Thread 17 TTC#1 Follow the fallopian road ~~~○

Hep (kinda want to call you Kez now!) I think you should lurk and de-lurk as much as you want.

Pleased to hear your head is in a slightly better place and I hope the GP is useful and gets the AF ball rolling.

Welcome Art I was on the patch which is basically the same just in, well, patch form. I had a bleed and then AF 28 days later. Good luck!

DH is doing bloody well this month, jizz every other day. Yesterday he said he wasn't in the mood, was a bit stroppy, so I was a bit ott in saying "oh no worries, let's leave it, no point trying when you're not in the mood, doesn't matter in the slightest" etc etc, thought he would clock it, but came back into the room 2min later and he was, ahem, ready to go. As if reverse psychology actually works.

Hi art start taking folic acid ( if your not already). I started my periods pretty much straight away, but it can take up to 6 months.

All rants and crazy talk welcome here!

Hi ladies,

Can I join in? Have been having a read and you seem like such a nice, supportive bunch...

I'm Art, 33, and today I took my final pill! I have a vague memory of my periods being fairly regular, so perhaps my first real period will be due on something like the 12th Sept? That said, I have no idea what might happen post pill to my cycle! Did anyone here have problems once they stopped taking the pill? Thanks all!

Hi all,
Congrats live and Marmite!

(OK. Failed to go cold turkey leaving this group( too much awesomeness)).
Thanks for all the good wishes. My head is in a better place this week. Hope you don't mind me popping in to say hi.

No news to tell you, other than no AF and next GP appt booked.

Starky thanks for sharing the news that is awesome. Please pass on my congrats! Has she shared a pic, I might have to have a nose.. Glad all going well with you.

Lovely I get positive opks every month shag shag shag and nothing for 8 cycles - so yes it could be we are both just unlucky. I'm getting blood test done when next period comes to look into pcos possibility too.

Was meant to have no booze this TWW - been out for dinner two nights in a row with old colleagues and had at least two glasses of wine each night

Jem I did for a couple of months and always got positives around the right time. Maybe I am still ovulating and just really unlucky I'm not pg yet??

We thought DH was having his test today, but no! Doctor said you just do the sample and turn up, luckily we called ahead and it turns out you have to book in. Very next available appointment is the end of September!!!!

Hello again Starky! Hope everything is going super with you and wolf cub.

I'm heeeeeere! Sorry! I've been dreadfully amiss with posting! Don't test early! It is a foul mistress of despair and unrest amd stress! Wait till you're actually late!

CONGRATULATIONS MARMITE AND LIVE Woohoooooo! 📯👑🎊🎂🎁🎉💐 there will now be a glut of bfp's! It is decreed!

Need to do a proper catch up on the thread!

(Being a not my news sharer here and sorry for the baby bomb but if anyone remembers Bunch, she had her baby yesterday. She was the first of the first on the first thread to get a bfp!)

Lovely do you get positive OPK tests at about the right time each month too?

I'm worried I might have it too, but like you I have regular periods.

miw that sounds really lovely, good for your soul too :)

Live this is possibly not helpful, but here's what I learned from my failed pg:

1. POAS every day is a waste of money. HCG levels are sketchy as hell, and may show pregnancy for up to three weeks after a miscarriage, so by all means do it if you find it reassuring, but it doesn't mean anything.
2. Bleeding and intense pain are the only suspect symptoms - mild twinges are normal - but even bleeding is not conclusive as it is common and doesn't always mean bad news.
3. Early scans are a good thing in my opinion. I had my first at week 7 and was then prepared for the worst - even with all other normal symptoms and tests remaining positive - there was no baby and only the scans confirmed that. Having the early scans saved me 5 weeks of blissfully thinking I was pg when I wasn't really.
4. Try to see positive tests as an early warning that you could be pregnant - like 75% pregnant if that makes sense. Carry on living your life as normal, just don't smoke or get wasted (and take your folic acid). Nothing else you do will have an impact at this stage - people still manage to make babies in warzones, or in famine, whilst training for Olympics etc and sometimes pregnancies don't work out no matter what you do.

