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IUI & IVF success! Graduates from "TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!" thread #itcanwork #weareproof

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taydex · 30/12/2016 11:58

Hi all,
Thought it was about time we had a thread for all those graduating from the IUI/IVF with pregnancies/babies.
Little introduction for those who don't know me:
Age: 37
Method: IUI due to being in same sex relationship
Clinic: Bourn Hall near Cambridge
Success: Baby girl born 20 October 2016 following 5 rounds of IUI (plus 2 more where I ovulated early so abandoned cycle). 4 medicated rounds then 1 unmedicated which is the one that worked.
TayDex x

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taydex · 16/02/2017 09:20

Hi all,

Shoes - you will be glad to hear I was able to put my socks on all the way to 39 weeks (when my baby was born). Your feet should be OK LOL. Besides, in 10 weeks time maybe it'll be warm enough to not need socks...? Are you planning on breastfeeding or using formula? If it's breastfeeding I can give you some tips. The first two weeks ish are hard but it soon becomes second nature. The tired and low, sounds like pregnancy hormones to me. Don't worry, it will pass. There's a lot going on in your body and this feeling is totally normal. Make sure you have some me time. Maybe a pregnancy friendly massage or facial? Enjoy this time for you before everything changes (for the better of course).

Chasing - I agree with Hoping, don't google symptoms!!!

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INeedNewShoes · 16/02/2017 08:09

Morning Hoping Smile

Gosh - 4 weeks! I'm so pleased that things are going well.

I'm starting to get nervous about those first few weeks with a newborn now! So many of my friends have had a distressing time getting feeding going for example.

I have an obstetrics appointment this morning (being monitored every 4 weeks as my blood oddities might make the baby anaemic) so I'm hoping that everything will look ok on today's scan. I'm 28 weeks today!

My bump is no longer hideable and is starting to get in the way a bit! My most immediate worry about being single is that I'm going to have cold feet when I get to the point I can't get my socks on. Please tell me I'll still be able to get my own socks on by the time I'm induced at 38 weeks!?

I'm struggling a bit at the moment and feel very tired and a bit low. I'm assuming its pregnancy hormones. I feel like I can't be bothered to do anything which really is not convenient timing because there is so much to do! Did anyone else experience this?

Welcome to the thread Chasing. I'm pleased to hear you're well passed the 12-week scan mark and that everything is going well Smile

Hoping - unfortunately Hopingforalittleone had a chemical pregnancy, so she probably won't come back to this thread for a little while. Crossing my fingers for her that her next cycle is the one!

hopingandwaiting · 16/02/2017 05:06

Ha, shoes, that was supposed to say later stages of pregnancy, though larger is pretty apt too!

hopingandwaiting · 16/02/2017 05:05

Hello!

It's been a while since I posted - time seriously gets away from you with a little one! I had my beautiful baby boy nearly 4 weeks ago and everything is perfect! Crazy, but perfect Smile

Chasing Same sex couple here too. I was a serious worrier throughout pregnancy but luckily for me my wife is quite calm and the little one moved all the time from 17 weeks so I had a lot of reassurance that everything was OK with him. Didn't stop me worrying though! Just try not to Google symptoms - you'll regret it! The worry definitely changes once they're here - I've never thought so much about the temperature of my house!!

Hoping - I know how you feel about the other thread - I conceived first time too and felt guilty posting about it. Hope everything is going well with you.

Shoes You must be getting quite a bump now! Hope everything is well and the larger stages of pregnancy are treating you kindly.

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taydex · 13/02/2017 20:53

Hi Chasing. My little one is 16 weeks old now (where does the time go?!). She's absolutely amazing and I still can't quite believe this has happened for us and she's ours to keep (crazy, I know!).

Gosh, that's a question! I'd say there's several milestones, I relaxed a little more after each one. Definitely I'd say about a week after first AF missed, when preg tests became stronger, at the 7 week scan, at the 12 week scan (so I guess this is where you are), at the 20 week scan, when you hit 24 weeks (viability if little one was born this early, with a lot of medical help), in my head also 35 and 37 weeks where I felt little one had a much better chance if she were to be born early,... I won't lie to you, until she was finally born and checked over to see she was OK there was always some level of worry for me. And then once they arrive the worry changes he he he.

Sorry, that wasn't supposed to sound as negative as it perhaps did. I just meant to say I felt there were a few points when I felt a little more relaxed. Worrying is normal and just a great sign that you will be awesome parents! Once your partner/wife feels the baby moving that will be a comfort too, and also obviously when you feel it too (OMG, so many exciting things for you both!). You could buy a foetal heart rate monitor which could help to reduce worry. I picked a 2nd hand one up off a local Facebook selling post for a fiver. I found it helped me to reassure me she was still there and OK (although I have also seen people say these can cause more unnecessary worry if you can't find a heartbeat).

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Chasing · 13/02/2017 15:36

Thanks Taydex How old is your little one now? My biggest question is when does it start to feel ok to relax??? Neither of us are particularly anxious in general but why does no one worry you how anxiety provoking pregnancy is?!

