Getting ready for baby challenge

Ha me either, DH has a big family so they'll all have an eyeful

Don't worry confused I don't think that'll put me off. I'll figure something out!

Oh no!! I didn't mean to put you off Mrs and Dancing but that was exactly my thoughts!!!

Omg! Fil and boobs. I may change my mind!

confused the thoughts of my FIL seeing my boobs is just too much

Jupiter the best thing to do is completely obsess and make baby wish lists act like it never happened and carry on as usual. On Dpo 1 and so far I have felt sick have sore boobs bloated (btw i am joking about these being real symptoms)

Inteteresting to see we all would... i just watched this documentary and it said that baby formula is pumped full of sugar to get kids addicted from a young age and now im scared not to bf! The other side is i can be quite a sociably awkward person and i am not sure how i would deal with BF in public or around in laws (my family would be fine)

Welcome Jupiter that's so exciting! Glad you got the all clear to start trying. I feel like what she said about not waiting another year vindicates my choice too on the wrong side of 30 (was debating waiting another year for work / house / reasons but they aren't insurmountable).

I have an appointment with my GP on the 17th to tell him and discuss my past anxiety issues etc (pretty much sorted now but I want to check they have all the right info etc, & check my medical records which I know are wrong!).

Confused I think also because this will be DH first baby he is way more nervous than me! He's been around since DD was small but not teeny.

I breastfed DD for three months & would have liked to do it for longer but my milk dried up as soon as I introduced mixed feeding (1 or 2 bottles a day). This time I'd like to do it for the full six months I'm at home, I never was able to express so baby will need to move into formula by the time I go back to work.

I tried with DD but she was preterm and in NICU being tube fed at first and she never quite got the hang of it. She was so tiny it was too hard work for her. She had expressed milk and looking back now I don't know how I managed it. I expressed every 3 hours, 24 hours a day for 6 months. That's the kind of luxury you can only manage for a first child, no time for that when you have a toddler to look after too. I'll be doing everything possible to get the 2nd one to breastfeed.

jupiter welcome, fun times ahead! I'm also on my first month, just waiting for AF to go so I can get going!
I asked my gp about ttc too and she said no reason why not so long as I have been on the folic acid, she's having me in for bloods this cycle, she said ovulation + 7 days for that if anyone is thinking of it and they will check everything then (not entirely sure what everything means) but I can carry on ttc regardless this cycle!
unicorn I love me some stats so will give that a go.
I didn't BF first time round, I'm in Ireland and we have the lowest uptake in Europe but tbh u get absolutely no support afterwards, no midwife visits etc like u get in the UK so that's probably why so if the government got the finger out with some policies in the area they could probably manage to improve that. I would like to try this time around though, my DS was an absolute savage though, GP said she never seen anything like him and not to tell anyone but that she was glad I wasn't breastfeeding coz I would be sucked dry

Definitely would like to breastfeed if I can!

Confused I plan to, if I'm able to!

Ohhh confused, would love to be cycle twins with you and HB - might the longest wait in the world so we can keep each other sane.

Thanks for the kind words about BMI - you're totally right!! Plus if I'm anything like the other women in my family morning sickness may be another way to lose a few lbs (eeek)

So ladies... who is thinking about Breast Feeding?

Hey Jupiter you can join me and HB as cycle twins! I ov'd yesterday and i think HB ov'd today! I am now in a hopefully happy accidental TWW

Also about the BMI thing lady if you are ready for a baby you go for it! Healthy people can be slightly overweight too! I have a BMI of 27 which is overweight because i am just over 12 stone and 5ft6 but if I said i was a size 10-12 people would say i was fine! Also I had a friend who lost weight and dress sizes whilst preggo because she found her baby as more incentive to cut the sugar!

Thanks timefortea I promise to stop the v.v.long posts soon :)

Yes! And I would totally recommend it if you have GP/nurse you trust.

