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Thread 21 TTC #1 - The one where all our cycles went haywire but we DID NOT GIVE UP

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FXSkip · 14/11/2016 12:29

Calling all clomid-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX) We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

Thread 21 TTC #1 - The one where all our cycles went haywire but we DID NOT GIVE UP
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MouseLove · 29/11/2016 11:32

Also why is it when AF comes I get briefed on baby related things at work (I'm a designer). It's like Mother Nature likes to remind me about these things. AF in full effect today. Angry

MouseLove · 29/11/2016 11:24

Ah Binky so sorry. Shit isn't it. Let's eat cake together!! CakeChocolateFlowers

I'm going out for my lunch today. And I'm going to have a hit of nespresso later. My 50 day cycle and then a 23 day cycle kinda leaves me scratching my head. I'm never going back on those damn pills. Ever. Again.

WantingBaby1 · 29/11/2016 11:21

So sorry binky Sad I suspect I may be joining you soon though. Af was due yesterday but is yet to make an appearance. We only dtd twice during fw so I'm sure I'm not pregnant.

sk1pper · 29/11/2016 11:11

Kav - CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeah Grin about time we had some good news in our little group. Hope that it all goes well - I'm sure it will xx

Binkybunny13 · 29/11/2016 11:03

Amazing news kav! YES!

Any news from you wanting?

Hep hope your dad is doing ok. And London, what a shitty evening Sad It's awful when everything happens together. Really hoping everything gets better for you Flowers

So sorry you've been suffering alexia Flowers ChocolateBrewHope you're feeling better soon

Mouse can I join you in the crying corner? After feeling so distinctly weird last couple of days I confess I was really hoping for this to be the month. Had DTD more than ever in FW and was on holiday, relaxed and not focused on TTC. But looks like I just had weird PMS symptoms (joy) as have had some browny CM this morning and my usual AF sign of vulva pain has started. Just want to curl up and sob!

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FXSkip · 29/11/2016 10:51

C O N G R A T S K A V ! ! ! ! WOOHOOO!!!!! ok I am pretty excited for you over here!! Seriously though, just enjoy this amazing feeling GrinGrinGrinGrin

Jam that really sucks, all of it. He really fucking loves you, only real, deep love can spawn that heat-of-the-moment hate that we have all been guilty of on occasion, it just doesn't always get said. Be patient with your man, like you said - he's crumbling. Go over the details, ease his mind, remind each other how much you love each other. Then, when you can, go and have a cuppa with your mum, give her a massive hug. And then, do something just for you, have a bath or book a massage. Maybe you can focus on your family for a bit, not stop trying but just shift your focus. Except FW then go hell-for-leather DTD. Whatever you decide to do, take good care of yourself. TTC stress is sort of manageable on its own, but when family starts to fall apart it is nigh on impossible to hold it together. Massive hugs to you.

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MrsG280516 · 29/11/2016 09:56

Awww yay kav congratulations!! Let's hope your lucky BFP brings many more to the thread soon!!

kavanaughkj · 29/11/2016 08:45

Argh. Ovulated on cd 12!

kavanaughkj · 29/11/2016 08:44

Sorry geeup, just saw your questions - only DTD twice in the fertile window, once on cd 9 and once on cd 11. I ovulated on cd 11. Today's 14 dpo - AF was due tomorrow. Long may she keep her distance!!!

HepKestrel · 29/11/2016 08:43

Congratulations kav !!!!

WantingBaby1 · 29/11/2016 08:38

kav that's wonderful news! Congratulations!! Hope you're floating on cloud 9 for the rest of the day!

How many dpo were you?

Miranda234 · 29/11/2016 08:32

Aw what great news to start the day! Congratulations kav! Let's hope that's the start of many more to come!

Sorry you had a big row Jam it's a stressful time just TTC let alone all the other things you have going on, hope it gets better for you

kavanaughkj · 29/11/2016 08:24

Ooo Kwick, I wanted one of those Decleor calendars but have been trying so hard to save lately, just ended up getting a Where's Wally one!

