Thread 18 TTC#1 We have cats, courgettes AND cake

Hi all, nice to see this thread so busy again!

I've been MIA as had a lovely week away on holiday with no internet connection which was very refreshing. Big congrats to the Grads that I missed, so pleased to see it happen!!

Sorry to those that have moved onto another cycle but it sounds like there's a healthy amount of PMA around.

Hep glad to hear you're out the other side of your ordeal and looking forward again; sounds like you have wonderful support in your DH :)

Si1ver I thought I would get tests from the GP too as I am over 35 and on cycle 7 now but he basically threw me out and told me to come back in the new year. He said that six months was nothing and there was no point testing anything now as they would only have to re-do them later if/when I was referred to a clinic. I felt like a total timewaster and quite embarrassed I'd even gone... :(
I hope you get a better response if you go but private tests might not be a bad idea if you want to ensure any problems are tackled as quickly as possible since the 'tests after six months' policy doesn't appear to be guaranteed for us oldies.

CD21 here and OPKs suggests ovulation in the next day or two. Feeling relaxed though as I bought a new bike this weekend and really want to enjoy that for a while and train for a triathlon, which would be screwed by getting a BFP

After having the shittiest couple of weeks in the history of being alive, it was topped off by having the worst day at work ever, which resulted in me having a full on breakdown in front of the whole office. Text DP this afternoon to say let's write this month off as couldn't see how the hell I was going to ovulate when I felt as stressed as I did. Came home, decided to POAS anyway to find the brightest test line ever. I know it's only a OPK but I feel so happy, the shit at work has been all forgotten about I know using OPKs aren't a definite either but I certainly feel like my glass is half full now.

Stupid laptop sorry for the double post.

music/wing I'm with you re. the neon pee haha! Although, now I've been taking it for some time it either isn't as noticeable or it's now normal pee? I definitely haven't been noticing it as much.

music that doesn't sound promising :/ I know from FF that women who are on Femara or Clomid usually have extended LPs and it has the added bonus of faster and better ovulation. I'd love to get my hands on some!

music/wing I'm with you re. the neon pee haha! Although, now I've been taking it for some time it either isn't as noticeable or it's now normal pee? I definitely haven't been noticing it as much.

music that doesn't sound promising :/ I know from FF that women who are on Femara or Clomid usually have extended LPs and it has the added bonus of faster and better ovulation. I'd love to get my hands on some!

music yes luminous pee is disconcerting! But doesn't seem to affect opks. I would say it didn't work for me in isolation, lots of other dietary things I think played a factor in my extra long cycle, this month will tell for sure hopefully.

Nicky really feel for you. We aren't at that place yet but I know my DH would probably resist booking in for his test.

si1ver that's good that you can go to docs after 6 months. Funny that your OH is so keen on private!

Jem I like your style. I might have to try that!

So much chat today - love it!

sk1pper that's so sweet of you to volunteer to research for me! I only wish I hadn't already spent a week of my life looking up what I can do to lengthen my LP... So far I have tried vitamin C (last cycle) and vitamin D (this cycle). I bought some B complex but found it too weird to take. It makes your wee turn bright green!! (sorry tmi). I felt like it might do weird things to my body. Although it sounds like it did good things for you wingingit!

alexia I would like to go to the dr and ask about it but I have read some MN threads where people have said the doctors are really dismissive of luteal phase problems and some don't even recognise it as being a thing! Do let me know if you decide to give it a try though! I will too if I break.

I hate myself for how hopeful I end up feeling in each tww (or 8 day wait...) even though I know I shouldn't. Know I'll come crashing down when my temp drops and I know AF is on her way. I'm trying to give myself a less ambitious aim of hoping I can get an extra day out of my LP!

I stopped temping for a few cycles then realised how reassuring it was seeing the post ov increase and not just relying on opk which doesn't necessarily mean obv (now waiting for someone to tell me temp increase can happen with no egg!)

So sorry Nicky I hope your DH can be persuaded to do his bit!

sk1pper no worries! I was the opposite, I actually waited a month to start temping after I bought my thermometer because I just felt overwhelmed and like I wouldn't be able to do it right. Now I feel much more confident, and you will soon too :) Here's my post-O temps and short LP from last cycle...

