Thread 18 TTC#1 We have cats, courgettes AND cake

Hi all, just a quick check in as this week is moving week so lots and lots of packing do to. Love that you all are gamers - the most I've ever done is the Sims!

No appearance from AF yet, but BFN this morning on a FRER. Hopefully she'll make an appearance soon and i can book my October bus ticket!

Nice to see that geekiness is now becoming much more the norm, rather than the exception!

I love my computer games, but am currently mourning the loss of my pc, which decided to kick the bucket a few hours into Legion. :(

It's a good job I've been somewhat distracted since then!

kwick yes, i think that is my plan. Am enjoying Rooibus tea. no caffeine!

so apparently first AF after mc is "normally" four to seven weeks, but can be upto 10
www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm

hep I allow myself one real tea a day the rest is decaff and I have banned coke etc - once off it it is quite easy to stay away... Sugar is my downfall

I used to hate smears too but I have had so many speculums and scanners being shoved up my fanjo I am not so hateful anymore - the last one I had, after MC, before IVF was over so fast I barely had time to say "ouch".

LOL kavan what other kind is there?!

lovely I think that means you get a starky well done!! And one for you too skipper !!!

hep I allow myself one real tea a day the rest is decaff and I have banned coke etc - once off it it is quite easy to stay away... Sugar is my downfall

I used to hate smears too but I have had so many speculums and scanners being shoved up my fanjo I am not so hateful anymore - the last one I had, after MC, before IVF was over so fast I barely had time to say "ouch".

LOL kavan what other kind is there?!

lovely I think that means you get a starky well done!! And one for you too skipper !!!

Kav - world of Warcraft is literally the reason me and OH are still together. He went to uni in Bournemouth a year after we met and wow was a cheap way to stay in touch. We met in game, loaded up Skype and played most afternoons. Now we're living together we play steam games mainly: divinity, payday2 but we've got battlefield, Diablo and division on the go to. OH hasn't got a look in on the ps4, I've been busy playing bloodborne and dark souls 3. Dragon Age is awesome btw but I'd totally recommend mass effect of you haven't tried it.

I'm surprised at how many of us here play games. I dont like to mention it in case I'm the odd one out.

Also I need cake, I didn't even test on due day. So...double cake?

To those considering Clear Blue OPKs, I've used both the advanced fertility monitor and the dual hormone sticks. The former is supposed to be better for irregular cycles, unless you work shifts or travel a lot in which case the sticks are more flexible with timings.

I haven't actually noticed any difference between the output to be honest and both show the same results as Internet cheapies.

I have loads of 'high' days before I 'peak'. No idea what that means or if it's a bad sign.

I'm still tracking with these even though we've cooled off on the trying.

Omg Kav you have my dream job, I love video games! Currently playing Ark: Survival on PC. I used to play soooo much WOW but I had to stop as it wasn't compatible with life.

I've just thought, I didn't test until afternoon of AF day...does that mean I get Kwick cake?

Just saw your message kwick! I think is only qualified for if subject waits for the due date to test. Sadly I missed out by a day as I tested a day early and essentially peed on a tenner

I'm still having cake though! Just not the kwick variety.

Keep trying to be positive Jem! With any luck it'll be your turn this month - though I can understand wanting to try to keep hopes and expectations under control. It's so easy to let them run away with you and all the more crushing when it doesn't happen, so I'm trying as much as possible now to just let the TTC thing chug along in the background while I get on with living my life.

Geeks unite! hee. I think my kids will be in the same situation as yours, skip - DH and I actually met through World of Warcraft. We're both completely sunk in Legion at the moment - I was a player back in vanilla days, played up to Cataclysm and bailed for Pandaria. Picked it up again with Warlords of Draenor for a bit and Legion is doing its best to eradicate any life either of us had outside of gaming. We do have pretty much all the consoles between us but rarely play them - I'm an RPG fan myself. Want to finish the original Dragon Age and Oblivion (never really got into Skyrim) but never have the time!

... ok, that was a tiny touch of my crazy. Proper geek here. I hope that doesn't frighten anybody away! Back in uni days my friends used to try to launch me at boys by saying 'she's got a Playstation!' as girl gamers were so rare back then. These days I think it's a lot more common.

kavan remind me when am I supposed to give kwick ???

I am trying to earn a starky but the urge to POAS is fierce!!!!!

moose well done on getting magic potion!

hep how are you doing, o brave and strong one?
They are indeed cherry tomatoes - the same variety my grandparents grew with great success "Gardener's Delight". We are going to try some heritage tomatoes next year as well as GD. Have you tried putting a ripe tomato near your unripe ones?
The courgettes were grown from seed!!!!

I think my first AF after MC was 8 weeks and then next one 7. Not sure if I will get fertility boost - hard to tell given IVF status.

