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TTC No. 3

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greedyforbabies · 18/01/2007 12:01

hello! have been ttc no.3 since last april now. ds took about 3 or 4 cycles to concieve and dd 1 cycle, so i am finding this hard to get my head round!

the main reason for starting this thread, if anyone is interested, is that sometimes i feel really bad chatting on the other threads about age gap concerns, how i will cope with another one etc....when lots of other 'posters' are ttc no.1.

it makes me feel a bit guilty going on about no.3 when some other MNers have such tragic stories.

anyway, i know there are a few of you out there also ttc no.3. Do you all have big houses and cars?

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greedyforbabies · 26/01/2007 20:08

did that sound a bit cocky?! sorry, it did didn't it! wasn't meant to at all obviously.

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greedyforbabies · 26/01/2007 20:07

thanks mum03! sorry about the whole march thing! i genuinely didnt think i had a hope in hell of getting a BFP this month! i still can't quite believe it!
guess i will have to start a 'pg with no.3 thread' and wait for you all to join me soon. (please!)

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mum03 · 26/01/2007 18:47

Greedy - how could you, I thought you were going to wait for me in March to conceive.... oh well....
No seriously congratulations on getting your bfp and being pg with no.3, (or 3 AND 4 - with your dh's "rambo" sperm, you never know!!!)
I hope I will join you soon with a bfp.

honeyapple · 25/01/2007 09:43

hi fruitful and everyone else TTC no.3.
Well, I reckon I'm going to wait until i actually get PG before I talk too much about the birth!
Toddlers are great as are 4 yr old and 5 yr olds and 6yr olds and 7 yr olds and 8 yr olds... havent got any further... but, I love babies! I loved being PG, I loved B/fing... of course it's sh*t too- no sleep, cant booze or go out at all (or only for 4 hrs before baby needs a feed) etc..
I agree about seeing places that need filling around the table. My DC are quite spread in age so I dont have such a problem giving them equal attention- tend to put DD to bed and then do something with DS on his own- play cards/ read a book.. I do think it will be difficult to continue all this with a baby, but heh, bring it on!

fruitful · 24/01/2007 21:49

I think I'll just take what I get this time. No time or energy for any planning!

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greedyforbabies · 24/01/2007 21:39

fruitful - i am sure that will work cos i planned a waterbirth for my first and then left it too late and was practically giving birth in the car so couldn't have one. BUT second time i planned a home birth and was ill, so had to go into hospital but ended up having the water birth i wanted first time round!!!!!

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fruitful · 24/01/2007 21:35

Honeyapple, I could happily skip the baby stage and go straight to about 18 months. In fact I'd like to skip pregnancy, and the cs that I'll have to have, and the whole nipple-biting no-sleep separation-anxiety bit. Toddlers rock. And 4-yr-olds are great too. Beyond that, I have no experience! Mostly I think I'm mad to want more kids, and then I look at my family at dinnertime and just know that there are unfilled places at the table.

GfB - I've planned homebirths for both mine, and had caeseareans. A little part of me thinks that if I plan a cs this time, well, I might just get [whispers] a homebirth ...

Goodasgold · 24/01/2007 21:25

Greedy try a hb its fab. (Goodasgold is a Homebirth Evangelist I know)
You will always find the time and money-remember what its like with one new born and you think how the hell I am going to manage to... and then you just do.
Well lets take one baby at a time.

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greedyforbabies · 24/01/2007 20:39

i worry about that too goingfor3. how can you possibly spread yourself around lots of kids!....i find it tough giving 2 of them enough time and attention sometimes! ( especially now i have discovered MN!!!!!!)
i was supposed to have a home birth for no.2, but it didnt happen cos i had gastroenteritis just before going into labour. i have now changed my mind though and i dont think i would like one next time!

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goingfor3 · 24/01/2007 10:53

I think I will always be broody but I know that if we have more than three all of the children will miss out on our time and on activities.

honeyapple · 24/01/2007 09:52

I think i am addicted to babies...then they grow up and the relationship you have changes and matures... I think there is something incredibly amazing about the relationship you have with a newborn/young baby... that is what I crave!!! Not that i don't love my two growing up- I do it's great- but it's just different.

