Getting ready for baby challenge

Also char sorry to hear about your fertility issues :( Have you had any reasons given as to why that's the case?

Oyster I think we have our boys name picked out already!

And confused I know what you mean about age I'm only 23 and despite already having a family, a home and stable flexible jobs I'm nervous about mentioning anything to family about TTC!

Hi confused sorry I've been so busy with Xmas prep!

I've decided that since DD being born I'm not much of a drinker so no one will be too surprised if I don't drink at Xmas, I'm not going to test again unless my period hasn't appeared by the end of December

Sounds crazy but I became a POAS addict since giving up the pill even though we weren't trying (just had quite a few slip ups!) , and since I got 2 BFNs yesterday it brought back some surprisingly painful disappointment! So, since DP is super on board with having another, there's no need to stress about conceiving this month :)

And OMG yes we were talking about switching rooms with DD and the future little one as we have a big master bedroom, he got super into talking about how we'd do the room especially if it was different genders :D wonder if we'll make it to June eh!

My DP is still feeling a little bit weird about the idea. He says he knows he is 100% ready and it's definitely what he wants but saying it out loud feels odd because it's always something that older people do! (He's never felt his age! My little Peter Pan!) I'm trying so hard not to talk about it, it's actually quite a relief to have you ladies to obsess with.
Also very reassuring to hear I'm not the only completely crazy one.

Oyster i wouldn't worry we have names already lol DH likes to tell everyone what the kids will be called.. i keep telling him we need to make them first! Lol

Char i used to work for a Lesbian lady who concieved 2 kids using home insemination they had a donor in Birmingham and they only had to pay for a hotel room for him to do his business in! Would you consider something like that?

On another note... does anyones DHs get funny over weird things? 2 nights ago i needed make-up wipes but could only get baby wipes so he got funny thinking im more obsessive about babies but last night he couldnt stop talking like he wanted to make one right away

Xxx

Thanks for the welcome We wont know for sure what is recommended until we have seen our clinic but it will definitely need to be donor sperm for iui as ivf is much more than we can afford, so hopefully they will say its an option for us, but at 35 almost I'm wondering if chances are too low xx

We've already decided on names for the next one 🙈
I feel uncomfortable about it, like I'm tempting fate and we'll end up with secondary infertility but I'm just so broody! I literally cry when I see a newborn.

Evie are you testing again today? Whats the latest you think you could have ov'd?

It's ok wiggley it doesn't get me too down as I know a BFP isn't part of the plan right at this minute lol. The OPK was ok! They seem to take quite a long time to dry though and as I work shifts in security it is hard for me to wait 10 mins for it to dry completely. One it had though it was very easy to read. I would say try ICs first as I know Mid-Stream like Superdrug or Clear Blue are easier they are just so much more expensive!

Hi Char Nice to meet you! What sort of treatment are you going to be having?

Just remember theres you are always welcome to rant on here about the In-Laws! lol... I will be there on x-mas day and must be really careful not to mention babies as I feel like she tried to put DH off sometimes saying we are too young etc

The baby obsession is massive in my brain! I thought I was the only person to spend most of my lunch break on Mothercare etc picking things!... I have already decided what Cot I want

Ooooo I havn't looked at the John Lewis one yet! Did not just load JL website

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Ahh I love Gavin and Stacey!! It's so exciting to think about next Christmas! We are also planning to move to a slightly bigger home. When I feel like indulging my inner crazy lady I like to do a bit of window internet shopping. John Lewis is my favourite baby section to browse

Can I join this thread? I am going to be looking into having fertility treatment next year and want to be as fit and healthy as possible. We are unlikely to be able to have many goes so want to be in as good a shape as possible when we go for it. I am 35 in March so clock is ticking too! X

Aw sorry to hear that confused...how did you get on with the OPK? I'm looking forward to trying some out, not sure which ones to get! Although I guess I have enough time to try them all!

Hahaha Ooh Dubai sounds amazing!

confused that would be lovely, I did have this fantasy of having them only one school year apart if I am preggers now and the little one decides to come on time!

Is anyone making any big changes in prep for babymaking?

evie groping vagina is an excelent way to word it! Lol... we will have to remember that for a thread title! Lol

Sorry wiggley i missed your post! I am also completely obsessed with trying to concieve! I dreamt about getting a BFP last night... but the test today was very much a BFN =(

Awh Evie im sorry AF is making you wait but if you ov'd late you could still be in with a chance!

Oh wow theres do you get to come back to the uk often? I love Dubai! Very good Honeymoon destination for the ladies that are looking! And Zika free! lol

Honestly though... what is it with seeing the In-Laws that can be so stressful! Lol

Xxx

Hahaha _ I suppose I could have phrased that more elegantly!

Groping around my my vagina!! Brilliant!

Thank you Wiggly :) Yeah I'll be testing in the morning but don't think I'm pregnant as I don't have tingly boobs like I did with DD, it was such an obvious sign.

pony I wouldn't worry too much I do think most midwives are female, or at least the majority are so can't really imagine a scenario where they wouldn't have any female midwives available. Although I did give birth to DD in the middle of the night and it was quite quiet in the hospital, and honestly you may find that quite a few consultants, surgeons and anaesthetists are male.

The male doctor who came in was so great I honestly didn't care by then that there was a man groping around my vagina, which I thought I'd be uncomfortable about too. But don't forget you can always express your worries early on to your community midwife

I'm so surprised by that tea! I thought Dubai was known for its fabulous shopping malls! Although on the short visit I had there it was all very fancy designers. I had a baby dream last night! Is anyone else struggling to think of anything but ttc? Last night I had a huge bump full of boy/girl twins A girl can dream!

Hey Evie! Welcome! That's rubbish that you are late, fingers crossed it sorts itself out quickly for you.
Tea are you looking forward to being back in the U.K.? (Except for the cold!) We are sharing our Christmas and Boxing Day between our families, luckily they only live about an hour apart.

Ooh confused you're exactly the same as me then :) I came off in September too! And yes we were supposed to be using condoms but haven't really succeeded, in fact I thought we might have another Christmas surprise like DD was but even though AF is 3 days late I got a BFN today :/

Am looking forward to getting super healthy; next on my to do list is to start charting my cycles (which is why it sucks that I'm late as I'm usually regular as rain) and getting to grips with OPks and temp charting!

red Oh god! I hope your squeaminess was not entirely my fault! Its funny you mention the male thing... I watch quite a lot of One Born Every Minute and I must admit I am not sure I would want a Male midwife. It just makes me cringe when I see them doing the examinations etc...

Time my christmas is split between several different places this year but we are thinking it might be the last year we are so mobile! so we are going to make the most of it. Where do you live if you are not in the UK?

Hi Evie lovely to meet you!!! You can join me in June It still seems quite far away at the moment. Good question about the contraception, I originaklly came off the pill due to side effects also in September and we have been using condoms until start of December when we both gave up with them. We talked about using them again but I doubt we will!

xxx