We are all rooting for you, and here if you need to vent/rant/ask silly questions love!

Thank you Pug, it was just such a shock yesterday when I found out! I'm sorry AF is mucking you about again. Do yo take any pills or meds for PCOS?

Kwick I have zero symptoms. Clockwork 28 day periods, size 8, no extra body hair, sleep is my favourite thing ever, I'm naughty and wear my contact lenses all the time so no dry eyes...Gah! I was diagnosed via an external ultrasound, no getting to giggle at the dildo I'm afraid.

I had 21 day bloods last cycle and was told they were "normal" but I don't know what they were looking for. I had more blood taken yesterday which will be discussed with the doctor next Tuesday but I've no idea what they were taken for! Hormones I guess? I'll have a lot of questions to ask, better prepare a list!

Sounds like progress alice keep us posted. You are down for the 24th

kwick I don't watch it, I'm completely addicted to the olympics atm

Morning miw that sounds like such a nice day! Enjoy.

I've got a full on day at work, am really stressed out about my budget and over spending at the moment. Spreadsheets are not my friend. I'm having anxiety dreams about it now - last night I had to move to Australia with work. It was awful

In better news this is probably one of the calmest TWW I've had. I have thought about it and googled a bit but not the usual hysterical roller coaster.

marmite could you tell your friend you are trying for a baby and if you fall pregnant quickly you could be heavily pregnant at the wedding?

If not I would tell her. Do you know what kind of dress she is thinking about and can you research maternity options?

Morning all ....hope all ok with everyone. After a few crap days at home have tried to fill my days which has made the day go faster as The TWW really takes its tole on me. Today though have a good day planned. Have a day with a super cool nine year old. I do respite care for a family but it's not s job it's just a real treat. So here's today a day of swimming and lunch out and the park. Bliss.

marmite even to week 7 I was POAS every week if not more it was very reassuring
Hopefully dresses will be lycra stretchy or kaftan stylie? I would only say anything if confidentiality is assured

jem I love that idea for kwick !!!

Are any if you watching My Kitchen Rules Australia? Boy is it getting brutal!

What the? I have a few days away from here and we get two BFPs!! Huge congratulations live and marmite We needed those, it's been too long.

lovely Sorry to hear about the pcos I know most women conceive with it, hopefully now you can get the treatment and then get the BFP.

Put me down for the 24th Jem.

The dildo cam was inconclusive, the fibroid "is probably causing the bleeding"? They want to rescan in 6 weeks. No idea why. GP said that if I'm not pregnant when I come for the results of the scan we can start testing.

Onwards and upwards people!

live no need to be sorry for feeling scared, I'd imagine the early weeks of pregnancy are terrifying. Talk about it all you need to. Are you still POAS? I think a scan is a good idea and hope that it reassures you.

pug how frustrating hope you aren't waiting much longer

kwicks cake could be for TWW best practise? Diet and warm toes etc? I still think awards for waiting to test are a good thing

Such a tough one marmite think you will need to go with your gut on this one. If she is wanting to buy the dresses this weekend you might need to tell her and just explain how sensitive, early confidential it is etc.

Had a glass of tonight and feeling guilty

Thanks for all the replies guys. She is an old friend, but not overly close, we don't share a lot if that makes sense. I think if it was one of my other very close friends I would tell them. I also don't know the other bridesmaids at all. The plan is to actually buy the dresses this weekend if possible as we all live all over the place so coming together in one place this weekend for the shopping trip. Hhmm I am still very undecided! I think if I do go home I will tell my parents now, as worrying about keeping it a secret from them is stressful in itself. Just need to figure out the bridesmaid bit

Awh I can imagine live. I too am really worried everytime I go for a wee I'll see blood. I am still poas almost every day at the moment too probably need to start curbing that habit! I have loads of ICs so figure I may as well use some up though.

