Thread 4: Ttc without ease, loopy length cycles, post pill poas and everything in between!

So despite my post only 3 hours ago that I would wait until Saturday I had a mad moment. I found the pregnancy test that the drs gave me after my mc which I thought I'd lost so I'd used a clearblue. So I did that and got a BFN obvs. Wasn't really expecting anything else but still can't help the disappointment. Defo waiting a few more days now! DP said to me yesterday not to test until after af due (think he's worried how I'll take a BFN after mc) so I didn't tell him I'd done it and then went and left the pot in the loo!!! Idiot! So he came in bedroom like "you've left your piss pot on the side...." 🙈oops.

Loula I admire your self control with testing! Fx for you, really hope this is your month.

I am trying soy isoflavones this cycle as they are supposed to help you have a stronger and earlier ovulation. Im not holding my breath but curious to see what happens.

bobo my poas stalker. It has been too long where are you at in your cycle? How do you get your emojis to work on here? I need to have a proper catch up on here when I have a spare ten minutes and figure out where everyone is X

I think I am leaving it so late because I know deep down AF is going to show up! I am on cd 34 and last month was 33 day cycle and one month before that was 36...I just don't want to see another bfn .

Glad I have a testing partner jj!!

I'll be testing Saturday or Sunday I think if no af before then but going to see how I feel as I don't really know what's happening this cycle. We might be testing together! Fx for you!

Hey gals how are we all? Anyone testing this week? Nice to have you back johno .

I am still waiting patiently for AF to show up! Due today. If not here by Saturday I think I'll test then. I have sore boobs and also had a headache today which I usually get before AF, but I've read people get most AF symptoms before their BFP also? Trying not to lose hope haha.

I also had a dream last night that I got a BFP too! I really hope it comes true xx

Welcome back johno! Glad cold turkey is going good for you and you had a nice chill out!

Lol I only use the clearblue digitals and stocked up last time they were on offer so have 4 on stand by. I think if I had cheap ones I'd drive myself crazy testing far too much and too early so at least the cost works at keeping me sane!

You never know, Jj, once is all it takes sometimes so it could be... Fx for you anyway and if not then, as you say, at least you know what your body is up to and you can get back to trying.

I plan to test next Thursday or Friday if AF doesn't show so will be a similar time to you. Just want to hold out as long as I can. DH saw the cost of FRERs when we were in Superdrug the other day and he was in shock. Good job he didn't see the CB Digitals!

Glad you had a great holiday Johno! And glad you're enjoying your cold turkey cycle. Fx it does the trick for you! x

Hi ladies. I'm back from an amazing holiday and still managing my cold turkey cycle. On cd19 now and had ewcm and cramps the last couple of days. I was so nervous about not doing opk's and bbt but it's been such a nice change to just go by what my body is doing rather than testing everything.

Good luck to those in the tww, those having tests done and hi to all the newbies X

Yes highhopes could be... but I think everything can be a bit crazy first cycle after mc anyway so who knows what might happen for us this month unfortunately.

Hey sarah ooh we will probably be testing around the same time then if no af! I also ovd around cd 15, cd25 today and 29 day cycle before so I will test on the weekend if nothing by then. I highly doubt I caught it though as only dtd once over ovulation, mainly I'm just waiting for af so I can get back to trying properly and knowing what my body is doing as all a bit limbo at the moment. Fx for you, that would a lovely surprise if you had a bambino to take with you!

Hi Jj! I'm on cd22 at the moment, thanks for asking. Think I ov'd around cd14 or 15 due to cramps. Had some cramping yesterday and the day before as well but not really any other symptoms so just seeing what happens and continuing to dtd every other day.

Last cycle AF showed on the 29th day so my plan is to see if she rears her head and only test if she's not here by cd31. Fx I can make myself wait if that's the case! Just don't want to be setting myself up for any disappointment by testing early and then AF showing. Also, can't afford all the tests!

Trying to be really chilled about it because if we don't conceive this cycle or next cycle we have to take a break from ttc until about February as we have a family trip planned next September for my parents' 40th wedding anniversary and we wouldn't want to be taking a super new baby or be going while I was 9 months pregnant! So just want to stay as unstressed as possible in the hope that I'll conceive now and we'll be able to tell my parents we'll be bringing their first grandchild along!

How have you been doing? Been lurking on the thread but fairly irregularly so don't think I've been seeing every post. xx

Yeah I did tests every week and only got a negative last Monday (4 weeks after m/c) don't think I've ovulated yet so could be a few more weeks till AF I guess?
No I know what you mean x

Yeah definately good to get it checked out and without this coming across wrong at least you'll be able to get it checked out now rather than months down the road if something is amiss. Hope that doesn't come across cold as obviously you would have rather not needed to have the scan. I'm sure you'll be fine though x. My mc was only 3 weeks ago so nothing yet, cd24 today counting from first day of bleeding. It's crap isn't it not knowing what's going on as this cycle could be longer or shorter than usual. I think if you still had pregnancy hormones in your system for a while after you wouldn't ovulate though so it could be longer because of that delayed ovulation? Did you do tests after and when did you get bfn?

Thanks Pie & Jj hopefully it's nothing but will be nice to get it checked out anyway. My gp asked if I had irregular cycles as that can be another sign of pcos but I don't remember my cycles pre the pill (I went on it at 16!)
Still no sign of AF and m/c was 5 weeks ago - have you had yours get Jjspoon?

