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Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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HepKestrel · 22/10/2016 16:57

congratulations notyet !!!

Being nervous is completely natural. Take each day at a time. Just smile, be happy. Today you are pregnant.

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Notyetthere · 22/10/2016 16:39

Mouse - You were right about the graph. I have got a bfp!

FF says AF is due Tuesday so I am not out of the woods yet. I have been symptomless right to yesterday when I got the nastiest cramps ever. I can only describe these cramps the same as the ones I had when I was miscarrying. Anyway, today the pain is there but not as bad.

I am very nervous this time round. I have lost the innocence of enjoying a pregnancy. I will have to wait till next weekend way past expected AF date before I will believe that it is happening.

Sorry I am rambling on. Here is this morning's test.

Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.
sk1pper · 22/10/2016 15:10

Sounds good MrsG - we have sunshine here but I am freezing. I'm making pickled eggs and onions for Christmas at the moment, so stinking out the house with vinegar.

MrsG280516 · 22/10/2016 14:25

Brrr no sunshine here, I'm snuggled up on the sofa with my puppy dog as DH is at work! Got a brand new Yankee candle for my birthday so burning that and making the house smell nice Grin

InspectorPenguin · 22/10/2016 14:04

14 Nov for me please Hep.

Glad you're feeling happier Mouse, your DH sounds lovely.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine. DP and I have been playing sport this morning, just come home for an avocado/salmon/poached egg brunch and are taking the bikes out this afternoon. Perfect Smile

miwelaisjacydo · 22/10/2016 13:21

Trying to catch up on thread.....I thought Af had arrived albeit 6 days early but after a few spots yesterday and almost none today am at a loss. I just recon Af playing hide and seek.

MouseLove · 22/10/2016 11:46

Thank you ladies. Really means a lot. I did test again this morning but more to get the other test out the house lol. I got a 2 pack only £3.50 so I made sure. It was obviously a BFN but I watched it change today and I'm completely ok for it. I'm just hoping it's not too much longer before AF turns up. DH has been fantastic. He's reassured me I've not got a dried up womb and that he plans to put one in me soon. GrinWink
Thank you again. X

LondonJem · 22/10/2016 11:37

Thanks for the tip skipper I have scars from rosacea acne so will try that

I don't think there's any harm getting initial tests started starmist I've just started cycle 11 and I'm getting it all done.

I'm not sure I can request all those bluebird as I've already got the tests ordered. She is the fertility specialist at the practise though and sounds like she's seasoned in referring to the fertility centre. Hopefully she will have us covered for what they require.

Sorry hep I just find it so depressing going to end of the list yet again. Period will be here next on 12 November. I should start planning something nice to lift me when it inevitably comes.

HepKestrel · 22/10/2016 11:17

My list seems hopelessly out of date. Stripping to down to only those with active dates. please send me corrections/updates.

Nicky 22.10.16
notyetthere 25.10.16
sk1pper 27.10.16
geeup 28.10.16
EJ 28.10.16
sl1ver 30.10.16
Wanting 31.10.16
harriet 1.11.16
MrsG 4.11.16
Alexia 5.11.16
kav 6.11.16
tenner 8.11.16
Musicgrrl 11.11.16
stamist 14.11.16
eva 15.11.16

Dixiechick1991 · 22/10/2016 11:07

Hello again
Not been on for a few days and it's amazing how quick all these posts move.
So
Hi
Age 25
Cycle #3
TTC #1
Currently on CD3

Hoping I won't be symptom spotting this month, and hopefully the Christmas/Halloween films & parties and nights out will distract me from everything until after new year

bluebird3 · 22/10/2016 11:07

winging I totally understand. When I first started trying I thought I might have a 2015 baby. Ha! Then thought surely I'll have a 2016 baby. Double ha! Now I'm just hoping I get pregnant by the end of 2017.

bluebird3 · 22/10/2016 11:05

Sorry for the bfn mouse. The first ones are awful but hopefully you won't have too many.

jem make sure to ask if they are testing your blood for measles/mumps/rubella immunity and have a urine test to rule out clamydia. We thought everything was ready for our referral then got a call saying i needed another blood/urine test for those things and then had to wait another 3 weeks for an appointment. We waited 4 weeks after the referral for a letter then we have another 4 week wait for an appointment. So frustrating to have to wait around when I want the ball rolling!

kwick what are you going to do? Cut out your supplements?

Starmist · 22/10/2016 11:00

Thanks for sharing your scan Moose, I'm glad everything is ok.

Mouse I'm sorry Flowers

Winging I know what you mean, I'd imagined being heavily pregnant this Christmas & it's so rubbish to think it's fairly close now & all I've got is a food baby.

