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Have I left it too late for children?

38 replies

user1479210122 · 16/11/2016 18:49

Hi everyone my name is Louisa and I'm 30 nearly 31.
This month will be my first month trying for a baby.
I've got it into my mind that I've left it too late and I might be infertile.
All my friends had children aged 20/21 so I often get asked what's wrong with me etc.
My periods are every 29 days on the dot so I think I know when I ovulate monthly.
I'm just scared in case I never get pregnant.
I will be devastated..I keep thinking your not that lucky to fall pregnant and that my body won't be able to do that.
I know it's totally irrational ..tomorrow night will be first night of trying and then every other day...according to app I ovulate Sunday.

OP posts:
justforthisonce · 16/11/2016 19:08

its the title of the thread that is very insensitive and comes accross badly

WantingBaby1 · 16/11/2016 19:07

Totally normal to feel terrified that you're infertile. I worry too, and there is no reason to! I'm 30 and am on cycle 2.

I think it's natural - we go through our teens and beyond terrified of getting pregnant and then when we want to we worry we won't be able to! At school they basically tell you a boy only has to look at you with his willy and you'll be up the duff. Not quite the case once we hit 30 but I can assure you you've nothing to be concerned assure out until you've been actively trying for a year.

Northernlurker · 16/11/2016 19:06

It's a bit daft to be worrying when you are decades away from menopause and haven't even tried yet. Time to worry if you're still without baby in 2018.

Original poster
user1479210122 · 16/11/2016 19:02

Sorry it wasn't meant to come across as nasty.
I just wrote down my fears and sorry if that was insensitive to some.

OP posts:
haveacupoftea · 16/11/2016 18:59

I dont see whats wrong with the OP. Shes allowed to talk about her fears, just because mumsnet has an unspoken hierachy of fertility worries doesnt mean the OP cant voice hers.

Anyway, if you are having regular period you are more than likely fine OP. It will likely take a few months so dont panic. But youve a lot of years left before worrying about your age.

miwelaisjacydo · 16/11/2016 18:54

OP your post reads quite badly which I'm sure wasn't your intention. Remember there are lots of women on here struggling with TTC.

klassy · 16/11/2016 18:54

Well, I started your age and still haven't had luck (mid 30s). Some women don't. Chances are you will. But if you don't, like many others, you'll cope. We all get through somehow.

Are you this anxious generally?

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 16/11/2016 18:52

I had my first at 36 and second 'surprise' one at 39, despite my DH having lower than normal fertility levels. It took 18 months the first time. Don't worry about it, see what happens, you've got plenty of time. Good luck Flowers

MissClarke86 · 16/11/2016 18:52

I'm 30 and pregnant with my first. The odds are very much still in your favour.

knaffedoff · 16/11/2016 18:51

Nah, loads of time. I had my first at 38 :-)

BratFarrarsPony · 16/11/2016 18:51

at that age, I doubt it.
If you want to make a baby you have to practise for at least a year before you can start worrying about infertility...
have fun...:)

justforthisonce · 16/11/2016 18:50

very insensitive self obsessed post.

Manumission · 16/11/2016 18:50

Of course you haven't.