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Thread 19 TTC#1 Just. Keep. Swimming.

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AliceScarlett · 27/09/2016 10:42

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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HepKestrel · 03/10/2016 10:49

so off on my first post-mc work trip today. the plus is that on thursday, i catch up with an old friend, and the only other person to know about ttc and the mc. Think it will be good for a rl chat.

in other news.... 11 days to go ! (before ttc can officially restart)..... not that i'm counting Wink

Packing for the trip has made me realise how many secret stashes of pads and tampons (and spare knickers !) i have in various handbags !!! Have been semi paranoid of being caught out since my first missed AF in June.

right.... must exit MN...... taxi comes in 10 minutes.

HepKestrel · 03/10/2016 10:37

hi moose !

Are you 8/9 weeks ish now?

wishing you all the best.

silver, skipper : spreadsheet is updated!

geeup any news ??? LSFX for you

Mooseville · 03/10/2016 10:33

Hi all!!

Still lurking here - keeping LSFX for the thread! Nice to see so many new faces, seems to have been a flurry of them! Let's hope they bring strong swimmers and welcoming uteruses!

Still feeling like a fraud here, still no symptoms except the boobs are killing me! But we all know we don't trust them!

sk1pper · 03/10/2016 10:10

You're doing a fabulous job hep - can you shift me to the 28th October now?

I'm not going to take any raspberry leaf tea in my luteal phase this cycle. Big big error :D

Si1ver · 03/10/2016 10:06

Also, thanks for all the nice thoughts guys. You're all so kind.

Si1ver · 03/10/2016 10:06

I think you need to shift me to the 4th Hep after my period tracker had a weird moment.

HepKestrel · 03/10/2016 09:59

Hi all,
so much to catch up o, i think my list is out of date ! please send me corrections/updates/

p.s. user welcome, and really sorry about the mc! we need to get you a better username though Wink

Musicgrrl 30.9.16
sl1ver 2.10.16
geeup 2.10.16
sk1pper 2.10.16
SnarkyGorgo 5.10.16
wingit 7.10.16
kav 9.10.16
inspector 9.10.16
Mummyh2016 9.10.16
mabel 9.10.16
fxskip 10.10.16
bluebird 11.10.16
MrsLoz 11.10.16
stamist 12.10.16
LoveYou 12.10.16
LondonJem 13.10.16
daisy 14.10.16
jellyella 14.10.16
tinkerbell 14.10.16
peaches 17.10.16
Alice 19.10.16
binky 20.10.16
Nicky 22.10.16
Alexia ?
kwick ?
pug ?
Hep ?
wapsmahoney ?
mouse ?
purple ?
notyetthere ?
EJ ?
hazan ?
harriet ?
user ?

Fishy grad 09/09/2016
ArtOfKnit grad 13/09/2016
moose grad 24/09/16

Musicgrrl · 03/10/2016 09:57

Jem FX your DH has a useful appointment today

Musicgrrl · 03/10/2016 09:56

Hi user! Sorry to hear about your MC Flowers

silver grrr re bfn but you're definitely not out yet. I have done enough desperate googling to know that some people don't get bfps until a few days after their expected period. I don't understand how that accords with the pregnancy tests that claim over 99% accuracy when used on the day of expected period though...

SnarkyGorgon · 03/10/2016 09:12

Argh, also, starmist your MIL behaviour sounds awful, what on earth is wrong with some people?!

SnarkyGorgon · 03/10/2016 09:11

Balls. Sorry s1lver WineFlowers

mouse my mum took nearly 5 years and multiple mcs, so she really understands how difficult this is. She was in her early 20s and so has spent all my life trying to drum into me that it doesn't just happen and that you can't wait too long to start trying. She's desperate to be a grandmother, so I've let her know we're trying just to stop the not so subtle hints that we need to get on with it! She stopped the comments straight after. A few of our friends know, mainly in response to some insensitive remarks, nothing shuts the conversation down as quickly as 'we're working on it, but it's not happening and we're really sad about it'. I don't think it's something that should necessarily be kept a secret, as others have said, unless you've been through this, you don't understand, but I think that has a lot to do with the lack of conversation about it.

kwick · 03/10/2016 08:53

starmist so rude! I would have slapped her one!!!

mouse sorry about your shit Sunday Flowers let me give you some kwick Cake

Welcome user!! Sorry about MC - it does get easier Flowers

Sorry si1ver Flowers

LondonJem · 03/10/2016 08:44

Welcome user sorry to hear about your MC Flowers there are a few of us at a similar length of time trying, I hope having some support helps. I'm on month 10 too - it sucks.

