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Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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Nicky883 · 01/11/2016 20:56

Hello jem i just started with the blood tests at nhs but i booked an hsg privetely cause i cant wait and i can afford that . The reason i went through nhs is that if i do need ivf or something similar unfortunately i cannot afford to go private so i wanted to get starter as i know it can take a long time
She told me that if is unexplained then i would be eligible for one round of ivf

Starmist · 01/11/2016 20:30

Geeup good luck for your interview.

Skipper glad AF is over.

Jem it's frustrating that different areas do different things. Not sure why there's 3 months of blood tests, I assumed it was to get an average. Doctor said we won't be referred to fertility clinic for any further tests or treatment until been TTC for 2 years. Still it'll be nice to get some results & know what the situation is.

HepKestrel · 01/11/2016 20:13

i'm fine Grin

just ignore,

LondonJem · 01/11/2016 19:59

Yes hep are you alright?

LondonJem · 01/11/2016 19:59

Lol kwick you sound just like my friend kate she would say the exact same thing. To be fair my feet have been cold all day. I have cracked out my cosy slippers, boosted the heating and had soup for dinner. I am warming up!

kwick · 01/11/2016 19:34

mouse the thing is the normal dose for folic acid is 4mcg daily - if your BMI is over 35 then it is 5mg or 5000mcg so you either takes hundreds of pills or get your GP to prescribe (or like me you buy Solgar Folate that come in 1000mcg tablets).
I take most of the supplements because:

  • I am no spring chicken
  • I have enough fat on me to baste a whole load of potatoes
  • I have PCOS
Don't stress it - but do get educated - again I would recommend "It starts with the egg"

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD jem!!! It is the middle of winter and you have your feet uncovered???? I broke out my Uggs ages ago!!!
Also what harm is there continuing with LSFX until well into TWW? Believe me if magic potion was not so expensive I would be doing multiple IUIs each cycle!!!

fxskip stranger things have happened at sea Grin I really hope my magic does the trick for us all!!!

Great progress star - well done!

That will defo work eleanor!

hep what did you have withdrawn???? Confused

alexia Flowers take it easy

Best if luck geeup with interview!

LondonJem · 01/11/2016 19:25

Starmist that's interesting they ordered three months worth of day 21 bloods. Only one for me, and no swabs. She referred for scan too but no letter yet Hmm

Glad they were supportive and put things in place for you. Nicky where are you at with tests now, is your scan booked?

sk1pper · 01/11/2016 18:12

Mouse - I would definitely get a prenatal vitamin and leave it at that. I am regretting buying all these various vitaminss and supplemlements, and I'm especially regretting going overboard on it a few cycles ago and getting that terrible bout of acne that I still have the scars from. But I am a complete idiot so if you think you can do it sensibly then there should be no harm, just check and double check your RDAs!

Star - so so glad your appointment went okay. I remember how much of a relief it was when I got what I needed, you'll be joining a few of us in the early tests stage so that's nice. :)

No news from me, other than AF is over - yay! And I get to use my fancy ovulation stick tomorrow, now I have to deal with lows, highs and super fertiles...hmm, really should read the instructions for it.

WingingIt83 · 01/11/2016 17:32

My charts are pretty perfect frustratingly and it had occurred to me that we stop dtd too early but tried to carry on longer but DH's back put paid to that this month.

Cd25 and no sign of anything being different this time around :-(

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geeup · 01/11/2016 17:02

Sorry starmist I haven't as far as I know but no judgement at all - it's just pure bad luck. Think my DH had it years ago at uni for a few months. His morphology is a bit dodge but tubes are clear as far as we know. Glad you caught it after a year. Hopefully no lasting damage.
AFM alexia I took my first of the 5 clomid pills last night. Didn't sleep very well actually but think that's just as I'm very stressed with work (job interview tomorrow). Desperately hoping it does something this month. Got my scan next Wednesday CD12. Did you say you're not having one? If you can afford it, I'd recommend going to Ultrasound Direct just to check what it's doing to your lining and how many follys you've got but if you feel pretty calm about it, don't worry and save the money!

Starmist · 01/11/2016 16:40

Has anyone had chlamydia? Blush I had it years ago, reckon I had it for a year before I got tested & treated. Really worried it could have damaged my tubes, have read lots about how it can cause infertility Sad

HepKestrel · 01/11/2016 14:54

not my real name.

(ok, my film tastes obviously different to yours Grin)

AlexiaB · 01/11/2016 14:46

Oops I hadn't refreshed Hep. Funny how I just knew it was youGrin Is that your real name?

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AlexiaB · 01/11/2016 14:44

Music yes it's hard but rewarding, and we'll scale back hours/add more employees once if we have a family. It is nice to have flexibility and be your own boss though. For example, I took today off. Last night I had my first major meltdown in months. Cue inconsolable crying and waking DH multiple times. I was super emotional, the Halloween babies had set me off (I've now finally deactivated Facebook). I think it was possibly a Clomid side effect too? I also slept very deeply and felt like I couldn't wake up even at 11am. (Gee did you experience anything like that?) I could think of worse side effects though so I won't complain. I have to take it again tonight and tomorrow (5 days in total). How's your tww going?

Starmist pleased your appointment went well. All sounds very positive! Smile

FXSkip thanks for sharing! I definitely agree with dtd regularly throughout your whole cycle.

