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Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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sk1pper · 28/10/2016 07:45

Think you've O'd cd14 based on CM, OPKs and temp rise. No CH because you have a lot of missing/ uncertain values.

YouOweMeATenner · 28/10/2016 07:29

Congratulations kits delighted for you!

Did my temp this morning (1 hour earlier than normal because I woke to pee around 6 and knew I wouldn't get back to sleep) it seems to have fallen a good bit, so no CHs yet. Could this mean I haven't ovulated?

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sk1pper · 28/10/2016 07:09

Omg AF can fuck right off this month. Why so heavy and painful! Angry

Going to attempt work again today, but am looking forward to getting home and having a nice hot bath.

harrietm87 · 27/10/2016 23:08

Hi everyone just saying hi and placemarking and thinking of you all and wishing you luck! Nothing to add from me as still waiting till Jan. Feels interminable but getting closer!

Musicgrrl · 27/10/2016 21:05

Thank you all for your reassuring words and for sharing your experiences. I am feeling a lot better already - it's like I needed everything to be perfect this cycle and when my plan got disturbed it threw me right off. But now I'm in a place where I can see that having a rigid plan was probably not the best thing for my DH. I like plans, he doesn't.Gives me something to think on for next cycle!

Alexia - I can completely understand why you reacted the way you did to your DH in that same situation. I was on the verge of something similar!

Mrs love the creative thinking with the BJ action!

Nicky883 · 27/10/2016 20:50

I agree jem i undestand that if stress stops you ovulating then obviously it matters if not then i dont think it should . When i was doing accupuncture she did keep telling me to relax as my pulse was all over the place so i am pretty sure am stressed !
Its true however that many couples get pregnant after starting investigations .
If i remember correctly fishy is an example of that

LondonJem · 27/10/2016 20:33

Hmmm maybe see if it comes on more tomorrow and assess alexia are you thinking it could not be AF?

The stress thing. My two pence is that it's personal! Using OPK tests for me is reassuring and makes me feel less stressed. I know I'm getting the surge and I'm timing sex right. My GP approved when I said I used them. For me personally temping is a step too far. I just couldn't start every day taking me temperature - it would just start the day having to think about TTC. I couldn't handle trying to work out fluctuations and most of all I don't think I could bear seeing it drop and knowing AF is coming. But that's just me - I know temping massively helps other people who have irregular cycles or just enjoy having a more scientific approach and more information.

The official line on stress is that when it's very bad and chronic it can stop you ovulating. It also affects sperm. So staying relaxed is good for lots of reasons - but if you are ovulating then I personally don't think it can stop you conceiving.

LondonJem · 27/10/2016 20:27

If it's better time of the cycle to do it skipper then they will Definitely be used to it. I'm doing okay thanks, enjoying fertile week and just plodding on with it all really. It's the TWW I go mental and cry on the bus Grin

AlexiaB · 27/10/2016 19:54

Aww EJ what phone do you have? Most phones these days let you download apps if you have mobile data/wifi. You can access Fertility Friend on a computer but I find the app much easier/better to use.

Jem I really want to take it but I've hardly had any bleeding today just crampsHmm I'm honestly confused. Oh and that was me with the porn, definitely worksBlush

I agree with the stress thing. It's good to keep stress low but I see loads of girls on FF driving themselves literally crazy during the tww and they still get upduffed.

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EJ2009 · 27/10/2016 19:51

Haha thanks skipper & good luck for your scan

sk1pper · 27/10/2016 19:46

EJ - nothing wrong with a bit of paper and a pen. Not sure the apps can be used on normal computers to be honest.

jem - that's what I'm hoping, apparently it's easier for them to see potential problems on your period, so I'm gonna suck it up and deal with it. How are you doing?

LondonJem · 27/10/2016 19:28

Nicky I felt very similar about seeing GP. Just this feeling of resignation and deep disappointment and sadness that it's come to this. Hopefully what they say about getting referred and then conceiving will be true for us. I definitely feel a bit more resigned to it all now so maybe I am more relaxed? I don't know.

