Getting ready for baby challenge

Confused we aren't using anything so he is understandably nervous lol but we are not actively trying yet

Oh Dancing dont worry I am hoping for a very much happy "accident" lol... speaking of that does anyone know if you are allowed a hot bath in a completely accidental TWW? I love a good hot bath

Oyster that is my thinking too!... that sounds really cute with DD btw i will have to remember that idea

Grumpy can you not seduce DP into not using a barrier method? Maybe trying pull out as well? It holds a one in four chance in a year to get preggo so i'm happy with those odds until April!

About the whole good time for mat leave thing i work shifts and i really struggle during the later winter months so i am willing to sacrifice not having summer off to have those months off lol

I need to wait for weight in too.. Dancing what day are you delaying to? good luck to those who are weighing in today and tomorrow

I weigh almost every day. I expect and don't worry too much about the fluctuations. I only record lower weights on my app. It means that sometimes a weight doesn't get recorded for a few weeks but when it does my app gives me a little cheer

Good luck with the weigh ins!

Am weighing in tomorrow dreading it!!

I need to wait until later in the week. This weekend has been a write off!!

Weighing in about 10 mins HELP!

Don't have scales at home so have to do it at the gym!

Have drunk a litre of water tho.... Might Have a wee first!! (Every little helps!)

V high I mean

Also we are in the middle of decorating our house in a rather major way so I want all that to be ready - motivation to get it done is c high right now!!

I know confused it's like once you've made the decision you don't want to wait even though it's sensible! I want a Feb /march baby also as I don't want to be off work over year end review cycle etc but waiting until May June to conceive seems ages and I'm worried it won't work! Right now a snuggly baby next Xmas sounds great.. plus I need an excuse for my massive tummy (for someone who normally has a washboard stomach I'm struggling massively with this continued bloating)

Confused maybe you can end up with a happy 'accident' before April?! 😉

I should say he has come forward from June already though! Lol

Ermm i think it is just moneywise
Now... at one point i think there were things he wanted to get out of his system like Getting wasted with the lads etc but since we moved further out from london about 3 months ago he's turned into a homebird and survived so i think that has changed. The money thing is difficult because we have a £7k baby fund to use which is very fortunate but DH (like most men) doesnt realise how much this will help after he has watched SIL struggle through the first 2 years of motherhood and thinks it will be the same for us

DD was 7/8/9 months over summer and it was really nice. We did baby led weaning so we went to the park and had picnics where I just put some food on a mat in front of her and let her go nuts. At least there were a few meals where I didn't have to clean the floor afterwards

What are your DH's reasons for April confused ? x

To be honest Oyster a march baby would be nice as then i would get summer off as Mat Leave but I can't imagine a newborn in summer is the best... so there are pros and cons... i guess what i am saying is that i would like a baby right now loool

DD was born almost 5 weeks early so planning when you want them doesn't always work! I ideally wouldn't want a summer baby but shouldn't imagine I'll care once we start ttc, I'll just be keen to get pregnant as soon as possible.

Awhhh Grumps it's so annoying when Men do that... they can never make their minds up! My DH is just making me broodier by the day talking about baby stuff but doesn't want to bring trying further forward than April even though i am thinking a Nov birthday would be nice! But i don't want to push it and then
Him go the other way and not TTC

coregeta I like u am humming and hawing about birthdays, my ideal is to have a baby in October for work reasons, but that relies on me falling pregnant on my first try this cycle which lets face it isn't likely, being due in the summer is currently not good for me work wise although I'm hoping my job will change in the next few months so that might too. DS is January so I think if I haven't conceived before April cycle I'll skip it to avoid another January birthday, DS wouldn't take kindly to any imposition on him being king of the castle
grumpy men..... Can Never mean what they say or say what they me and then they say we are the confusing ones
chunky welcome!!

When you're properly trying maybe don't talk to him about ovulation dates etc? I think it can be a bit of a turn off for them if they know they need to perform on a particular day.
Ttc isnt very romantic, I'd be lying there after wondering if it'd be impolite to add dtd to my app or if I should do some cuddling first.

Grumpy 🙄 men! I can totally empathise with the sore boobs. Also my libido bounced right back after coming off cerezette (having hated sex for months). Frustrating that he's not as up for it!

Oyster I've an inkling it's like baby mode and sex mode are so far apart for him.. also he's worrying about the practical side of a new baby (as am I) but he insists he still wants to go ahead... he is scared of me getting pregnant right now though I think!

"Complicated feelings"?
Men! Do you know what his problem is?