Thread 18 TTC#1 We have cats, courgettes AND cake

Totally sympathise daisy I've been trying to work on letting go of resentment towards DH for making me wait as we are where we are now and feeling resentful doesn't help anyone. He waited 8 years to propose and then we waited a year after getting married to start trying - all on his terms. I'm 32 so I don't feel like we've left it too late, but I would quite happily have started trying 4-5 years ago. He assumed it would happen right away, despite me saying repeatedly that it might not.

I'm already thinking he doesn't get to decide how long we wait to try for number two!

Londonjem probably a bit of a tmi but do they just point them in a room with a cup and some magazines ? ;p

kwick - good luck at the fc. i hope you find a balance that works for you re work.

It was DH's choice to delay TTC by 6 months and i'm terrible at bringing that up every time i get a BFN so think it's best i avoid that tv programme for the sake of my marriage!

Hmm they said SA results emailed same day but we have had no email looks like going to have to wait until tomorrow

Don't think I'll watch it tonight as it will just make me resentful and mean to DH, and he's having to await test results. Will record it for another evening!

Fx for you alice! Hang in there.

BBC1 I think, I saw it advertised in the metro earlier. I'm worried it's going to send me into a blind panic but will probably watch all the same.

Thank you for all your comments btw, I have read them just been on a work trip and I'm a bit behind. OH and I have decided to relax on these two cycles, I'm still going to temp and OPK because I need the info for my next GP meeting. But we're not using contraception. If I somehow conceive it will be an absolute miracle and I'll accept it.

10:30 ? unless you are talking about another program.

I think it's tonight on bbc?

Nicky - yes we took SAs to NHS consultant and he used them. Defo saved time.

Kwick - I see. That sounds tough but as you say, great they have been supportive so far. Good luck with appt today!

We will probably use create fertility as well for sa . I was wonderinng if you can then take the results to nhs in case you need intervention ? Or they dont accept private tests ? We can definately not afford create fertility if there is an issue just planning to do sa and then hycosy (hsg) if sperm comes out ok .
Definately not watchinng that documentary tonight i would be just moaning to dh that we should have staryed ttc right after the wedding ( i was 25!)
Good luck kwick

geeup work has been very accomodating thus far with treatments. My job is what it is - cannot really do it unless you travel. We are just about to acquire another company - hopefully something will come up with that.
I too have major scar across va-jay-jay - had a cyst and ovary removed over 20 years ago when I was 19. That SHOULD have been my wakeup call to get preggers IMMEDIATELY!!!

On my way to see new consultant at FC.

We did our SA tests at Create too. Husband didn't like the room he had to go in but otherwise it was fine. Got an email with the results later same day. Defo wouldn't trust the boots ones as don't tell you about morphology etc.

Yep he has to go and do it there. There's another test on the website saying they sometimes look at cervical fluid after sex. I wonder if you have to go and actually have sex there??!!

I wouldn't trust those home testing kits personally. It could cause a lot of heartache and worry and might not even be reliable.

Anyone used the boots sperm check you can buy off the shelf? Very mixed reviews on boots website

Does he have to do it there ?;p

Very good point geeup

mariam I booked it at Create Fertility - they have several branches. It's £95 and they get the results immediately plus advice on what to do next.

That sounds awful geeup :( !
Londonjem are you doing the sa teat privetely i was wondering how it works ? If my af arrives this month we need to book one for dh

Ps wish the worst bit of my fertility investigations had been masturbating in a cupboard instead of having a general anaesthetic and my tummy button ruined forever cut open and another scar above my pubes.

Kwick - is there anything internally that's less stressful you could do as a sabbatical maybe? Or could you ask them formally to reduce your travel? It does sounds very hard what you juggle work wise with your treatment cycles. Massive kudos to you.
London - I get that they don't like the performing under pressure bit but I really don't think it compares to what we do. And everything we do is pointless if their swimmers aren't getting where they need to go because they're a bit slow/deformed (in our case)/too few etc. If SAs weren't £90 each time, I'd have my OH doing then every month when I get AF - seems like a fair swap. And to be fair he probably would too for the data if you know what I mean.

Three times - what a pro. Think DH is nervous about doing this - I've just managed to get him an appointment today. I feel bad but I just want to make sure there isn't anything stopping us

I have worked for my present employer for 14 years. The maternity benefits are not great but I generally love working for this company. I definitely cannot do my current job either heavily pregnant or with a baby. I am hoping a new job will come up - my new main boss knows I am looking and has told me she does not want to lose me - but it will depend if something actually comes up - I not mind taking a step down I just need a job with much less travel.

Seriously. Ask me questions about stuff to try. We've literally tried everything except medical intervention (which is next but OH not keen yet...)

Yes true - we're usually in bed by 10.15! Maybe we'll do catch up too!
Londonjem - yep tried EPO for past few cycles and think it's made me a bit wetter but not not sure if more EW. I'm never sure if I'm seeing EW or just the day before's spermies (sorry tmi but we all know what that's like!). They're both kind of stretchy aren't they!
And yep OH has had his SA done 3 times (now has a hatred of "wanking in a cupboard" as he calls it). He wants to do another one soon as he's been on Proxeed for a couple of months now. (He did Fertilaid for 6 mths before that). He tends to have morphology between 1-3% which isn't great but docs think the 1% was a blip and that 3% should be enough (I'm not so confident).