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Thread 18 TTC#1 We have cats, courgettes AND cake

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AliceScarlett · 31/08/2016 09:43

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

Thread 18 TTC#1 We have cats, courgettes AND cake
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AliceScarlett · 02/09/2016 12:42

Hope it goes OK tomorrow Marmite Sure you'll be fine Star

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AliceScarlett · 02/09/2016 12:41

Good luck Kwick

Nicky when I eventually get pregnant I'm going to tell everyone how long it took!

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nicky883 · 02/09/2016 12:32

Another friend announce pregnancy :p she said they were not really trying just stop using condoms :p dont know weather to believe people when they say that anymore cause i would propably say the same !

nicky883 · 02/09/2016 12:28

I am so sorry hep Flowers
Jem i undestand how you feel i think they dont undestand how much more difficult it is for us !

marmitecheesetoast · 02/09/2016 12:22

Hep so sorry to hear this Flowers does this mean they could still find a heartbeat next scan? Sorry I feel like I should know this. Thinking of you and sending you lots of love.

Jem it sounds like you've done quite a bit of dtd in run up to OV. Everything crossed for you. Hope things are better between you and DH soon.

Hope you can have a nice relaxing weekend Kav of course things are going to get to you now and then when so much going on, you shouldn't feel bad about it!

Thinking of you today too Kwick good luck!

I have my scan tomorrow and feeling really quite anxious about it... it's not til the end of the day and we're spending the afternoon with DH's family. Not sure how I'm going to concentrate at all!

LovelyFishy · 02/09/2016 12:06

Welcome MrsLoz!

Jem take care of yourself, sending lots of hugs your way, hope things start working out for you soon.

Hep so sorry about the inconclusive scan. Take all the time you need and we're all thinking of you and wishing you the best. Flowers

Kav you're not stupid, you're a perfectly normal human with everything you're going through! I doubt I'd hold my cool in that situation!

Kwick thinking of you today, hope all goes well with eggy!

AliceScarlett · 02/09/2016 11:36

Oh Hep I'm so sorry to hear that. Does inconclusive mean they couldn't find a heartbeat and it may be fine? What's fetal stalk growth?

We are here if you need us Flowers

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kavanaughkj · 02/09/2016 10:59

Oh Hep - I'm so sorry. Flowers for you - take all the time you need. :(

Flowers for you, too Jem - it must be maddening. I had a shout at DH this morning over something tiny and stupid - I am tired and stressing over TTC and about his efforts to find a job. We need some good news and I'm embarrassed I let things get to me.

HepKestrel · 02/09/2016 10:40

Not the best news from the scan. No heartbeat. Transvaginal scan was inconclusive. Back next week to find either fetal stalk growth or unviable pregnancy.

I may disappear from mn again.

LondonJem · 02/09/2016 09:39

Alice we DTD every night until yesterday. Ovulation I think was yesterday but could be today. Maybe that will be enough but my plan was to keep going through this week to make sure we are covered.

He's fine, he really wants this, he is on board. He was just a dick last night. He can't bear to not "keep up" with the lads. I couldn't imagine him saying I'm calling it a night or I'll just have a water this round.

MrsLoz · 02/09/2016 09:34

Hope you don't mind me jumping on the thread.

Art - I had exactly the same thing as you yesterday. I'm CD 19, first month after coming off the pill. I also had stomach ache like I would when AF is due but today everything has gone back to normal.

Don't really know what to think of it!

AliceScarlett · 02/09/2016 09:34

Jem Sad I'd be angry too. Have some time away if you need. Disappointment is a horrible feeling, but I don't know whether you can completely write off this cycle, did you have sex within 3 days of ov?

Is he stressed out? Is getting drunk an avoidance strategy?

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LondonJem · 02/09/2016 09:28

He knows marmite he knows it all. He's just been incredibly selfish.

What's another cycle hey Sad

marmitecheesetoast · 02/09/2016 09:27

So sorry Jem I can totally understand how frustrated you must be right now. I would be fuming too.

Could you find time once you feel a bit calmer to sit down and have a proper talk about it all and explain to him about everything you've said, maybe he's just being a bit of a typical man and not really realised/thought about how much you're doing and going through and how it's making you feel?

Hope you feel better soon FlowersCake and some Wine too x

LondonJem · 02/09/2016 09:13

The thing is its him pushing me away. I'm doing everything I can here, acupuncture, yoga, breathing exercises, watching my diet, swimming, I even bought books to try and help me relax. I take supplements, I upset my stomach horribly trying aloe vera, I'm taking a ceramics course to try and take my mind off things! Not to mention all the tracking and symptom spotting and opks and the crushing disappointment and tears when month after month my period comes.

all he has to do is have sex with me, for those few important days a month. And going out and getting drunk with his friends is more important than that.

Fuck. Him. I am so fucking angry right now.

LovelyFishy · 02/09/2016 08:48

Jem so sorry to hear about that, it's a really rough deal!! I know this is easier to say than do but try not to let ttc push you away from your DH. Saying that I'd be flipping mad too right now! Try having a talk with him later? And if you need space to unwind and destress this weekend without him or family take it, you defiantly deserve it! Flowers

Art post-pill cycles are even more fun a games! Fx it is something positive!

ArtOfKnit · 02/09/2016 08:31

I'm CD18 lovely - have had a little bit of cramping yesterday and today too so worried that the witch is going to rear her head early (especially as it's my first cycle post pill)

london you poor thing - no wonder you don't want to be anywhere near your husband right now Flowers

LondonJem · 02/09/2016 08:09

Ovulated yesterday, DH went out and got so drunk we couldn't have sex. The last thing I said to him was "don't get drunk" and text him saying the same. I feel like he couldn't give a shit about this and the toll it takes on me. When my period came last month I cried on the bus every morning for about 3 days.

I am so so angry and upset I don't know what to do. We are meant to be going to Newcastle for a weekend with his family tonight and I don't think I can go. I don't want to be anywhere near him right now.

LovelyFishy · 02/09/2016 08:04

Art I've never had that myself before but one thing I've learnt about ttc is that your body can throw new stuff at you all the time! Where abouts in your cycle are you, any chance of implantation bleeding?

ArtOfKnit · 02/09/2016 07:52

Flowersmiw

This is possibly tmi but would love to know if any of you have experienced this...masses of ewcm that clearly has blood in it! I had a LOT of this last night and this morning and I am a little freaked out by it.

HepKestrel · 02/09/2016 06:39

Flowers miw

And Chocolate and Cake and Wine

LondonJem · 01/09/2016 21:31

Oh inspector Blush oops I was getting excited then. Mind you jury is out until AF shows Grin

miwelaisjacydo · 01/09/2016 20:16

Feeling very low at the moment.
Congrats damson

AliceScarlett · 01/09/2016 19:19

Oh massive congratulations Damson you give me hope!

Gx for tomorrow Kwick, got any plans for the TWW?

I like seeing everyone stats again.

My cycle ten action plan is no CM checking or charting of any sort, dtd every other day or as much as DH can manage. I had ewcm for a day last cycle, DH couldn't finish and it made me angry when AF finally appeared. Too much information is stressful. No idea what cycle day I'm on.

I feel like Damson and her BFP could be the first of a good long run of BFPs.

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InspectorPenguin · 01/09/2016 18:41

Not spotting, Jem, spots! On my face! Grin

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