The doctor told me to go back to start tests in November if not had a BFP. I'd previously decided I'd wait out this cycle & go mid-late November but I think I may as well get the ball rolling & book an appointment for early November. I'm defo going to lie & say we DTD every day in FW as don't want to risk being sent away for another 6 months or something. Btw those Maca tablets I've been giving to DH to try & make him more horny haven't worked. I'm trying holding him back this month until close to when I get EWCM so he's got the energy to hit it hard at the right time. Previous months when we've started earlier he's run out of steam just at the crucial point.

sk1pper · 22/10/2016 10:50

Sorry just a quick note to say, if anyone suffers from bad acne in their luteal phase and is left with red marks that take a total age to disappear - palmers skin therapy oil is amazing. It's reduced my marks from last cycle overnight. It's expensive but if you only get one or two spots it's going to last you a while.

LondonJem · 22/10/2016 09:34

Try not be too disheartened mouse - you'd be really lucky to fall on your first cycle. It's very easy to get your hopes up and read into every twinge when you first start trying - I did that for at least 3-4 cycles so I do sympathise.

AlexiaB · 22/10/2016 09:17

I haven't caught up properly either but I just wanted to butt in and say I completely echo what Music said Mouse. Please please please save yourself the heartache girl and the money and don't test again! It's clear you haven't ovulated yet because of your chart (temps are low and no crosshairs). I know it's very frustrating waiting for AF but it's probably best if you relax and not take this cycle too seriously for your own mental wellbeing. Music is right - check your CM, keep temping, maybe do some OPKs? and just DTD as and when you can. You're still waiting to ovulate so you can still catch the egg. This is a learning curve and you're doing great so far.

Congrats on the lovely scan Moose Smile

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MrsG280516 · 22/10/2016 08:59

Sorry mouse FlowersFlowers it's awful seeing that BFN for the first time, I was sad to get one even when I was on the pill and had convinced myself I was pg!

I'll be in the same boat in 2 weeks I imagine, I haven't ov'd yet and it's CD15 today so looks like I'm in for a long first cycle too.

Musicgrrl · 22/10/2016 08:50

Sorry, got to catch up properly on thread but I just wanted to jump on and say - sorry for your bfn mouse but i just wanted to make you aware that for my first cycle off bc I didn't get AF for 61 days so I can't have ovulated until cd45-50. I wasn't temping or using OPKs at the time so I don't have those to go on but I think it's quite possible that you haven't actually O'd yet this cycle. I know you had fertile CM but again, that could have been because of your hormones being thrown out of whack. So might be worth checking CM and BDing just in case! You might see a temp rise in the next week or so.

Notyetthere · 21/10/2016 23:19

Mouse - Sorry I misunderstood. Definitely try and use the second test using 1st morning wee if not a Frer. Fx it is more concentrated than this evening. And if you are not sure post a picture and we shall squint at it. Some ladies on here are good at spotting the faint lines.

Notyetthere · 21/10/2016 23:10

Oh Mouse sorry to hear that. You should not feel terrible for rambling on, we are all here to ramble on; we are here because we are all on a journey that we don't really talk about with family and sometimes friends. Most of us haven't really told people about TTC. Are you going opk for your next cycle? I found that both temp and opk compliment each other.

sk1pper · 21/10/2016 22:15

Mouse - nooooo, sorry to hear that :( Flowers I thought you had it xx

MouseLove · 21/10/2016 21:25

Well that was hard. BFN ladies. Sad

On one hand I think I already knew, on the other I feel so devastated. Everything was against me. My sister turned up and stayed for tea then didn't leave for another hour.

So we went to Asda to get a test. The first response ones were sold out. I got a pack of Asda tests. Then I needed a nervous poop on the way home. Went to the loo and couldn't pee!!!

I think I'll pee on the other one tomorrow just in case but I'm pretty sure I'm now on the wonderful and uncertain wait for AF, whenever she decides to turn up. We should take a bet on which day she shows. Today is CD36 Confused

Thank you to everyone who's listened to my rambling commentary this past month. X

WingingIt83 · 21/10/2016 20:04

Wow a lot to catch up on!

So to mark my place. ..

WingingIt (stupid name as not really appropriate now with my opking and temping!)
Ttc#1
Age 32
Cycle 8
Cd14

Been having a teary week as those around me get more pregnant by the day. Also it dawned on me that there is a strong chance I will not be pregnant by Christmas or my birthday, and all those months ago I pictured myself with blooming bump as we saw in new year :-( That coupled with the fact there will be a baby just days old with us on Christmas day is just going to rub it in.

Seeing my mum this weekend and considering telling her we're ttc as I know she had problems. I think she had an offset womb? ? Not sure if that sort of thing is genetic?

EJ2009 · 21/10/2016 20:00

Well if you got a bfp i will take the thrush if thats where it gets me!! No other symptoms though so not hopeful that its my month.

sk1pper · 21/10/2016 19:20

Kwick - okay thanks, I hope the scanner puts me at ease. Kind of hoping it's the woman who did my smear, she was amazing and the whole thing was so awkward as my cervix didn't want to play ball. The doctor has a really good point about your supplements, I worked out that my bad breakout of acne last cycle was because I was taking too much. I've stripped it all back and reintroduced the most important stuff one at a time, seems to have done the job.

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