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Unreasonable disappointment - period arrived

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KirstyinNorway · 26/10/2016 13:17

Expecting to get roasted here, but I'm feeling a bit fragile so please try to be kind (while maybe injecting me with some sense because I know I'm being stupid).

I have wanted to be a Mum since I can remember. When I married DH I knew he wanted kids too, and we planned to enjoy our new marriage for 18 months and then start trying (that would have been this coming December).

We ended up just getting a bit excited and started trying last month, and today I have started my period (I don't think I'm "implantation spotting", it's too heavy and I took a test just in case and got a negative).

I know I'm being stupid, many couples have to try for ages, I'm moaning when some people have real fertility issues and I've only tried for one cycle, the average couple has to try for 6-12 months, etc.

I think I had unrealistic expectations as 4 friends became instantly pregnant(!) with 2 conceiving on their first month, and 2 conceiving while using the pill.

We haven't told anyone we're trying and I feel like I can't tell anyone that I'm disappointed. Stupid, yes. Unreasonable, yes. Still real emotion though.

Anyway. Thank you for reading if you got this far - it just feels quite nice to get it off my chest Smile

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MrsG280516 · 26/10/2016 13:27

Its completely normal to be disappointed. I'm only on my first cycle too and I'm sure I'll be quite upset if I get my period in 2 weeks time. So its completely understandable.

Just try not to compare yourself to others, for every one person that falls pregnant on the first go there's another who takes a little longer.

KirstyinNorway · 26/10/2016 13:19

P.s. I've done everything the NHS suggests for a good chance of conception: regular sex (that's been good fun!), low caffeine intake, no booze.

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