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Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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sk1pper · 25/10/2016 21:04

Ok new thread rule: Do not compare yourselves to others.

Unfortunately there are many lucky women who can look at a man and get pregnant. And as others have said already, we are conditioned when we're young to think if you have unprotected sex, you're going to get pregnant. The reality is that most people take much longer, sometimes there can be underlying problems, sometimes not. And even with underlying problems, nature will normally find a way eventually.

I think the issue is that many of us on here have planned the perfect time to have our first child. We finally feel ready and it is a bit disheartening when it doesn't happen instantaneously.

I sometimes fear I'll fall out of love of wanting a child, up until a few years ago I couldn't even say I liked children. To be honest I'm not over the moon about babies, they cry and poop and throw up. All I'm focusing on is my future with that child and what I can provide it, the knowledge I can impart and the successful, nurtured and loved person I want them to be.

So...don't think about others. Good luck to them but fuck them. This is about you and your individual journeys, you should all feel so proud of what you've achieved so far and the support you impart to others on the thread. We'll have some more BFPs yet!

Starmist · 25/10/2016 20:54

All good here thanks Jem. Feeling weirdly relaxed, gearing up for (hopefully) some decent DTD activity over the weekend. I've booked a doctors appointment for 1st Nov so FX we'll be able to start with the tests. Are you ok?

Notyetthere · 25/10/2016 20:40

Mouse - Sorry about the baby bomb. We really want to be happy for our upduffed family and friends but its difficult. I think I would have been baby bombed lots had I not left facebook 2 months ago. I was already envious of friends who were pregnant even way before I came off the pill.

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 20:23

I love the promise of beer exchange for sex music

Mouse know the feeling. I've been with DH 10 years and started trying age 32 also. It's amazing as soon as you start how impatient you are. I would really try to relax and enjoy the early cycles though - you may well be upduffed quickly and have worried for nothing.

Hello starmist how's it going with you?

MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 20:11

You might just be taking a bit longer to surge tenner and might have ov'd during the day today

YouOweMeATenner · 25/10/2016 20:02

Welcome waps hoping you get over AF quickly so you can get down to business ASAP.

sk1pper that was pretty insensitive of your MIL Sad

Sorry about the baby bomb mouse, it will be you soon!

My temp didn't spike today so I'm not sure if that means I haven't ovulated yet or not. Dtd just in case.

My young cousin (23) just gave birth to her second baby today. Both were "accidental" as she put it. Gives me a wee bit of the rage.

Starmist · 25/10/2016 19:55

Wow so much to catch up on...

Winging I just lie there for 10 mins after DTD. I heard about the pillow thing, but surely you'd get swimmers over your pillow then? Hmm

Purple my DH struggles DTD regularly, he puts it down to being tired, he has a stressful job. I'd thought about him going to the doctor but like you I'm not sure what they could do. Also I'd worry that if we tell the doctor we aren't DTD as much as we should, we'll get sent away & tests will be put back.

Sorry you're having a tough time at the moment Skipper & EJ. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Skipper eek about the MIL comment. Hopefully she somehow meant well by it, like 'no pressure' perhaps... My MIL always drops hints that I should cook, she usually buys me a cookery book for Christmas. DH does the cooking, I do the cleaning, it works well, god knows why she can't just accept that!

Binky I've had pretty regular 31 day cycles since coming off the pill, then one cycle was randomly 40 days. I was convinced I must have been pregnant & it just wasn't showing up on the tests. The doctor said I might not have ovulated that cycle. I'd suggest you wait a week & if no AF test again. I know the wait is excruciating tho...

Music baby bombs are the worst. I know quite a few people who got upduffed the first cycle too, they really struggled with the shock of it though so I suppose it's a journey for us all with challenges if it happens quickly or slowly.

Notyet what a difficult thing to go through with grandMIL. It does frustrate me when people make comments & have no idea what's going on.

Nicky great results!

Mouse it will happen for us all, our time will come xx

Musicgrrl · 25/10/2016 19:24

I totally get it Mouse. I don't think films and general culture help things. We have all been conditioned to think that if you have unprotected sex one time you are likely to become pregnant. Or even protected sex that somehow ends in pregnancy! So we all feel worried when things don't happen straight away.

