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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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38 and going try for number 3 - any advice?

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orangeistheonlyfruit · 23/08/2016 14:50

Hello,

We have 2 already and with a 8 year gap to the youngest we've decided we'd love a third.

so really do I need to get the ovulation sticks? Take temperatures?! All new to this feel like there are lots of new acronyms and I've no idea what they mean lol.

Sorry if my post is a bit vague I guess we have been waiting for the right time and now we're here, and I'm like ok! Aside from the lots of shagging what else do I need to know?

:)

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EmmaWoo1605 · 27/08/2016 01:25

Orange, you know what's right for you.,.if it's not the right time for you then no point rushing it. Wish you love and luck for the future xxx

EmmaWoo1605 · 27/08/2016 01:19

3 under 5? Wow! Not much longer to wait to test for you? I'm only cd13 so long way for me yet this cycle! Best of luck! Xxx

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orangeistheonlyfruit · 26/08/2016 23:11

My two will also be at school but I was lucky getting my career back on track and enjoying having a lot of spare cash each month.

And so I've bottled it and started the pill again. I know, I know, I won't get far like this. Like because of my age it seems the pressure is on but maybe I'm just not ready.... But then I worry about not trying for a baby now and having massive regrets.

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lousylear · 26/08/2016 22:09

I'm cycle #1, cd 32, 9 dpo.

lousylear · 26/08/2016 22:05

Yes I had 2 under 2 in a house falling to pieces and a grumpy hubby. I got pnd and didn't realise til years later. Went on to have 3 under 5 as well! Now starting again with new partner I'm really excited about the future. FX for us all. Really hoping I'll know soon one way or the other.

EmmaWoo1605 · 26/08/2016 20:27

Yeah I did 2 under 2 when I was late 20's....just awful!! Omg to multiples now!! Apparently over 35 the chances of twins increases massively...yikes!!

So where are you all cycle wise? I'm just coming up to the fertile time on cycle 8...just started using the Ovia app which I've found fantastic, and have started with opks. Next af due for me around 12th sept (if she's on time this month...which she hasn't been recently!!)

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lousylear · 26/08/2016 15:24

I'm the same as you Elly. Mine are all at school. Will be nice to have a baby again. If I'm not pg this cycle I will be trying opks. I'm cd32. No sign of AF or bfp.

elly79 · 26/08/2016 14:45

Oh no don't say that!! My friend has just had her second at 37 and said the same thing.... I was 33 last time which seems like a teenageer now basically..... Although nothing can be worse than 2 under 2 and I won't be doing that again so i keep thinking it will actually be much nicer this time around having the older two at school. Almost like the first time all over again.... (ha ha!!).
My biggest (and unfounded) worry is multiple births.... I teach triplets who were a natural third pregnancy!! IMAGINE THAT!!! 1,2.....5

one in about a thousand million though i am sure.

I am in the 'waiting' part now and if i am not PG this month i will try OPK properly.

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EmmaWoo1605 · 25/08/2016 07:33

Haha I think we must be!! I ache plenty as it is without even being pregnant! What are we thinking?!! Shock

Ninasimoneinthemorning · 24/08/2016 23:31

Are you bst shit crazy??!

I'm 37 and 30 weeks and this has been my hardest pregnancy yet! Even my arms are tired. Never a fucking gain !

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orangeistheonlyfruit · 24/08/2016 23:29

Thanks Emma. I know there are magical moments ahead and why am I jumping to only see the scary unknowns! I keep bringing up the hard times with dh so he remembers what we are in for, I want him to be totally on board or not at all.

Good luck too :)

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EmmaWoo1605 · 24/08/2016 22:26

It is scary orange! I've tried to talk myself out of wanting another several times but I guess the power of Mother Nature is just too much!

Wish you, and everyone, the best of luck!

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orangeistheonlyfruit · 24/08/2016 22:12

Hi everyone. Thanks for your posts. God now it's the time to start trying I'm getting all freaked out. Doing the baby stuff again. Like I want to have another baby but at the same time - scary!