Sorry it was bfn silver but you're not out until AF shows.
Fx mouse!

4 DPO over here. DH has his follow up GP appointment today after they found low morphology on the private test. I'm half hoping they chortle at him and say it means nothing and of course we will conceive naturally, but half wanting them to do something to help us. A repeat SA at the least I would have thought?

MouseLove · 03/10/2016 08:26

Sorry si1ver!!! Sending CakeChocolateWine

Well my thermometer should arrive today so that might help me figure out my cycles a bit better. Still no AF despite all the symptoms. Have a great week everyone.

MouseLove · 03/10/2016 08:25

Sorry si1ver!!! Sending CakeChocolateWine

Well my thermometer should arrive today so that might help me figure out my cycles a bit better. Still no AF despite all the symptoms. Have a great week everyone.

sk1pper · 03/10/2016 07:07

Welcome user! I'm sure you will find it super supportive here, let us know how you get on with your tests.

Sorry to hear about your BFN S1lver xx

HepKestrel · 03/10/2016 07:02

Sorry si1ver

Si1ver · 03/10/2016 06:59

Ha. My zen did not last. I tested this morning and bfn. Sigh. Bring on next month.

HepKestrel · 03/10/2016 06:33

Welcome user!
Went to see my favourite comedian last night. So funny! In case any of you have caught his show, it ended on a high note Wink

Starmist · 03/10/2016 05:45

Welcome user. So sorry about your MC. We have been trying the same amount of time & are almost the same age. Hopefully tests will give you some reassurance. Hang in there xx

Si1ver · 02/10/2016 20:34

Sorry to hear about your MC user stay strong, you'll get there and I hope the tests help you.

user1475434669 · 02/10/2016 20:14

Long-time reader, first-time poster. Me and DH are 34. TTC #1 since January. Fell right away but miscarried in March. Started OPKs in July and definitely show an LH surge. Started SMEP then too but still haven't fallen. Had baseline bloods in August that showed everything normal for me. Now awaiting semen analysis and fertility referral. Baseline bloods were normal in August. Felt I was managing okay until the last couple of months when the stress and fear of infertility started to creep in...so much that I want to give up TTC at this point, as I don't feel it will work. Saw an adorable baby on the bus today that stared at me and I nearly burst into tears! Not sure how much longer I can keep at this...

sk1pper · 02/10/2016 19:47

starmist - your MIL sounds like a right bitch, I hate that people can hide insults behind jokey tones and think it's ok

mouse - sorry you've had a rubbish day xx

hep - ahh I thought you might end up walking through the kiddy section. I haven't been to ikea for a couple of years now but I did think about that part when you mentioned it yesterday

mabel - thanks, yeah GP is the Thurday after next. I'm going to speak to my mum before then, I think I'm just going to tell her I've been trying...it's the only way to get the info I need from her. It will be interesting to know if she needed at op to have me.

MabelTheCow · 02/10/2016 19:06

Just catching up as have been trying to distract myself during the hideous 2WW. Really not sure how anyone has the patience to not POAS.

Hep I love a good IKEA trip, hope you got to find some of their yummy meatballs in the restaurant. That has to be the best reason for going, surely.

Skipper I agree, get to the GP and get mentioning. I know a couple of people with endometriosis who've had procedures before they can conceive.

Mouse Sounds like a tricky situation with both your mum and MIL. As others have said, those who don't know the struggle, don't know not to mention. Might be worth getting OH to have a tactful word or dropping her a message to say "we know you mean well, but ..."

Both our mums were told we were planning to start trying this year. My mum (who had me unplanned) thinks it's the easiest thing in the world and clearly since she did so quickly so will I. (Her lack of understanding in this area, worries me.) MIL spent 10 years to conceive OH. She hasn't mentioned it, looked sideways at me or anything. It's been much appreciated.

I told one friend we were trying. She was great and very reassuring. It took her 6 mo to conceive #1 and #2, a year to conceive but then had a mmc and finally 4 mo to conceive her current little bean. We talked a lot about it being almost a pregnancy lottery. If you only had a one in five chance to pick the winning raffle ticket, nobody would expect you to get one so quickly.

We've got several girl's names we like but my favourite boy's name has been vetoed Shock but still I keep up the campaign Wink

MouseLove · 02/10/2016 18:41

No, not tested anything music. I think it's probably a little too early for that. 17 days off my pill. I haven't had a withdrawal bleed or anything yet. I've taken some paracetamol in the hopes it might make me feel a little more human. I'm sure I'll be ok once I've eaten maybe. Thank you!! X