I like the sound of Kwick cake!

That is the spirit fxskip!

I love that jem!!! I actually made a cake last week... Was a slight disaster due to "challengette" with baking powder but I may have another go tonight as the recipe is so easy (all based around a small yoghurt pot).
What will I award cakes for though? I am the worst for doing loads of POAS... Do not think I ever got a starky ....

lovely sorry to hear about PCOS. I have this too - as do so many women. You can defo still get upduffed. Now that I think about it this has never come up as an issue at my clinic.
How did they diagnose you?
Some people have lots of cysts, others have cysts and symptoms - oui c'est moi!
If you are symptomless you are lucky - here are mine:

• huge weight gain (size 10 to size 20) ok I may be a bit of a pig too
• lovely dark hair growth on chin, boobage and upper lip

• dry eye syndrome

So I am all stocked up on meds (DHEA, 5mg folic acid, thyroxine) and today is my last day on Norethisterone and then hopefully will get AF in time for booked baseline scan next Monday. Trying to keep cray-cray at bay...

Tricky one marmite, I'd be inclined to pull a sickie, then once you're a little further along let her know, though as penguin says if it's a close friend you could just tell her straight.

Not great tbh, I know I should be jumping for joy and grateful for the bfp, but I'm already terrified that something will go wrong again and am overanalysing every twinge. I emailed the midwife unit today to see if I can get an early scan, but I'm not sure that would really help settle me. Every time I wee I'm scared to look down in case I'm bleeding 😕

Cd49 today. Urghhhhh! Never have i wanted AF to rear her ugly head so much! Did a test at the weekend just in case and was bfn.

lovely I have pcos if you need to talk about it. As others have said, plenty of women get pregnant with pcos and at least now you know, you can get appropriate treatment/advice. Have you had any blood tests to look at hormone levels?

kwick good to see you.

Marmite would you really not consider telling them the truth? I know it's unusual, but if it's a close enough friend for you to be BM, and your family, it could be an option?

Obviously a very personal decision for you but don't write it off straightaway - you could have a lovely weekend of double celebrations with people you love :)

Marmite if it's just looking at dresses now could you write down the names of the contenders and Google them later to see if they do a maternity fit? Many people work right up until their due date so I'm sure it's possible to be a bridesmaid, however you never know exactly when they're going to make an appearance so DH may need to stay sober with the baby bag packed and ready to go! Is there anyway you can go to only part of the dress visiting and dinner plans? Again you could claim illness and say you want to show up but not be there all the time and end up being worn out?

marmite that's a proper condundrum. I'd definitely claim too ill to go, but what to do about the dress! Leave it too late and you're right, she'll be mad that you didn't tell her ns she didn't have time to get a replacement bridesmaid. 2 weeks either side of due date is defo risky for commitments, so I'd suggest you drop out of bridesmaiding. But there is no way you can get out of it without telling her some horrendous lie or the truth - both are not ideal! Can you get out of the wedding by saying you've won a once in a lifetime trip to somewhere amazing and it has to be then?!

Sorry to hear that lovely, hopefully now that they've pinpointed something, you'll know what's what and find a way around it

I wouldn't go marmite and would just claim sickness for now - it all sounds a bit complicated, especially if you're starting to feel a bit rough already - the last thing I'd want are questions I'm not ready to answer!

Marmite don't go. Claim flu / awful sickness and you can't leave the bathroom let alone get on a train. If you aren't ready to tell them and it's going to be obvious then I would stay away until you are.

Period is not due for another week so no sign of it. I get PMS for the whole TWW - just subtle signs of the increased progesterone like mood swings, sugar craving, tiredness, sometimes breast pain. But this happens regardless of whether you get a bfp or not - you aren't actually pregnant until it implants and hcg starts up. It's in the laps of the gods.