this might happen but I do not want to put TTC on hold for this.

💐💐hippy

Skipper still plenty of time to get a BFP this cycle. Fx for you

Ah hep I hate it when you feel the progesterone decline. I hope you're wrong

Sorry gee 💐 am excited for your IVF though

I am feeling rather cross and upset today so I'm very sorry I don't have required PMA to help. DH has been drinking down route and then last night he went back to the captains hotel room as a member of the crew was upset about her dog dying. He's never done this before. I didn't know where he was and called the hotel but his bedroom phone just rang and rang. When he finally got my messages he called me and lied saying he had been in bed. This morning he told me the truth. He said he didn't even want to be there but there were a few of them there and she was very upset. I feel completely betrayed - he was drinking, he lied to me and he went back to a colleagues room. None of these are acceptable and he's never done this before. He said he's feeling very low and didn't even want to be there but had said okay because it was the captain who asked. I feel like he's just prioritised them above me. Being there and drinking was more important than being there for me and doing everything he can for our BFP.

Sorry for the vent I am just all over the place today. I feel like I don't even want to look at him let alone DTD.

I hope everyone is alright xx

Sorry geeup but at least the next stage is now planned out for you although never the outcome we want when starting ttc.

Sorry too hippy and any others the witch has got.

I'm rather smugly upbeat today as think we've nailed the dtd timing more than other cycles. Opkd for first time in a while, positive opk 7pm fri (had also tested in morning) and still very dark 7am sat morning so think I caught the start of lh surge. Shed loads of ewcm sat eve and also left pelvic twinge which I am thinking was ovulation. Slight temp rise both sat and sun morning. Dtd wed night, fri night and sat night and will try again tonight too. I know consecutive days aren't ideal but leaving it would prob mean it's too late anyway.

C'Mon cycle 11!!!

Sorry kwick I really didn't realise you had no partner ... I forget everyone's stats ... my memory is shocking ... I profusely apologise if I have caused offence xxx

hep I do not know how to make the images either!!!

pyjamas dose up on drugs before the HSG.

hippy hate to destroy bonhomie but I have NO partner!!!

sk1pper your wedding plans sound right up my street

Welcome wine!!!

Okey dokey hep your wish is my command!!!
By the powers vested in me by the good witch of the West
I do declare a fertility fest
BFPS will be found galore
The stork will be knocking at everyone's door

Orange you only need to be at your job a few weeks to qualify and as Binky said, you can check online to work out the dates. I work in HR so I have to help people work out their maternity leave/pay quite often!

Basically you have to be employed at your company 26 weeks at the 15th week before your due date. If you don't qualify, you'll still be able to claim statutory pay from the government. Hope that puts your mind at rest a bit (I also think that changing jobs shouldn't stop you TTC - my best friend did that as her job was really stressful and as soon as she quit, she got pregnant and had to tell her new employer on her first day!)

Hi 👋 pass,
Welcome my only advice I would give would be to not become obsessed with when you think you are ovulating.

My other advice is don't pee on a stick unless your late as it will only cause you upset.

Never and I mean never trust your boobs.

Hi, can I join?! New to all this!

Wine
TTC #1
Cycle 1
CD 20

This is our first month trying. Unfortunately haven't been tracking my periods for the last few months so unsure when to expect AF. My cycles tend to vary from 26-33 days although I probably do have quite a few 28 day.

FF put my OD as Monday (9th) however I haven't had clear symptoms or been doing BBT or OPK's so when it actually happened is anyone's guess. Monday I did have sharp pains on one side so that would concur however I had small amounts of EWCM from Monday through to Friday. Friday I was really bloated and that was the day my CM changed to white/creamy...sorry TMI!

I was convinced I would be so cool and laid back about this but I couldn't have been more wrong. Absolutely obsessed with my imaginary symptoms! Which so far include basically nothing obvious. My nipples felt ever so slightly tingly last night and looking at them this morning I think I might be able to see some very slight changes in them but I think I am prob imagining it. CP is medium-high wet and soft, CM is white and creamy...sorry TMI again! Have been getting lots of hot flushes since Monday, and had a mild on off headache. I can't believe how much this has taken over my life in the last 2 weeks!!

AF could be due at the earliest on the 21st and at the latest around the 28th so I have no idea when to think about testing! I don't get many obvious PMS symptoms apart from tender boobs which then subside a day or two before AF comes.

Fingers crossed for all of you in the 2WW

Gee
Skipper wedding plans sound lovely 😊 We didn't have a big wedding but still struggled to speak to everyone properly- yours sounds fab
Orange HMRC have a calculator you can use where you can put in a predicted due date and see when you had to start working for a company and whether you're eligible for SMP etc. I'm starting a new job in a couple of weeks and won't be eligible for SMP unless I don't get pregnant until march. TBH, I'm hoping that this invokes Sod's law and I get pregnant now, but realistically the way things are going I think more likely I'll end up being eligible!

Urge sorry Gee - defy need a quick spell, its turning into a shitty day already for our little TTC gang.

EJ - wedding is In June, were having a small ceremony with parents and siblings then afternoon tea afterwards with extended family. Unlike most people I can't stand being centre of attention so I want it to be small and private with people I know very well. I realise it probably seems a bit weird that we started TTC before getting hitched but there was good reason (we've been engaged 7 years and there's always been something getting in the way). Also I'm conscious my mother and grandmother had emergency hysterectomies in their early 30s and I'm 30 this year...feel like a time bomb about to go off at the moment. Glad I started trying when I did as it's taking so long.

Still no AF, got another BFN this weekend. I am having endo pain though so expecting AF any time now.

On a good news front, I have an interview for a new job :)
I'm not sure if it's a good idea when TTC but oh well!
I'm just a bit confused if I get the job and discover I'm pregnant if I can get any maternity leave pay or not...

hippy skip