Jem the rise tends to be 1-2 days after a positive OPK. You have it well covered but dtd a few more times in the tww wouldn't hurt. I read once that it might even help with pushing the egg along? Could be bulls**t though.

EleanorRipley - is that you Hep?

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HepKestrel · 01/11/2016 14:29

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EleanorRipley · 01/11/2016 14:06

think i have a plan to make AF arrive ....... book my smear test. that should work

MouseLove · 01/11/2016 12:19

I know. Totally weird harriet but yes it's over active!!! I have lost 2 stone this year but I started at the gym. Now wondering if my thyroid helped the weight come off. It would defo make more sense for me to be under active but I've always been bigger set as I'm quite tall. I have a size 9 shoe so never going to be skinny. Lol

Starmist · 01/11/2016 11:16

Thanks for the advice Skipper, I lied & said we'd been TTC since came off pill last September, in reality it was January we started although we didn't know what we were doing timing-wise for the first couple of months.

Thanks everyone for your well wishes. Appointment was a success, took DH with me & he's been given instructions for SA. I've been told I need 3 months of day 21 bloods, & I need to go for triple swabs - not sure what they test for, there was so much info I forgot to ask. I've also been referred for an internal scan. At least things are moving forward.

harrietm87 · 01/11/2016 10:06

mouse are you deffo hyperthyroid (rather than hypothyroid)? My own (admittedly terrible) GP gets them muddled all the time.

Only because hyperthyroid makes you lose weight rapidly whereas hypothyroid makes you gain. It would be unusual to have hyperthyroid and be overweight (I think you said your bmi is 33 but sorry if I'm confused). Hyperthyroid can affect fertility but usually only because it causes weight loss, so if you're not underweight then that won't be a problem.

It's good that you're making progress though. Hope everyone else is doing well.

AF due today for me but no sign of it! We weren't trying last month so guess I'm just late. Great.

MrsG280516 · 01/11/2016 09:47

Don't know how much you paid for the Pregnacare Mouse but I got the womens & mens double pack from Amazon, 30 days for about £12 which is the cheapest I saw for both. Centrum also do a pre-pregnancy all in one tablet which is around £6.50 for 30 as well.

I've got Superdrug's own vit D and folic acid (which were about £2.50 for 60) to take after the Pregnacare but can't seem to find an all in one vitamin without vit A to take with them.

FXSkip · 01/11/2016 09:40

Hi guys, musicgrrl and Alexia the cycle I conceived was the first cycle I stopped charting, so no, and the cycle before that was 37 days if I remember rightly (from a normal 28-30) and the AF was particularly heavy. I had read then that it can be the sign of a cp, which never shows on a test BUT makes you more likely to conceive the next cycle. I'd dismissed it at the time as OH and I were due to be on opposite sides of the world during my FW (I was in the states with work, he joined me on CD 24 hence why Ovia thought we'd missed the boat) as it happened, perhaps the travelling stress had delayed OV, but I tested when I was 20 days late and there it was - my fake pregnancy! cheers body Hmm

So, long story short my advice, for what its worth, it DTD until the red witch sings (or whatever the saying is) because a) its fun and b) you just never know - even opks and temps aren't foolproof.

Hilariously, Ovia now thinks my cycles are 40 days long, with an average AF of 17 days and that I ov on CD 67 ConfusedConfusedConfusedConfused

Love the spell, Kwick fx it works for all of us (how spooky would that be?!!)

LondonJem · 01/11/2016 09:05

Good luck starmist let us know how it goes

HepKestrel · 01/11/2016 09:05

Mouse i alternate pregnacare with simple folic+vitd.

it keeps the cost down, and i also don't like "overloading" my self with vitamins.

am rubbish with fruit and veg, but have taken a banana and satsuma to work today.

LondonJem · 01/11/2016 09:04

Hello fxskip hurrah to end of AF! Sounds like your hard work is paying off. Hope ovulation is not far off

Lol at poster girl music Smile yeah I could win the prize for the most textbook TTC with no BFP! Fx for you, getting swimmers ready before O is the key so you've still got a good shot. We also did not have regular sex before TTC - not unusual for a month to go by without doing it. This year has been a sexual renaissance!

Glad you are getting some answers mouse I think under active thyroid affects fertility but I have no idea about over.

Temping people, how long after getting a positive OPK does your temp rise? We always DTD the day before, day of and day after positive OPK but don't always carry on. I wonder if I need to keep going longer. This time we did it +OPK day, the next day and the day after that so I would hope that would cover us?

Thank you so much for sharing that alexia I could have cried! On the bus so my usual crying spot ! Hmm

Binky eurgh sounds like a rotten week for you, hope it gets better! TTC really puts so much pressure on relationships - we have argued more this year than any other Sad I completely sympathise.

Thanks for the tips kwick my feet are always cold and I am wearing open toe shoes today ... perhaps it's time to get the boots out

Lol at Halloween baby skipper Grin
And oh my god yes alexia literally babies dressed as pumpkins everywhere. A colleague insisted on sending me pictures of her baby yesterday in Halloween outfits! I am surrounded Envy

MouseLove · 01/11/2016 08:26

Sk1pper I'm thinking the all-in-one prenatal vitamins might be the way to go instead of individual pots. The folic acid I got was from home bargains haha 99p for 180. If only pregnacare was as cheap Grin

10 fruit and veg is bloody fab. I probably manage 6 a day. But less at the weekends. I should up my intake really when I'm not in work. I'm terrible with water. Blush