Sorry kavan

Sorry kav know exactly how you feel - if when AF comes this week I'll be onto cycle 10 too. I don't let myself read anything into symptoms - quite strict about this now! I keep a journal in pink pad, so I can refer back to notes over the last 9 months and see that I've felt all these things before and not got a bfp. That said I am sure we will both get there - I am aiming this month to try to be more philosophical and calmer this month when AF comes. I can't control this process but I can try to control my emotions better.

hep thinking of you lovely glad to hear you are relaxing and looking after yourself

skip hope you get some clues soon to where your cycle is. OPK might be an idea to see where your LH is at. Appreciate the POAS doom - I have sworn off pg tests now - but keeping an eye out for ovulation signs could mean you don't miss the next chance.

I'm a video game fiend too, though I have ps4 not Xbox. My DH is mad with video games too, he has a high spec PC. Our kids don't stand a chance they will be geeks or disown is entirely.

kav a fellow geek !
good luck for your new job!

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The list now looks like:

ArtOfKnit 13/09/2016
MrsLoz 13/09/2016
peaches 14/09/2016
Sucha/LondonJem 15/09/2016
kwick 18/09/2016
jellyella 19/09/2016
Alice 22/09/2016
moose 23/09/2016
binky 24/09/2016
Nicky 28/09/2016
sl1ver 01/10/2016
sk1pper 05/10/2016
kav 09/10/2016
inspector 09/10/2016
bluebird 11/10/2016

My next ticket is 9 October, Hep - thanks everyone for flowers and chocs, I am unashamedly stuffing chocolate cake today and I don't care!! Next try now ages away but at least I will have new job distracting me :)

Another gamer! I'm a gamer too Hep - actually my new job is with a video games developer which I'm very excited about. One of the perks is free games and I get to wear jeans into the office all the time :)

Shitty timing on the smear. I put off having my first one for the longest time. Can't say is blame you skipping this one now! Also I'm on decaf everything these days and really don't miss it.

fxskip useful advice there ! indeed !

Thanks hep. Sk1pper I don't really know. Some people return to normal immediately, other people it takes a while for the hormones to clear out completely, and given the range of reasons/timing/causes/outcomes the NHS tell you this usefull little snippet 'the subsequent periods following a miscarriage may be longer or shorter than normal, or particularly heavy or light. Your cycle length may be longer, or shorter and may return to the pre-miscarriage length or may not.' Any concerns may be raised with your GP if your periods do not return'
Once again, cheers NHS

si1ver I will be going back to my clearblue tester when this is over. hopefully you won't need to buy another, but search on amazon and you can keep the cost down. Look after yourself. And treat/pamper yourself. ttc is not easy.

kav whens you next bus ticket?

i'm thinking I am going to keep down my caffeine intake. I am not really missing it. And this way I can cut down further next time without the dreaded caffeine head ache.

Congratulations fishy I'm so pleased for you.

It sounds like you've been have a horrible time Hep I hope things are resolved and back to normal soon. This must be so awful for you.

Sorry to hear you're out kav onward for the next cycle.

Thanks to everyone who was so nice to me. I'm not coping terribly well with the whole ttc thing (no shit, really?). We've bought a clearblue digital ovulation tester for next month, as I can never tell from OPKS what's going on. I suppose I'll know one way or the other if I'm ovulating or not and then I can go and see the doctor.

Can you add me back to the list for 1st October? It seems like a very long way away.

Barry White? Omg, I now know where I've been going wrong all these cycles .

Smear tests.... This two words make me quite literally shudder. A little insensitive they sent you an invitation but I guess it's all automated and such, just one of those things.

moose yes, you should ovulate at somepoint in the next 48 hrs. So you have high fertility for the next 72 hrs. LSFX !!! get your best sexy on ! A little Barry White, some nice wine

fxskip fair enough ! If you don't trust them, there is no point. Hope it stops properly (or AF appears properly) for you.

sk1p haven't got to the xbox yet. but I but down tombraider about 6 months ago, so i should try to finish it !

Guess what delightful letter I received today !
.....Invitation for a cervical smear.

Well they can fuck right off ! (for now. )

I still remember the last one. She let go of the metal wotsit thing, so it twisted 90deg, and I had to catch it myself before it sprang open horizontally. That was especially fun.

no cramping at all now.

skipper I think so! The ladies on here are prob more clues up than me. I think it means within the next 12-48hours as its just the hormone surge before conception that it catches? I may be wrong!

hep glad to hear you're having as relaxing day as you can. Enjoy the Xbox!

kav sorry for AF -

Lovely - you give me such hope, congrats again, very happy for you!

Moose - glad you managed to get a well timed DTD session in. A positive OPK means you will ovulate in the next 24 hours right?

Fxskip - why does it take the body a while to normalise after MC? I'm sorry I'm conscious this is a very personal question but I guess it's something to do with hormones. I hope things start to make sense for you soon

Hep - thinking of you as always, what are you playing on Xbox?

Kav I'm sorry. My initial response to your post was 'ffs' so I can well imagine how you're feeling.

Hep damn straight have a lazy day. Have as many as you want right now. I have been spotting brown now for 3 weeks, no official AF. I am not POAS (thats any sticks) as I never quite got a bfn after mc and I can't face getting my hopes up.