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Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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AlexiaB · 25/10/2016 15:55

I'm really far behind on the thread.

music baby bombs suck ugh :( Great news about the EWCM and +OPK.

skipper that is so weird that your MiL found out? Are your sure DH didn't accidentally let it slip? What an awful/strange thing for her to say too. I'm so glad my MiL is lovely, she's much easier to deal with than my own mum at times.

mouse glad you're feeling more relaxed. Fx AF shows up soon!

purple I think the closest Create clinic to you would be Birmingham? Still quite far away though so hopefully there's something closer that's reasonably priced. No need to apologise at all, we all need this outlet to vent at times.

I'm on cd21 and still waiting for my body to actually do something! I did have a temp drop to 35.75 today which is a good sign, but no ewcm and I didn't opk the last few days. So glad I've got Clomid now and that I'm getting Femara too. Literally can't be arsed with all the waiting around and uncertainty every month! It's just added stress I don't need on top of ttc. Thankfully NTNP this month but I'm anxious to see ovulation since I haven't ovulated since Aug 11thShock

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Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 15:52

Hello ladies !
Got the result back not sure what to make of them ! I think they are normal ? Any suggestions ?

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sk1pper · 25/10/2016 15:50

She has said a lot of things that have pissed me off, I think she doesn't think before opening her mouth sometimes.

Here's another (silly) example. She kept going on and on about how I never bake cakes for her son - lol I know, I laughed too at first...then she went on and on about it. She used to bake all the time for her kids so obviously I should be replacing her on this vital task.

One Christmas I thought "fuck it" and made the biggest, baddest Christmas cake I've ever made, fed it for months with sherry, and did my own marzipan and icing. This thing was the shit ok, it was delicious and my OH loved it and told his mum it was even better than hers.

She had a slice and said, "yuck youve put orange peel in it."

Before I erupted like mount Vesuvius on volcano day, OH said "mum if you don't like it, don't eat it." But she apologised and said that it was lovely she just didn't like orange peel.

I'm glad it's not just me having to deal with MILs snide remarks though. Notyet - yours is particularly horrific, can't imagine how awkward that was for both you and her.

AliceScarlett · 25/10/2016 15:46

Hi all. I'm reading along.

DH got his test through (NHS) trying trying to work out the logistics of getting the fresh sample there, he isn't sure about the hospital loos, fair enough.

I got a positive opk! CB dual hormone one. SO surprised, I've poas for nearly a year now and never seen anything. It doesn't actually tell me anything, but we managed to dtd so that's a plus.

I'm nannying now. I'm covered in banana and yogurt and it is actually helping me not worry too much about ttc! Or at least being more chilled out about the time frame. It's relentless and I can't relax for a minute.

MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 15:46

I can't believe people would be so insensitive about something like TTC, my MIL would never mention it to me, and my own mum would never ask either. They have both said that they can't wait to be grandparents but they've not pushed the issue!

What an awful thing to have to go through notyet Flowers

AlexiaB · 25/10/2016 15:43

Nicky they perform the SA within like 30 mins so after 1 hour call them up and ask for the results to be emailed to you straight away. If I didn't call and ask for them we would have had to wait for the email the next day (which arrived at about 1pm!) So definitely call them up after an hour or so. Good luck

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Notyetthere · 25/10/2016 15:28

Skipper I think your MIL was trying to convey a different message but it all came out wrong. My mum knew we were trying and she has said some insensitive things but I believe she means well. We did not tell anyone else but I believe they suspected we were trying.

Many people now know as the day I mc we were meant to prepare food for a party for Dnephew. We were planning to tell inlaws and SIL a few days after the party. We had tell them the bad news instead the day before the party as we were not sure that I would make it to the party. Anyway, I went to the party as I needed something to celebrate. At the party, grandMIL then said something insensitive about why DH and I were not pregnant yet and what is wrong with us! I took her aside and told her that I was miscarrying there and then (bleeding had started the day before). Telling her seemed to shut her up and quickly dropped the subject.

purpleladybird · 25/10/2016 14:43

Thanks LondonJem. I'll take a look for somewhere similar up here. I don't think we've been TTC long enough for NHS help yet.

Sorry for my whingey post last night. I was feeling really frustrated and sorry for myself.