I would love to have a home birth for no. 3.

Goodasgold · 23/01/2007 22:03

I think its a little bit addictive to have babies, I mean they are really sweet and then everybody you know surprises you with cards and gifts and love.
And when you have a growing family you know that they change and the hardest bits don't last forever...just that love.
So yes I'd like to be back for four. I know a women with 7 who is addicted to babies, not even Catholic.

jersey · 23/01/2007 20:31

Hi, I thought my 2nd delivery would be easier as I had an induction early due to preclampsia on my first. It was until DS2 decide he wanted to look up instead of down and got stuck. Ended up in theatre with a spinal block while they tried to turn him with forceps. I am wondering if 3rd time (when I get that far!!) will be 3rd time unlucky as I have been about to have emergency c-sections twice now and I will probably have to have one this time!!

It was the tiredness afterwards which got to me as DS1 started on terrible 2's tantrums just before DS2's birth and added jealousy to it afterwards for the first couple of weeks.

goingfor3 · 23/01/2007 17:40

It's fuuny to see so many already planning number four. I don't think I will have four unless I have twins this time! DP is going to be away for a couple of days midweek next week which will be during ovualtion. It's quite annoying but I am thankful he still has a job after the redundancies that were made yesterday!

Mog · 23/01/2007 17:32

I was quite fit and really enjoyed being pregnant. Even had a home birth with no.3. The hardest thing was having 3 of three and under - not so much tiredness as the stress of it. Never a minute to yourself. I suppose the third pregnancy was harder because there isn't the opportunity to rest.

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greedyforbabies · 23/01/2007 17:29

wow mog! thats great! i still have time for another 3!.....not sure i have the energy though!

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McDreamy · 23/01/2007 17:17

Did you find each pregnancy harder than the previous Mog? I will be 36 next month!

Mog · 23/01/2007 17:16

Haven't read the whole thread but to encourage you 'older' mums, I had dd at 37, ds1 at 39 and ds2 at 41!

McDreamy · 23/01/2007 17:12

I don't know how I did that but DS was July 05 (not 03) and DD was Feb 03! D'oh

McDreamy · 23/01/2007 17:11

My DS was also born in July 03! DH is off to Afghanistan tomorrow for 9 weeks - when he gets back we are going to try for number 3. DD is 4 next month

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greedyforbabies · 23/01/2007 17:10

also...when i say i am 'planning' on concieving i really mean 'hoping to'. we have been ttc since april 06, but i just KNOW it will happen soon! (it has to!)

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greedyforbabies · 23/01/2007 17:09

ok then mum03 - lets do this TOGETHER!!!! i am planning on concieving in march! how about you? obviously i would love to concieve in feb, but my cycle is too long so it will have to be march! i wont hold it against you if you concieve in feb!

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mum03 · 23/01/2007 15:05

greedy that is scarey spooky, my ds was born july 03 too!!!! but my dd was born in november 04 (only 15 months between them!) We'll have to stick together and both get our 4!

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greedyforbabies · 23/01/2007 13:45

mum03 i have a 3 year old ds and a 2 year old dd! mine were july 03 and jan 05, how about you?
i will be coming back for no.4 goodasgold!....i think so anyway!....depends how long no.3 takes i guess!

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Goodasgold · 22/01/2007 21:26

Also ttc no3, but still bfing no2. Have been hoping ever since she was to born that I was pg and have done a silly amount of tests.
dd2 is now 10 months and very sweet.
I work 20 hours a week and would like to continue in my job. I don't get any help with childcare so dd2 goes to nursery. dd1 is at school. 2 dc at nursery would mean I would be working to break even or at a loss, but I think it would be worth it to keep my lovely job open for when they are all at school.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who does not have a big house/car.
Good luck to all, who's coming back for no4 (or no5?)