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TTC no 2 for older mums

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patkica · 01/02/2007 15:58

Hi, I am 39 and am ttc no 2. I had ds when I was 36 and got pregnant almost at once. I have heard so many statistics and scare stories that I am starting to think it will never happen again for me. We've only tried for one month and I think I may have had an early m/c so am feeling a bit sad. But I would love to hear from others who are in a similar situation or have been or have advice.

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Pobblestoes · 02/02/2007 12:36

Hi again patkica, yes, would love to keep in touch about ttc and please let me know how you are getting on too. I spent the last five months of my pregnancy flat on my back as well and don't know why I want to go through it again ... but I do! Still, you are right, we are blessed to have had no.1 and I guess we've just got to stick with it. It's very demoralising though each mth when nothing happens - it's like your life is temporarily on hold - like being in limbo. One positive story to end on: my 42 yr old friend found out she was pregnant last week and she'd been trying for 7 months.

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patkica · 02/02/2007 10:27

Thanks totsy and pobblestoes, that does help. I know how commom m/c is, but it's still a bit sad, isn't it. But you're both right, I am trying to keep positive and am reminding myself how lucky we are to have our gorgeous boy. Another one would be a bonus, but I do know what you mean Pobbs about wanting another one in an irrational way. I was as sick as a dog with no. 1, in bed or hospital for 4 months and swore I would never do it again, but now feel I really, really want to. It's mad. Let me know how you go with ttc and PLEASE older mums with advice or good news, do let me know. There's so much contradictory information out there that I don't know what to think.

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Pobblestoes · 01/02/2007 17:56

Hi patkica, sorry to hear that you are feeling sad. I've had a similar experience recently and I know it pulls at the heartstrings. Also, more poignant when you are an older mum trying to get pregnant. I'm trying for number two and I know each month is a bit of an emotional roller coaster. I'm 42 and trying for number two, so I have a bit of an idea of what you are going through! I'm stressed at the thought of a second child and whether I'll be able to cope as I'm already feeling quite confined by motherhood but I love it too and can't explain this rather irrational need for a second! It's there though and we're going to keep trying for this year and then reassess. Good luck to you. Try not to listen to the scare stories - there are plenty of success stories out there too!

totsy · 01/02/2007 16:48

Just read what I wrote and it looks like I'm telling you off which I'm not!!!! Lots of good luck to and more likely than not it will all be fine xxxxx

totsy · 01/02/2007 16:46

Don't feel sad. early miscarriages are so common. An enormous number of 'pregnancies' are really just 'blighted ovums' where you get placenta and yolk sac but no baby and so miscarry even up to 3 months. Its really not something to make you feel worried or anything. If you're feeling fit and healthy and positive there's no reason at all to think it negatively at all! My aunty tried for YEARS to get pregnant and gave up and adopted 2 boys and then around 40 odd she got pregnant and had 2 girls!!!!
Whenever you hear your brain being negative don't allow yourself to get involved with it.