Musicgrrl · 25/10/2016 14:39

Sorry Jem - didn't mean to be a downer. I have bucked up my PMA this afternoon. I rationalised that just because she is pregnant it has no bearing on my fertility and ttc journey. There's no point in comparing ourselves. And yes, I think we would appreciate our +ve HPTs a lot more and feel more mentally prepared for pregnancy. Think my friend is a bit in shock!

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 14:34

Nicky you could well get them today. I think it was because DH did his at the end of the day. Fingers crossed

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 14:20

London he didnt say much he was on the train though so i will ask him later !
I thought they send it the same day ? Cant wait until tomorrow Confusedso anxious !

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 14:00

Oh and parents! Inlaws have no idea. My parents know as I told them last year.

Mum occasionally says fairly insensitive things like "Your dad and I didn't even try to get pregnant!"

I am one of four Envy Thanks mum.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 13:59

nicky how did he find the experience? DH said it was 'surreal'. He got the results the next morning.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 13:58

hugs music your post made me sad. I totally get excited about EWCM and positive OPKs too! Our bodies are doing what they should be. It's just taking us a little bit longer.

Maybe we will appreciate being pregnant more than the people who fall first time.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 13:56

Skipper WTF that is awful. Is she quite an odd person? I wonder how on earth she found out.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 13:55

Fingers massively crossed for all the testers. That's the worst bit of the cycle for me - the flip-flopping between disappointment and hope is unbearable. Distract yourselves as much as you can! I hope AF stays the hell away and we can celebrate more BFPs on here.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 13:54

Hi purpleladybird I remember you. Sorry you are still ttc. I think the testing place we've mentioned was Create Fertility. They have two branches in London but I'm not sure if they have any outside. I'm sure there are loads of good ones outside London too though. Have you been to see your GP about getting tested on the NHS?

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 13:43

Skipper I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut if my mil said that !
Anyone who had an SA done in create fertility how long did they take to send tou the results ? My dh has just finished (litterally) and i am very anxious about it !!

wapsmahoney · 25/10/2016 13:41

Hi everyone

Not sure if I introduced myself on this thread or a different one so lets start again...
Waps
32
TTC#1
Cycle 3
CD2

Last cycle I think I got a bit carried away with the wishful thinking that I had completely and utterly convinced myself I was pregnant as I had been feeling really off and different the last week or so... only to have AF arrive with a bang yesterday .... here we go again!

purpleladybird · 25/10/2016 13:28

Sorry skipper that's awful Sad

MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 12:11

We are kind of keeping it "secret" for now that we are TTC, when our mums asked after the wedding we said we were going to wait until the new year so they know it's soon anyway. I've told a few friends but that's it. Not sure how we will handle it if we are still trying a few months into 2017. Speaking of which, I totally freaked out on Sunday when someone posted on FB that it was only 10 weeks till 2017, argh.

MouseLove · 25/10/2016 12:07

Urgh Sk1pper I'm willing you get upduffed just to piss her off lol Wink What a selfish cow bag.

I haven't told anyone we're TTC, I don't think I will either. Thankfully after 8 yrs of marriage people have died down with the "when are you gonna have babies" questions. Hmm

sk1pper · 25/10/2016 12:03

So my MIL has found out we're TTC, I've no idea how this has happened as I've only told my sister and 2 friends who don't know her very well. My OH has told her to keep quiet about it as we're going through a rough patch what with it taking so long and starting tests etc, we don't want the world and its dog to know we're infertile.

Apparently, her exact words to her son were, "oh well, at least I've already got two grandkids. That's more than enough." Nice, real fucking nice. As long as she's happy I guess!!!

MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 12:00

Sorry about the baby bombs Music Flowers
It seems nearly everyone I know that is/was pregnant managed to fall on the first cycle

MouseLove · 25/10/2016 11:58

Music, don't worry, swimmers stick around for up to 5 days so as long as you DTD in the run up to ov you're good!! Relax, enjoy it.

CD40 today for me. Actually really relaxed and ok despite the lack of AF and a BFN on Friday. I think I've accepted the fact this might take a little longer to kick start. Loads of EWCM the last 3 days so lots of DTD just in case. Wink