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taydex · 13/02/2017 12:50

Of course Chasing. And congratulations! Same sex couple here too, any questions ask away x

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Chasing · 13/02/2017 10:12

Hi ladies, please can I join in? I haven't been very active on the other thread but a super lurker. My partner and I are almost 14 weeks following our second IUI attempt. We're a same sex couple and it's my partner that's pregnant. We've had the clinic scan at 7 weeks, NHS scan at 12 weeks, and the basic screening test and everything has been really positive so far. Neither of us has been pregnant before so it's all brand new and terrifying!

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taydex · 11/02/2017 16:37

Any questions, please ask away. X

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HopingForALittleOne · 11/02/2017 09:12

Thanks taydex and shoes yes that's the word I feel - insensitive if say too much - especially at the moment.

It is starting to sink in slowly that this could be real and each day there is no af helps.

I've bought some pregnancy books so going to have a look through the two this weekend.

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taydex · 11/02/2017 08:24

Welcome Hoping. And massive congratulations. I know exactly how you feel about being an imposter, I feel the same, and it's why I set up this thread. I felt insensitive writing on the other one.

Obviously it's good for people to see that it can and does work, but I didn't want to rub it in.

It also took me a few days/maybe even a week to believe it really was a positive and I really was pregnant. The more days that pass the more real it will feel. Actually, even now when my little one is 16 weeks I still have to occasionally pinch myself!

Feeling lost and scared is totally normal. I remember having an "Oh my God what have I done" moment not long after getting the positive test result. Silly because I knew it was something I'd wanted for ages, bit I think the reality hit and it was a no going back moment. I totally have no regrets though. I love being a mummy and I love my daughter to bits. Even on the tough days.

X

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INeedNewShoes · 11/02/2017 00:41

That's wise. I have to admit that even after getting a line on a test I didn't consider myself pregnant until I was a couple of days clear of when AF should have been due.

Cramps throughout pregnancy are pretty normal, for different reasons at different stages. Early on the cramping sensation can be caused by implantation (and in my case was accompanied by a tiny dot or two of pink tissuey stuff) which is a process which takes place over a number of days as the embryo nestles in.

I'm often awake at this time - its a bad habit of mine!

HopingForALittleOne · 11/02/2017 00:35

Thanks shoes and thanks for being awake still and replying. I'm a proper night owl!

I'm not sure to be honest... I thought I would focus on the detail of that once I got to that point lol

Tomorrow I'm 14dpiui and I think my period should have been due either on Thursday or definitely by tomorrow. I said to my mum if Ive still got pregnant lines by Monday I'll start to believe it's real. My plan was to phone clinic and doctors on Monday if still positive

Did you get cramps when you first got pregnant? If so how long did they last? I've had them on and off all today.
Xxxx

INeedNewShoes · 11/02/2017 00:29

Hoping - of course you're welcome Smile

Well really we are imposters on the other thread now that we're not 'trying to conceive'. I try to keep chitchat about my pregnancy to a minimum there unless someone asks me about it as I'm so acutely aware of the sensitivities on the thread.

Its still early days for you but with every day that passes if your lines are getting stronger you should feel reasonably positive, though you'll be able to be a little more certain once you've had a scan. What's your clinic's timetable for scanning?

Don't feel guilty for conceiving first time. Feel lucky Grin

HopingForALittleOne · 11/02/2017 00:23

Happy to be called hoping2 if easier

HopingForALittleOne · 11/02/2017 00:22

Do you mind if I join you on this thread? Feel a bit guilty writing anything on the other thread when it looks like I've conceived first month when others have tried longer and been disappointed.

I feel a bit lost though and scared. Although I've had ups and downs I guess it's seemed too easy so I'm worrying it can't be real.
Confused

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taydex · 08/02/2017 20:23

Any news hoping? 😀

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taydex · 04/01/2017 17:34

Oh the joys of being pregnant! You'll miss it when bubs is born. I miss the kicks.

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hopingandwaiting · 04/01/2017 09:07

Hahah, oh dear! I think I too would go for C, whilst making the most of my pregnantness! Just wait till your baby's head is engaged - then it's ALWAYS pressing on your bladder. I've lost count of the teaspoon-amount wees I have had recently!

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taydex · 03/01/2017 08:40

I think I'd pick C. Whilst pushing out my bump and waddling to look a bit more pregnant 😂

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INeedNewShoes · 03/01/2017 08:28

God if only it could be affordable and adorable!

I had a nerve-wracking 1hr30 stuck absolutely stationary on the A1M yesterday needing a wee. I was sat there willing the baby not to do that thing where it leans on my bladder. I was weighing up my options -

A) use the verge in full view of everyone
B) ask a lorry driver next to us whether he had a loo in his cab
C) walk to a caravan further back in the queue and ask to use their loo

Which option would you go for? Grin I was leaning towards option C...

Luckily just as it was becoming critical the traffic moved!

hopingandwaiting · 03/01/2017 08:09

Haha, adorable, not affordable!

hopingandwaiting · 03/01/2017 08:09

Hi Taydex

Haha, shoes, I think all babies come out looking a bit like potatoes, but it'll be your potato and therefore the most affordable potato you've ever seen I'm sure Grin

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taydex · 01/01/2017 20:38

Oops where are my manners?! Hi hoping, good to see you over here x

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taydex · 01/01/2017 11:55

Ha ha, you guys make me laugh. Glad it's not just me!

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