Thats what i should have done london ! Cant do that now since he said no

I booked mine for DH and let him know what time / date it was

Alexia/music - thank you for all your help, I feel a lot less negative about it all now. Pretty funny as I'm sure a week ago I was wondering how on earth women got stressed taking temps. Nothing like some personal experience to put it all in perspective.

Nicky - sorry you hit shark week :(

I dont know its really frustrating . I have done so many tests all he has to do is wank (!) excuse my french !
Its still early days skipper i hope u dont need the appoitment.

Pretty standard head in the sand behaviour. It's so frustrating isn't it?

We kind of have it the other way round. My husband keeps offering to pay for private fertility tests for us and I keep reminding him that it's only our 4th cycle and in two more the NHS will do them for us because of our age.

Sorry for double post ! I am
So pissed off at dh ! He promised he ll go for a sa test if nothing happened this month now he is saying lets "try" for another month and then i ll go ! I just want to scream at him

Sorry to hear that Nicky have a large glass of wine and a sulk when you get home.

I am out ladies started spotting ( at work how convinient ) ! I guess holiday dtd didnt do it for us !

sorry Nicky

music another with a short luteal here (9 days) very worried this month as ovulated even later than normal.

The first cycle I started on vitamin b-complex and walnuts and leafy greens I managed to lengthen it to about 15 days in a bizarre 36 day cycle (27-28 the norm). Panicked I'd messed up my body too much so stopped it all, short luteal instantly returned. I restarted b vits and walnuts but didn't ever get same improvement so I've decided I need the other dietary components this month too (cholesterol, kale, pinapple etc), I've also been taking agnus castus this month too.

I am out ladies started spotting ( at work how convinient ) ! I guess holiday dtd didnt do it for us !

Knew I'd missed some - Wing if you just ovulated yesterday it's probably just some left over, seems normal to me. Seems like you had a rough night with temp-panic but got a decent result in the end. I woke 20 mins early today but my temp seemed normal.

music hope your LP is longer this month. Are you taking b-complex? There are other things you can be prescribed to lengthen it such as Femara and Clomid. If mine doesn't increase soon I might ask the Dr about those. Sk1pper happy to hear anything you find out.

sk1pper- music is right, your chart still looks great! The ovulation temp shift is clear and you're still well above the coverline. It could be an implant dip or just one of those things. Remember you don't need a 'pretty' chart to be pregnant and a triphasic chart doesn't always equal pregnancy either. You didn't screw up the two temps before O, it's just one of those things. Like I said yesterday if they annoy you, you can discard/delete them but keep a note of the temps in the notes section. You're doing well and we're here to help and put your mind at ease :)

Jem you' should be okay, try not to worry. Someone on FF recently got pregnant with O-5 (one shot). Obviously rare but it's good to see it still is possible!

Moose how lovely to see 'pregnant' and that your DH is excited!

Peaches glad you're over the bug but shame it ruined your dtd plans. Don't beat yourself up fx you caught the egg.

Alice sounds like a great distraction! OPKs at work - what's your main concern? Do you get a lunch break where you could spend 5 mins in the bathroom and then sneak it back to your desk in a plastic food bag? A small piss-pot is essential, so weird but I use the lid of my old Batiste dry shampoo can It's small but not too small, easy to rinse clean and can be put in the dishwasher. Easy to store in your handbag in a food bag. Someone else might have some better tips...

Hep bet you both can't wait Hope the 18 days fly by for you!

Nicky hang in there, LSFX!

Si1ver sorry you're in a foul mood, hugs and

Welcome Mabel :)

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Still no ovulation here

music - there are scare stories for everything though, I wouldn't worry. Sometimes certain diets and supplements can get you back on track, are you doing anything like this? Happy to do some research for you, literally I love learning about all this stuff.

nicky - your Ovia is so neutral! I'm sure mines given up on me, it's like "you've reported x, y and z buts it's too early/late so AF is on its way lol see you next month"

moose please feel free to stay, you are more than welcome here.

si1ver hang on in there and treat yourself. plan a nice day/afternoon out to take your mind off the waiting perhaps?