Sending you huge hugs Jam. My relationship with DH was under a lot of stress until recently because he was out of work so long. We struggled through it and I'm sure you will do too - the stress of TTC is real, though.

As for me, I'd come to a grim acceptance that I was never going to get a bfp- so when I poased this morning I was totally expecting bfn. Then though I saw a squinter, but I've thought that so many times before. Then it got clearer and I damn near cried right then and there!! Pulled out the Clearblue which I've kept just in case I ever got a frer positive, just so I could see the definitive "pregnant" - and just lost it when it popped up.

Gathered it together again to go into the bedroom where DH was waiting- I'd warned him not to get his hopes up - showed him the frer, and as it was dawning showed him the Clearblue. Cue biggest grin ever on his face and the best ever happy crying hug - followed by "we're going to be parents", followed by "what have we done?!" Heehee.

Walking on air. Have no clue how I will concentrate today. Grin

Londonjam · 29/11/2016 08:20

Sorry about AF mouse fx it's third time lucky for you

MouseLove · 29/11/2016 08:18

Oh kav, congratulations. Just the news we needed!!!! Grin

Well. CD2. Cycle 3 here I come. I didn't temp this morning. Not this cycle. I think my body is just so messed up with coming off cerelle and all my other problems I think I'll be here for the long haul. I'm totally ok. 33 tomorrow. No nookie. FML. Wink

Thank you ladies for yesterday. Really, your support stopped me from having a total meltdown.

Wanting, FX for a BFP for you!!!!!!!!!!!

Londonjam · 29/11/2016 08:08

Great news for starky a boy hey! Hope you are all doing well - if you are around!

Sorry to hear you've been feeling shit alexia those side effects sound awful. Hope they subside quickly and help you back to a BFP

Earphones in kwick!

Had an awful evening, big row with DH. He's getting cold feet over the flat, scared of the mortgage commitment, wanting to go over and over the details. My grandma is back in hospital and my mum is stressed and upset. I'm stressed and upset about TTC and just need his support and he's crumbling. We had a horrible shouting argument and he said I fucking hate you sometimes ShockSad He apologises profusely afterwards and said it was the heat of the moment but I didn't accept his apology said I was appalled by his behaviour and lack of support and made him sleep on the sofa bed. TTC is putting so so much strain on us SadSadSad

Londonjam · 29/11/2016 08:03

Kav!!! Yaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy!!!!! Finally another BFP! That has really lifted me SmileSmileSmile huge congrats FlowersFlowersFlowers

kwick · 29/11/2016 07:59

Hep sorry to hear about your papi - hope he will be on the mend soon Flowers

Oh Jesus, Eurostar is rammed and am sitting with a young family... I just need to sleep!

So excited as only 2 days until I can open up first window on, little luxury to myself, Beauty advent calendar!!!!

Alexia the Femara side effects sound terrible - what is it supposed to do again?
Thank you so much for letting us know about starky! Boy I miss her so much!

This amazeballs news kavan CONGRATULATIONS!! StarStarStar

geeup · 29/11/2016 07:56

Pps how many dpo are you?

YouOweMeATenner · 29/11/2016 07:42

Congratulations Kav!!! Brilliant news! Star

geeup · 29/11/2016 07:40

Pa do you have a chart to share for this month? I know you haven't been temping but wondered when you DTD etc (sorry that sounds really creepy!)

Musicgrrl · 29/11/2016 07:37

Ah yes, have just re-read. Lucky cycle 11! Have you told OH? If so how has he reacted?? bet you'll find it hard to focus at work today!

Starmist · 29/11/2016 07:37

Argh congratulations Kav!!!

geeup · 29/11/2016 07:37

Oh my goodness kav that's amazing. No doubt about that! Congratulations and enjoy the feeling sinking in!!

kavanaughkj · 29/11/2016 07:32

It's cycle 11, Music - and if you look at my last post on the previous page, you'll see that nope, had no freaking clue!! Boobs have been tender, but they are before AF. I can smell things more, and my teeth were really sensitive to hot soup yesterday despite using sensitive toothpaste. I was also mega hungry yesterday- but nothing out of the ordinary. Just - eeeeeeee!!!