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EmmaWoo1605 · 24/08/2016 22:01

Hi elly and fuzzy..it's so easy to go from tentatively trying to full blown obsessed! I defo think using opks is worth a try...I'm gonna be trying them for the first time this cycle.

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elly79 · 24/08/2016 21:53

HI all
I am 37 and tentatively TTC no3.
I have two daughters aged 4 and 5. I used OPKs with my first and they worked - i am a scientist so loved knowing what was going on! I haven't used them yet this time but might get some for next month. I think i have prob just ovulated in the last week so not sure what may or may not have happened...... I keep telling myself i will 'just see what happens' 'no pressure' etc etc but actually quite keen for it to happen now!

FuzzyOwl · 24/08/2016 21:51

I find most apps either work for the average woman (one who has a 28 day cycle, is regular and always ovulated on day 14) or take several cycles to get to know you, but I would never rely on them.

For me, I have found ovulation sticks the best way to get pregnant and they have worked for me three times in my late thirties and hopefully will again next year when we try for our last baby.

Good luck.

EmmaWoo1605 · 24/08/2016 21:46

That's great to know pacific...there's hope for us all!

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PacificDogwod · 24/08/2016 21:32

Take folic acid and Vitamin D - those two are no recommended for all women TTC.

I had my 4 boys between 37 and 44 - never any problems conceiving, but had several MMC (before the first successful pregnant).

So, go for it. Unprotected intercourse during the middle third of your monthly cycle (provided you are relatively regular).
Fertility 'falling off a cliff' after 35 is a myth and none of us know what our fertility is like until we try to use it, whether we are 22 or 42.
Personally, OPK would drive me round the bend…

Good luck Thanks

lousylear · 24/08/2016 21:27

Yes def folic acid. I've been taking it a while now. I do not think of myself as old. I am fit and healthy, I run 3 times a week and am hardly ever ill. However I am aware that my chances of conceiving are lower than 10 years ago. Also we would really like two as there will be at least a 9 year age gap. FX for us all.

EmmaWoo1605 · 24/08/2016 21:17

Oh yes of course sleepdeprived ...folic acid is a must!
Been taking it for a year now Hmm

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EmmaWoo1605 · 24/08/2016 21:14

Hi Lousy...nice to 'meet' you too!
Orange...opks are the ovulation tests...the apps will help you to have an idea of roughly when you're due to ovulate, so if you want to use them you can start testing around the right time. I've only got them to try for the first time this cycle so will be using them for the first time next week. When you do come off the pill you'll notice the signs of ovulation too...Ewcm is a very obvious one for me (egg white cervical mucus) and I get some period like pain too.

I came off the pill middle of last year and it took a while for my cycles to even out, so if you really want a baby I wouldn't hesitate to stop taking it if I were you!!

I agree with you, I definitely don't feel like an older woman! It's really odd...you just assume that because you've had kids already you'll have no problem at all. And who knows, maybe you won't have any problems!

Us older (Hmm) ladies can do it I'm sure!!

Xxx

SleepDeprivedAndCranky · 24/08/2016 20:40

The most important thing is to start taking folic acid for at least 3 months before ttc and continue for the first few months of pregnancy as it helps prevent birth defects.

lousylear · 24/08/2016 20:35

Ovulation prediction kit. I've just ordered one off eBay in case I'm not pg. basically you poas each day from around cd10. When you get a positive line you dtd! I dtd every other day anyway but I'm going to try opks as I'm intrigued as to when I actually Ovulate.

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orangeistheonlyfruit · 24/08/2016 20:18

Thanks lousy I have downloaded that app. I need to take more notice of things evidently! Opks?

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lousylear · 24/08/2016 06:29

If you're on the pill you would probably benefit from using an app like Ovia or Fertility Friend.
I am 41, ttc for #4 (#1 with new partner). I have DD 12, DD 10, DS 8. I am doing temps and cm check as I had coil in for 6 months with no AF and no clue when I ovulate. The app helps you plot everything. I'm only on cycle #1. If I'm not pg this month I'm going to get some opks. I'm hoping it won't take me long to conceive as I'm not getting any younger.
FX for both of you.