I went to see the practice nurse as she's really normal and sensible and basically went in and said that I've been losing weight, my BMI is still 30.4 but we want to start trying for a baby... I asked her if that was a bad idea as still have weight to lose and therefore should I delay for a while yet. She told me to get on with it as BMI isn't everything, I am healthy (blood pressure etc all good) and that she is more than happy for me to keep cutting calories whilst TTC (but should be taking in around 1500-1600 a day rather than the 1200-1300 I have been on for last 6 months.) She also told me that women far bigger than me have perfectly healthy pregnancies and that delaying for another year may be more detrimental in terms of my fertility given I'm over 30 already.

She has prescribed me 5mg folic acid daily to take (guidelines recommend this for women with BMI of over 30) but that I can go down to 400mcg if and when my weight drops to below a BMI of 30.

I know some people might think that her advice is irresponsible but ultimately she was advocating eating as healthily as possible and that some further weight loss will be inevitable as part of that process. I think that sounds good. Also she commented that being 6ft and quite muscular would make my BMI score a bit inaccurate anyway and given I carry all my weight on my bum and thighs I don't have the same risks re diabetes as more apple shaped women.

I've spent far too much of my adult life beating myself up about my weight and honestly it was really reassuring to be told that I'm doing okay, and basically to keep doing what I'm doing.

I am madly excited about TTC :)

Sorry this has become a total essay!!!

Hi Jupiter! Oo, does that mean you've already spoken to someone at docs office about ttc? I was never sure who to see/what to say! Was it useful at all?!

Mrsc bought it for my phone, and wasn't expensive. I really enjoyed it, but think I'd also like to look at others. It was mostly about using information to make decisions about pregnancy. Lots of stats and references to studies, so might not be for everyone!

Hello :)

Just wanted to say hi and ask if I can join you all. This is our first month actively tying to conceive but also would be good to have some support to keep eating in a healthy way at the same time. Managed to lose some weight last year before my wedding but would still like to lose some more. The Practice Nurse happy for me to cut calories (a bit) as long as eating balanced whilst TTC...

So
Age: 32
Kids: None
TTC: Now! Cycle day 12 and just got solid smiley face on OPK which means I will ovulate in next 12-24 hours. We've been DTD regularly for last week (DH doesn't know what's hit him... "What? On a weeknight??!" haha)

AF due in two weeks. Fingers crossed. Not feeling confident it will happen that quickly but really keen to keep up the healthy eating and exercise.

Good luck everyone!

Grumpy I've been trying to keep the ovulation chat to a minimum as I know my DH thinks its over the top to even be using OPKs etc when we've only just started trying. I might end up continuing to use them anyway and not mentioning it so much so he doesn't feel overwhelmed by it or something. Guess we're all trying to adjust to this at the moment (DH's included!)

Oh ok Grumpy yeah I understand then... i have a friend who has been TTC since September but she cannot get her DP to have sex with her either... and it was his idea!

Yeah tbh Dancing i will probs weigh tomorrow and just feel down lol.. oo is that expecting better good? I had a hot bath anyways lol i couldn't resist!

Also I don't think you can ever really time it... i will try and be more careful in March because i do not like the idea of a christmas baby but it could be late and not be a christmas baby anyways lol

unicorn must give that book a look, I'm in the market for a new book and I need to distract myself coz I'm getting too much in my head thinking about things now and over analysing which is classic me so maybe a book would calm me a bit, also being back to work will help, less time for obsessing!

I think for me timing may leave would suggest waiting, but neither me or oh want to wait. So I guess it's out of my hands. Will see how long it takes. I imagine it's pretty hard to fully control?!

Confused I'm thinking of weighing maybe Wednesday. But will probably cave. I tend to do it too often anyway... I would guess you're probably ok with a hot bath. Just finished reading Expecting Better by Emily Oster, which had a section on tww. But other people may have different opinions. (I think I'd be happy to have one)

So yes relying on pull out most of the time but not being super careful