Trying to catch up! Where is everyone, who's next to test?

Sorry for af cookie but good about the longer lp, fx for next month as that's definately much better.

Sorry af got you too claire

sarah where are you in your cycle? Sorry if you've recently said but I can't skip through pages on my phone without losing my post, so annoying!

loula sounding good for you! There's no way I could wait until the weekend, you must be a chilled lady lol.

highhopes well done for only having one boosy night since mc, I've been making the most of it again haha, think I need to stop again now though and start getting back in the zone. Boo. Fx everything is OK for you at the scan, like *piehunter said I'm sure that it's nothing to worry about and lots of people have them without it being a bad thing.

cookie my appt is next Monday, 6 months after first asking for referral, so not the longest I've waited for a consultant appt! It does seem to be tricky to get an ex-lap on NHS without waiting years.. May be easier if you manage to get referred to the right people- endo specialist?- but it's tough to find them in the first place to know who to ask to be referred to!

highhopes I had a very "cystic" right ovary on my last CT scan (for other abdo issues) but my understanding is that Cysts alone don't always indicate pcos and normally don't affect fertility, they're normal at certain points in cycle? That was what bowel Dr told me but I do mean to follow up with gp to make sure they don't need re-checking? The joys of the female body

Morning all, I had my first boozy night out since my miscarriage on Fri so my weekend was a write off!
Also got my ultrasound appointment for next Monday - when they confirmed my miscarriage they said they could see cysts on my ovaries so suspected PCOS - does anyone else on this thread have that??

Would love to see resident preggo's new baby photos when they arrive- Who will be the first??

Thanks Piehunter, it's all so slow isn't it?! It's now officially a year since I came off the pill so I don't feel as bad about the wee white lie now! Has your appointment came through yet? I visited my friend on Friday who had endometriosis (which I believe I could possibly have as our symptoms are identical!). She has given me details of her private doctor as her initial tests came back clear and it wasn't until her private laparoscopy that the endo was detected. It was £500 but, 2 kids later, worth every penny in her mind! Xx

Aspirin is normally advised if you have a history of recurrent miscarriages or have a blood disorder, I inject a blood thinner twice a day as I have an autoimmune blood disorder and after my appt with obstetric haematology next week I expect to be advised to take a baby aspirin too. There are lots of articles about aspirin being the magic fix for recurrent miscarriages but best to do it under the advise of a Dr.

luci 7 days off pill with no symptoms sounds like a good start, mine kicked in by day 3 and the fact you have had some spotting shows that the hormone levels are coming down.

cookie think telling them a couple of extra months when NHS is sooo slow is totally reasonable! I've been waiting since March for my specialist haematology appt and i expected to have to wait longer tbh!

Hope your ultrasound gives some useful answers :)

Thanks ladies, I'm feeling ok because I know I've got my gp appointment next mon anyways. I just know, deep down, that something isn't right so hopefully I'll get some answers from the ultrasound results!

Good luck Lou, all our hopes rest on you this week now lol. Your symptoms sound promising!

Marmite, definitely stay here Mrs. Sorry to hear you're feeling sicky but it must also feel strangely reassuring to know you have pregnancy symptoms so early on. Hope the bridesmaid shopping (and train journey) goes without a hitch!

Aw thanks Bobo hun. Any sign of ov yet? Are you doing OPKs or is it another cold turkey? We're so close together in terms of months trying but I think you might be a month behind! We're still the OAP's of this thread though well to be honest I actually told a wee white lie to my gp as I couldn't face waiting a year for tests when I had those ov pains. I initially visited in March and said I'd came off the pill last April (when it was in fact last Aug ). That got the ball rolling though as everything is just so sloooow! So now they think I've been trying for 16 months oh well, I'm sure others have done much worse than my fibs!! Feeling nervous about my ultrasound results but looking forward to hopefully having some answers/treatment xx

Good morning marmite . I hope your sickness doesn't get too bad! I wouldn't be able to keep it from my mum, I have decided I will tell her and DH parents and that's it until I am past my 12 weeks (when it happens!). I mainly want them to know in case anything does go wrong then I have them for support.

I have sore boobs which I always get before AF anyway but is usually break out in loads of spots and I haven't so far which is making me think maybe I am just late? What do you think?

I am going to try and hold out testing until the weekend. I don't have any ics and only the free ones so don't want to waste any!!

Yes please do stay on this thread marmite! It will be so lovely to hear your stories and progression and symptoms! xx

That's a good sign lou, that's a bit what I was like last week. Was suddenly like, oh I could probably do an IC just to see, I'd forgotten I was at this stage....Oh!! Fx for you. Are you going to try and hold out testing another day or so or gonna poas?! have you got any other symptoms?

Sorry for AF cookie and claire

I think I may be approaching the sicky phase...

I hope you guys don't mind me hanging out here still, it's such early days yet, I feel like I still belong on this side of things. Just taking each day as it comes. Going home at the weekend to see parents and for this bridesmaid dress shopping trip... I'm not sure I'm going to be able to keep it from my mum and dad with the no drinking and if this gagging and queasiness continues!! Also slightly concerned by prospect of sitting on train for 4 hours to get there. Have ordered some sick bags on Amazon this morning