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Any pregnancies after stillbirth?

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Gingerbreadmam · 31/12/2016 10:41

i think i have just got my bfp following an mmc and stillbirth. No live children.

I'm in a right state. We were ttc and it's been almost 18month since the stillbirth and 2 years since mmc so i thought i'd be ok but i don't feel it.

To make things worse ive really let my hair down this Christmas. a bottle of wine every night for about the last 7. i know it probably wont do anythng but due to my other losses i'm just so paranoid.

i also had a full head of bleach the other day Sad

already i'm wondering how the f i will cope with more heartbreak.

going to get some asda tests now as used ic and although i could see a line it was very feint and slightly grey so i might be getting well ahead of myself anyway.

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Gingerbreadmam · 31/12/2016 11:52

As soon as i posted that i remembered it was because i had had the mmc too. I think they just advised it as a precaution.

I must admit i dont want any fuss and i know it will be the longest pregnancy ever if all goes well.

Oh god i dont know.

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Alb1 · 31/12/2016 11:43

I wasn't advised to, they've never mentioned it round here, I never thought to ask either really. I've told my best friend, and another friend who's also pregnant now, I just told her because she was avoiding me trying not to upset me with her pregnancy news, but I'm really happy for her and wanted to chat so I told her. We havnt told our families or anyone at work though, I'm not sure why, they'd find out anyway if anything went wrong as they'd need to help look after DS but we just can't face telling people. I say do whatever feels right to you, telling them would be great if they can support you, my in laws are huge worriers which I think is what puts me off, they will verbalise all my fears that I'm trying to keep quiet and I'm just not ready to try and calm them down yet. I told my best friend the day I found out tho as I new she'd be helpful

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Gingerbreadmam · 31/12/2016 11:31

alb1 were you advised to take baby aspirin for subsequent pregnancies? I was via the consultant after stillbirth and she said from 12wks but i thought standard was from bfp and i didnt completely trust her tbh. Ive bought some today.

Im so very sorry for anyone who has experienced loss Flowers

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Gingerbreadmam · 31/12/2016 11:29

Thank you both. That has made me feel so much better already. I cant bloody stop crying.

We have a fab night planned tonight too and now i have to think of a way to navigate through it unnoticed ha!

My op was supposed to ask when you told people? Dp and i are just debating whether to tell people straight away or not. We have a dog and should i have to go to hospital for any reason would need a dog sitter so it seems pointless keeping it hidden plus we could probably both do with the support.

Thank you so much. I only came off pill end of october so im shocked tbh!

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Alb1 · 31/12/2016 11:26

I think I've seen you on a couple of other threads, congratulations on your bfp!

I had a mmc, then a live baby (he's 2 now) and then DD was stillborn at 35 weeks earlier this year, I'm now 15 weeks pregnant again. In the first few weeks of finding out I was so stressed, lines on tests weren't getting darker (especially on ICs) and I had loads of cramps, was so convinced it was ending already but luckily everything has been fine so far. It's harder this time as I don't feel there is a 'safe' point in this pregnancy, but I'm considered high risk this time so there's extra support there from the NHS, I've had 4 scans already as well to try and reassure myself. I don't have any useful advice, just keeping my fingers crossed for you, and try not to obsess about lines on tests if you can, easier said than done though I no!

Swearwolf · 31/12/2016 11:08

CONGRATULATIONS!! I'm so pleased to see you here, I remember you from a previous thread and was heartbroken for you. You're naturally going to be nervous, I don't think there is a solution to that. As kate says, the placenta doesn't form for a while so you won't have done any damage.

I haven't had a stillbirth just a mmc at 13 weeks, but have since carried a pregnancy to term and I found that with every milestone I felt a bit better - seeing a heartbeat on an early scan at 8 weeks, getting through the 20 week scan, viability at 24 weeks - but still didn't fully believe it until she was here I don't think.

In the short term, would an early scan help?

physicskate · 31/12/2016 10:51

Remember the placenta does not even start to develop until a week or so after implantation, so there is NO connection between zygote and mother until at least the missed period. So really, get your fill of soft cheese now!

Heartache is harder to deal with. I'm sorry for what you've been through, but the past is not the future...

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Gingerbreadmam · 31/12/2016 10:42

sorry for lack of paragraphs and the random wine. i'm on the app and it doesnt seem to recogise my paragraphs for some reason.

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