LondonJem · 27/10/2016 19:26

Music this has happened to us once - very frustrating but we've been at it for 11 months so really he's a bloody trooper. I know someone on here employed porn on their mobile to good effect. BJ another good shout although saliva is not good for sperm so bit of a tricky one

LondonJem · 27/10/2016 19:23

Kitsandkids wow a BFP after 9 years is amazing, many congratulations and all the best for a healthy pregnancy

Hello kava there are a few cycle 11 ers I'm hoping it's going to be lucky one Smile

I'd be inclined to try clomid at that point alexia do you think you will?

Sorry about AF skipper hopefully it will subside some before the scan. I'm sure the scanner won't even blink they must be so used to it

EJ2009 · 27/10/2016 19:23

Hepkestrel im out. Af came a day early.

Re my chart - thank you for advice. Im actually living in the dark ages. Ive been recording it on the paper charts that came with the thermometer. I dont have an app as i dont think i can put it on my phone Blush i am a 30 year old geriatric.... Technology is not my thing... as it goes i was thinking of setting an app up for this cycle. Can i do it on a normal computer?

sk1pper · 27/10/2016 19:10

Hmm it's confusing as I've read a few sources online that say it doesn't impact conception. I don't feel particularly stressed during OPKs or temping or anything like that. It's just a guide - not sure how it's stressful.

Nicky883 · 27/10/2016 18:53

Well tbh i stopped using opk for a couple of months i was still stressed ;p

Nicky883 · 27/10/2016 18:40

She thinks it puts on too much pressure to do it now ! And she firmly believes that stress does affect conception !

sk1pper · 27/10/2016 18:19

nicky - why doesn't the GP approve of OPKs?

AlexiaB · 27/10/2016 18:16

Nicky glad you've got the ball rolling. Why didn't she approve of OPKs?

Binky I'm going to monitor my bleeding and temps over the next day or so and then decide. It's so hard not 100% knowing if this is AF or not. I don't want to not take it and risk another long pointless cycle. How frustrating that you're still in limbo. It could be a long anovulatory cycle or just not showing up on the test yet. It's unbearable waiting isn't it.

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AlexiaB · 27/10/2016 18:07

Mouse yes maybe that would work?

Aww Music I'm sorry. I hate that feeling when you don't get what you want/need. It's hard to take emotionally so don't worry about crying. I'm sure if your DH is as lovely as you he will completely understand how you feel. These things happen, and you still have swimmers in the right place. If it makes you feel any better I kicked my DH out of the bedroom once and completely lost it. I got really nasty and said awful things like I don't think I can be with someone like you who keeps letting me down, are you even a man? etc. My DH understood the next day I was just hormonal and desperate. TTC is stressful and it tests your relationship. xx

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Binkybunny13 · 27/10/2016 18:03

OMG congratulations Kits! Great news! Smile

Alexia what have you decided on re: trying clomid? Thanks for the summary list- there's loads of us in limboland!

Hep hang on in there, but def have a party (any excuse..)

Chocolate and tea sounds needed music- I have had similar meltdowns but as we all know it's not helpful. Head up and LSFX

No news from knickerwatch my end- still no AF and now 8days late. Even tried wearing light knickers as a way of tempting the witch but no show! Did a HPT 2 days ago and still BFN as expected. Have been feeling pretty weird though so not sure what's going on. Might have a chat with DH this evening about it- haven't said anything yet as Its so unlikely I'm pregnant, but he's medical so going to pick his brains about what to do. My app has now given up predicting my FW etc so I'm going it alone and I'm confused!!

Nicky883 · 27/10/2016 17:58

Hep still no af ? The bitch only shows when you dont want her to !
Just came back from the gp she booked my blood test to get the ball rolling and informed me am entitled to one ivf cycle if is unexplained. She also told me that many cpuples fall pregnant when the start fertility checks as the "relax". She also doesnt approve of opks but i cant fault jer she was very nice about it all !
I thought i would feel better when i started tests but i feel incredibly sad about it .not excactly how i thought it would be !

HepKestrel · 27/10/2016 17:44

mouse its AF due date

Musicgrrl · 27/10/2016 17:35

Ah Mrs - maybe that would work. We have dtd before today so it's not impossible this cycle but I'm worried that by crying I've made a big thing out of it and totally amplified the problem.