MouseLove · 25/10/2016 19:20

I know, I know. It's just very difficult wondering what if and when. It might be cycle 1 of actually trying but this is something me and DH have been planning for 8 years. We've unfortunately had some very bad luck in the past that meant we've had to start/stop the process. I guess that's why I'm feeling a little rollercoaster right now. I've been fine the last few days, completely laid back. And now this has reminded me I'm 33 next month, been with DH 13 years and we're still childless.

Musicgrrl · 25/10/2016 19:19

Good work Jem! Dtd covered here too. We both had massive train problems on the way home from work and so I was worried it would be a struggle to get DH in the mood but he was very good! I did promise him he could have a beer afterwards though... Halloween Confused

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 19:14

Mouse this is just cycle 1 please dont get dishearted it will most probably happen within the next few months !

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 19:13

Yes jem i will definately relax a bit now ! Fx cycle 11 is luck for both of us!
Dtd wise you are covered :)

MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 19:02

Got my fx for you Jem

Aww don't think that Mouse you're only a month in, you could be pregnant this time next month! Positive thinking!

MouseLove · 25/10/2016 18:49

Urgh. Just been baby bombed on facebook. TWICE!! Both school friends recently married, both first babies. This is the first baby bomb of my TTC and my heart ached a little. Can't help but feel, will it ever be me?

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 18:48

Hopefully everything else will come back good and clear and all pressure off you will conceive by Christmas. Fingers crossed!

Day 12 and we are on track. DTD yesterday and today. Now have no idea what is cm and what is sperm. Negative OPK tests so far and no ovulation pain. Watch this space. I feel like such a weathered battle trod soldier going through all this for the eleventh time. Please let me follow in your footsteps moose and get BFP on cycle 11!

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 18:43

Yes he is now jem ! After googling abit He is now saying he has super sperm and walking around with a huge grin HmmI just really hoped we are not in the unexplained statistics !

LondonJem · 25/10/2016 18:33

Wow those results are great Nicky your DH must be very chuffed!

sk1pper · 25/10/2016 17:47

Nicky - results look good, congrats xx

MouseLove · 25/10/2016 17:17

MILs can be very weird. Mine left a message on our answer phone... telling DH his grandad had died. Seriously, doesn't think. Thankfully DHs sister rang and spoke with him and broke the news before we could get home and hear the message "call me, your grandad is dead". Yep. Hmm

My CM has gone today. So maybe I had a flush out the last 3 days. I've never ever experienced that while on the pill. FF says I'm "probably fertile" and personally I think it's personally talking bull. LOL

AlexiaB · 25/10/2016 16:30

Nicky oh really, a hycosy will definitely be worth it then. I can't remember exactly everything they check for but thyroid is a big one and it'll have that base covered. Someone who's had it done might be able to chime in here. I'm sure the supplements and good diet made an already good sperm better :)

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Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 16:19

Alexia i have done the fertility MOT on cd21 so the doctor could actually see the corpus luteum ( i think its spelled like that ) and he could tell me that my lining was good etc. I highly recommend it .
At the time he said that from what he could see he didnt think a hycosy would be necessary and only do it if my husbands SA results were good
So i guess i will be booking in now.
I must admit i am hugely relieved .
I don't know if it made any difference but for the past 3 and a half months my dh was on wellman conception daily plus vitamin D. He also had eggs every morning along with a teaspoon of honey and walnuts
There is no way of knowing if that help at all though
I have a gp appoitment on friday . I am pretty sure i do ovulate but i am not sure what else they check for in blood tests?

AlexiaB · 25/10/2016 16:12

That's still incredibly high Nicky! His density is 83m which is higher than my DH's whole SA lol. Mine abstained between 3-4 days, something like 81 hours. A hycosy is definitely a great next step and bloods. Are you going to do the Fertility MOT?

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MrsG280516 · 25/10/2016 16:08

That all looks normal to me Nicky nothing to worry about I don't think.

That's a very typical MIL thing sk1pper, my grandma was like that a lot with my own mum so they don't have the best of relationships. Luckily my MIL isn't much of a homemaker and never a good cook so she has nothing to comment on. Tbh she wouldn't anyway as she's very reserved. Don't see why people can't just keep their mouths shut and not comment!

Nicky883 · 25/10/2016 16:03

Alexia he had 5days absence wonder if thats why is so high !
Ph is at the lowest level i wonder if thats why sometime it "burns"me
Next step for me is to book a hycosy i think

AlexiaB · 25/10/2016 15:57

Nicky they're amazing! Congrats. 448m sperm!!! That's LOADS!

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