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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

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AlexiaB · 20/10/2016 10:06

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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AlexiaB · 06/11/2016 12:59

Music it's not as dark today. I used smu. I never saw a "darker than control line" but I'm pretty sure I was surging. I had very bad O pain and I had a teeny tiny bit of spotting once when I wiped. We dtd Friday and Saturday morning but haven't been able to dtd since. Next opportunity will be this evening. My main goal though is to actually ovulate, anything more is a bonus. Chart dipped today so I'll see what happens tomorrow morning. I'm prepared though for this all to have been a false alarm and my body just screwing me over once again

Starmist I didn't see it but I might try and find it on catch up. Great PMAStar

Hi Moose glad all is going well.

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Starmist · 06/11/2016 12:38

Lovely to hear from you Moose

Did anyone see This Time Next Year? I cried at the one about the couple wanting a baby. They'd been through so much heartache & the man said they kept wondering "why us" & then he said they suddenly started thinking "why not us". I like that. Why the hell wont it happen. It will happen for us all. Let's try & keep positive through this tough process xx

Mooseville · 06/11/2016 12:15

Not really skipper

I had positive OPK on Sat/Sun and it was still high on Mon and we DTD Sun and Mon (tried Sat but DP couldn't finish) and that was it! No extra vitamins etc other than pregnacare.
Our main issue had been DP finishing under pressure though, so I think that was the only time we'd managed twice over the crucial period!
I honestly think the whole process was down to luck rather than anything i managed to do!

jellyella · 06/11/2016 10:45

Hi music, yes - get a test line ok and don't think it was an evap line but can't be sure. AF due tomorrow so hopefully will become clearer...

Has anyone here had a very-short chemical pregnancy before?

sk1pper · 06/11/2016 09:36

Moose - did you say you did anything differently on cycle 11?

Musicgrrl · 06/11/2016 09:20

Mrs I wouldn't necessarily read anything into a BFN at 12dpo. Chart still looking good. Just wait and see!

Thanks Alexia! Had a lovely evening in the end. Hope others did too! Any OPK progress?

Gee I feel like I'm stalking you - was searching for LP stuff on MN and found one of your old posts! Would be really interested to hear more about your journey. Is your LP always short? How long was it until NHS started your tests and have you found any useful info along the way? Sorry for all the questions!

jelly I'm afraid I can't offer much advice. Did the line come up within the test window for the faint line you got? When is AF due? I guess all you can do is keep testing (I'd only bother with FMU) and waiting. I'm sorry, it must be agony Confused

Mooseville · 06/11/2016 08:48

I've got everything crossed for you jem (and everyone else!)

Luckily I've been pretty symptom free, bit queasy at times, sore boobs and just tired ALL the time. But on the whole, ok! (Which brings another whole lot of worrying as how can you be sure you're pregnant with no symptoms!!!) lol

Enjoy DTD while you can! DP is so panicked about hurting me or the baby, that there's none of that anymore either!!! Confused

jellyella · 06/11/2016 08:46

Hi everyone, I've been off the thread for a few weeks to try and focus on 'other' life stuff.

But, I'm just coming to the end of my TWW and can't work out what's going on... This cycle I had an HSG test on cd7, had positive OPK within a few days of the HSG, and DTD twice that day and the next day. I got a very faint BFP on a FRER test on Friday (cd21) with morning wee, but BFNs yesterday and today (again with a FRER and first thing).

I'm thinking it was either a false positive on Fri (my DH and I both saw it, but I didn't take a photo that properly showed it), or could it be a chemical pregnancy?? I had some cramps on my left side on Fri and Sat - not really painful, just pulling a bit. Flowers for any thoughts...

LondonJem · 05/11/2016 22:42

Hello mooooose you are my cycle 11 inspiration! Smile glad it's all going well. Do you have lots of exciting symptoms?

Mooseville · 05/11/2016 22:33

Hi jem (waves)

Course I'm still here - not leaving until every last one of us has a BFP!

I'm just conscious of posting too much on here as I don't want to upset anyone by being smug and pregnant! Following you all though and keeping up to date, and wishing for good news on the thread!

10 weeks on Monday, hardest thing is managing to not tell anyone! It's a hard secret to keep! There's also constant knicker checking and the disbelief that anything is actually happening!

Now get shagging girls! LSFX!

LondonJem · 05/11/2016 21:46

Alexia I think that could go one darker, but get thee on it!

Hurrah for day one mouse

Fx for follicle growth for Tuesday kwick enjoy your milk Brew

Music amen to that I'm soooooo grateful for this place

Am at mum and dads tonight for a big family gathering, bonfire BBQ fireworks etc. Mum hugged me earlier and asked me if I'm okay and tears came straight to my eyes. Couldn't help it. I think she knows what's going on. I'm tied between wanting to talk to her and wanting to avoid it..

sk1pper · 05/11/2016 20:27

Binky - it's great you and DH are still enjoying DTD, even outside of fertile week. It can feel wasted for some, but DTD is a natural de-stresser so its always a positive thing. And you always hear these stories of couples who conceive and thought they'd missed the fertile window so you never know!

