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Any larger ladies TTC?

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NickMyLipple · 31/12/2016 15:42

In a bit of a dilemma really. I'm morbidly obese and wear size 24-26 in clothes. Despite my size I do try to keep healthy - I eat much better now than I did a few years ago, and we're relatively active as a couple (Sunday walks for 8 miles, climbed mt Snowdon earlier in the year etc). I definitely have an unhealthy relationship with food and I do still eat too much crap too often, but I started slimming world a few months ago and lost 3 stone but fell off the wagon about 5 months in. I plan to start again in the new year and have planned meals for the first few weeks to get me off to a good start.

We are thinking of TTC in 2017. I have an implant at the moment which is due for removal in July but I've been getting spotting for the last 5 months so essentially I can have it out whenever. Once it's removed I don't intend on taking any other contraception.

I was wondering if any of you are bigger girls? What challenges lay ahead? I know my fertility may be effected by my size but equally it may not be! Should I wait until I am a much healthier size? That might be years - I find it so hard to be motivated. I desperately want to be a mother but even that doesn't motivate me enough to lose weight! I didn't come here to be judged by anyone, though I am happy to hear about why it might be dangerous for me or the baby to TTC.

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MsJuniper · 31/12/2016 17:50

I am also morbidly obese and ttc. Its been a horrible cycle of getting pregnant, having a mc, getting depressed, putting on weight, losing a bit, ttc again. This has gone on for over 2 years now (4 mc) and I am 40 so getting pretty desperate. I have a DC who I conceived while overweight but had a healthy pregnancy.

At 27 you can spend a good 6-9 months to make a real difference to your weight and then ttc healthily. I would never judge you because I've been there myself but I'd urge you to try this.

physicskate · 31/12/2016 17:33

Here is some guidance from the NHS:
www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/overweight-pregnant.aspx

Looks like serious complications can result. My sister had to have an emergency caesarian because of her weight as baby was not coping during labour. Increased risk of gestational diabetes is also considered an increased risk of obesity at some point in life for the baby.

Hopefully this helps with motivation. While I am not obese, I am a bit overweight (BMI about 27) and also finding it hard to motivate to lose weight (trying to lose a stone or so!).

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NickMyLipple · 31/12/2016 17:12

I'm 27 :)

Yeah, I completely hear what you're saying- and actually I do want to provide a healthy body for my baby to grow in, it's just finding that motivation to do it. And I know I can because I've done it before - just need to concentrate on doing it again!

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SpunBodgeSquarepants · 31/12/2016 17:02

Mate, I could have written that post myself.

I had my DS back in February 2014. I started a calorie counting diet in May 2012 when I was 17 stone 4, and got down to 13 stone 10 by December that year, where I too fell off the wagon - although luckily my weight stayed at just under 14 stone till I fell pregnant on my 2nd cycle TTC in June 2013.

Well, I had a perfect pregnancy and although I did end up having an EMCS my DS was born healthy and perfect.

In May 2015 we decided to start TTC a second. My weight has gone up to just below 18 stone. But even that want for another baby was not enough motivation for me to stick to a diet for more than 2 weeks. It took NINETEEN months to fall pregnant this second time - I just got my BFP a week ago, and I am now 18 stone 4. And honestly, I'm worried. I'm worried that my weight is affecting my hormones and I won't carry to term. I'm worried that the sonographer won't be able to see my baby because of my huge tummy. I'm worried I won't be able to see my baby move through all this fat. I'm worried that the midwife will look down her nose at me. I feel so selfish for not doing something about my weight sooner. As soon as I got my BFP I have changed my diet dramatically - no more crisps and chocolate and cheese - I'm eating a balanced diet with a ton of fruit and veg. But I'm worried it's too little too late.

Honestly - I would try to lose some weight first. It'll put your mind at ease knowing you tried your best to provide a healthy body for your baby to grow in.

How old are you by the way?