Mouse - congratulating someone on AF arriving is a rare occurance, but congratulations! I hope this is a positive sign that your body has finally worked out what its meant to be doing. I hope your next cycle is regular and worry free.

Alexia - the Stork isn't reusable?! WTF, well I wont be getting that then. I've got the clearblue opk that does a flashing smily face if you are high fertile and a solid smily face if you are peaking. I'd never buy this bit of kit usually, its very expensive - though who knows, maybe I'm ovulating much earlier than previously thought. Your opk is very nearly positive, if you tried one now I recon it would be as dark as the test line.

MrsG - you've got a good chart, ours are very similar in pattern except my pre ovulation temps are like the Rocky Mountains.

MouseLove · 05/11/2016 19:34

Oh and Alexia seems I am crap at sleeping. Set my alarm for 5am. Woke at 2am and 4am. EnvyHmm I feel ok though as I think I just about got the 3 hrs in at 2am. Not that the higher temp was useful for predicting AF showed up. I'm still bleeding, it's very light but it's there. I'm actually excited to go to the loo!! Weird feeling. I've been so happy today. I hope this helps with my bloating too. A month's worth is never a good look!!

Starmist · 05/11/2016 18:08

Geeup check their policy but at the very least you'll be able to get all the statutory maternity pay. You can claim it direct from the government for the remaining amount after ends ftc ends, payroll should be able to give you a form & help you with that. At our place we pay in a lump sum any remaining maternity pay at the end of the ftc

AlexiaB · 05/11/2016 17:42

Music I feel the same, it's so nice isn't it :) So glad I found this thread and FF when I did! Hope you have a nice Bonfire night at your mums x

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MrsG280516 · 05/11/2016 17:41

I'm glad I've been charting, I'm so analytical and logical, I love seeing the data there in front of me instead of guessing. Although I'll have to try not to get my hopes up again in future when my temp stays high. It's still looking promising but I don't think I've had a false negative, the FRER was snowy white.

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Musicgrrl · 05/11/2016 17:29

alexia I don't know what I'd be doing if I didn't have mumsnet! I would have no-one to talk to about this as we haven't told anyone that we are ttc and I think I would be feeling very isolated and sad. As it is I feel so relieved that I have such a lovely support network here Smile

Musicgrrl · 05/11/2016 17:27

gee what happened about your luteal phase in the end? Know you're taking Clomid but is that for ovulating?

AlexiaB · 05/11/2016 17:27

Music thank you :) The mc was unlucky cycle 13. I'm on cycle 18 atm but we haven't hit the FW all 18 cycles, I've had at least 2 anovulatory cycles and had a CP cycle 4 which lasted a day. I wish I'd been charting, doing opks and on FF/Mumsnet from the very beginning. Those of you who are doing all this from the start should be proudStar

MrsG that's what I thought. I'll be testing again 6-7pm and 10-11pm.

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Musicgrrl · 05/11/2016 16:50

Alexia Smile that's fantastic! How many cycles was it before you got your BFP the first time? Also your MIL sounds amazing!

kwik annoyingly the GP took my implant out in April so they know how long I've been trying otherwise I would absolutely exaggerate!

MrsG280516 · 05/11/2016 16:27

It's very nearly there I think Alexia, maybe tonight or tomorrow?

FluttershyStare · 05/11/2016 16:07

Yay for AF mouse!

Fx for everyone waiting to test

I'm a raging ball of hormonal frustration today, going from fury to weepy.. I'd forgotten how annoying this was haha, the implant had kept me fairly steady on that front.

I'm hoping it's not a regular feature once my cycles settle down

AlexiaB · 05/11/2016 16:07

Would you call this positive? Can't believe it's only cd11. Feels too good to be true!

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AlexiaB · 05/11/2016 16:04

skipper I saw the Stork thing a while ago. It's definitely good in the sense that it bypasses the vagina (where most of the sperm die) and places the sperm right at the cervix. They should make it reusable for the price of it though! I will try it if I'm not pregnant again in 3-4 months.

I've used the dual clearblue opks and found them awful. Fmu doesn't work well for some people and they give endless days of highs for no reason. My advice would be to look at the blue lines and if the test line looks fairly dark, test again later that day. I wasted £60 on two boxes and would not recommend them at all. Hopefully they work better for you, and it's a bonus they're free. Cheapies are much better imo.

Music I'm so sorry FlowersChocolate I think it's worth getting your LP investigated. Progesterone is a good shout and also fertility drugs such as Clomid can lengthen your LP too.

You're not out until AF tenner but it's sadly looking ominous.

MrsG sorry about the BFN.

Well done on the job Gee. I say go for it :)

Sorry about your follies kwick. Start chugging the milk againGrin I could never do it Can't you take a drug to help them grow?

Mouse wahoooo!!! GrinGrinGrin So pleased for you!

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Musicgrrl · 05/11/2016 15:52

Thanks everyone. I'm pretty gutted but having to pull myself together today as I'm at my mums and doing stuff for bonfire night. DH thinks we should get another cycle of temps to show GP because the last one was so long we don't know whether my problem is a short LP or irregular LP. I do hate the idea of doing nothing though and am finding it increasingly hard to be surrounded by my pregnant friends!

Yay for AF mouse! You can crack on properly now Smile